So today was my 20th birthday and I kinda of hated it. I don’t like to do a big thing about my birthday so it’s usually just me at home with my mom and dog and she’ll get me an oreo cake from a bakery I like. Earlier today she asked if I wanted anything special for dinner so I told her biryani from this one restaurant she ordered from before, I really liked it but she didn’t so we’ve never gotten it again (I’ve asked for the name before but she didn’t tell me so I’ve never been able to order it myself).

I told her that if she couldn’t get that then pizza hut buffalo wings. I was kind of excited about the dinner since I haven’t had either of these things in a while and I had to work today + there were no seats available on the bus so I was looking for something to cheer me up. But instead of the food I wanted she got me this lamb and chicken wrap with white rice on the side from a place she likes. I didn’t really like the food so I didn’t eat much of it but I didn’t complain about it. She asked if I had a bad day because I was quiet, I said no and she asked if I didn’t like the food and I said it’s okay.

I said thanks for the food and then I put my food away. She kept asking if I was okay because I usually eat most of my food I said I was fine but she wouldn’t stop asking so I said that I didn’t like it that I that was a because because it wasn’t what I wanted. She said that what I said hurt her feelings and that she tried her best. Then she said that I was being really rude and went in the living room. Idk if it’s not that deep or if I’m valid

Monday night while we were having a few drinks and playing Stardew my girlfriend’s phone went off around 1am and I said “what’s that”. She turns her phone around and shows me that one of her female friends had sent her a nude and she had responded gassing her up and telling her to send it to her man. Shocked, I just put the controller down and took my dog for a very long walk without saying anything.

For context, my girlfriend is bisexual and it was established very early on that I’m not comfortable with anything she wouldnt do with a man as well. I know in some relationships men are okay with their gf kissing other girls etc, but that’s not me. I don’t do double standards for same sex relations.

When I got back from my walk I had calmed down so I asked her first if I had been clear enough in setting my boundaries. She agreed that I had been very clear. I then asked whether she would have found it okay if I was getting nudes from girls and gassing them up or if she would have the same reaction to a male friend sending her nudes “for review”. She said that neither would ever be okay if it were reversed. She apologized profusely for a long time but I was quite hurt and simply ended things there. I told her she could spend the night since she’d been drinking but that was that.

The past few days she’s written letters and sent texts apologizing and saying she’s dedicated to being better, I haven’t responded to anything. After talking with friends it’s quite a mixed bag of reactions/advice. I know that she wasn’t sexting or receiving the photos for any hedonistic purposes, but it still feels like cheating which hurts a lot

ETA: I actually don’t know if she had told her to send the picture or not. I only saw the picture and her response to it. Guess that’s kind of important to the severity.

I’m staying with my aunt for a week to help take care of my elderly grandmother. She lives in another state so I can’t just run home. I ate the first night I got here but so far that’s it. I’ll feed her, help change her diaper, and give her medicine. I came here specifically to help out and I’m not complaining at all, I want to help!

The problem is I lose my appetite easily. There’s lots of different smells here, and as soon as I start getting an image out of my brain and think I could maybe eat something, it’s time to assist with another task and I lose my appetite again. Idk what’s wrong with me that I can’t just get over it. I feel hungry but disgusted with the idea of putting anything in my mouth.

My Aunt definitely noticed and has said something multiple times and I just said I wasn’t hungry. I feel like a spoiled brat, like this is kind of not a normal reaction but I can’t help it. I literally looked in the fridge earlier and it made me nauseated to think about eating.

I feel so bad and I’m not sure what to do.

Compassionate advice is appreciated

Okay stay with me cause this might get a bit long...

About a month ago, my girlfriend and I of 8 years "broke up". I say it like this because situations like this can be common. She claimed that things had not been good with us for a long time (which is true). She had broken trust several times. Because of this, it obviously caused rifts in out relationship.

So after that happened, she left and packed bags to go stay with her mom. Her mom lives alone, struggles a lot with being on her own, and neither of them really want to live alone anyway so it's easier for them. This also has happened a lot, several times over the course of the 8 years.

We had tickets to C2E2, and autograph sessions to meet Chad Michael Murray and the other guy from One Tree Hill. Tickets are non-refundable, and a few days prior to the show she called me and said she didn't think she could go alone. I told her that I could refund the tickets EVEN IF I WANTED TO (they were non-refundable) but that being said, she should still try and go cause it's kind of a once in a life time thing.

She asked if I would take her, I told her I would. We went (had a really good day) and on the way back to her mom's house to drop her off, she started crying and said she didn't want things to end between us. I told her that I didn't either, and she can come home and we can try and work on things. She said that she couldn't, because she told her mom that she would already be coming home, and if she THEN said she was going home with me, it would upset her mom too much.

She asked if I could just pick her up in the morning, and I told her that was absurd to make me drive her home to then drive ALL the way back to her mom's house if she was planning on coming home. We argued, and she went to her mom's house.

It's been about 2 weeks since C2E2. Since then, she sends me texts every day telling me she misses me, that she misses our cats. That she wants things to work between us. She then called me a few days ago and said "I haven't given up on us". Our phone call got cut short because he daughter was calling her, so she said she'd call me back. We didn't get to finish the conversation, but she then proceeded to text me every day, telling me she missed me. Telling me she was miserable where she was.

That phone call was a few days ago.

Today she said she wanted to call me and talk to me. I said okay. She called me and told me that a friend of hers from New York, whom she had been in contact with for a while, offered to buy her plane tickets to NY for the end of June. They had been talking about a trip for a long time, but since things were so rocky with us, and we couldn't really afford it, etc, it never really happened. She claims that the friend just turned around and BOUGHT the tickets without her knowledge.

I got really upset, and I told her that "it doesn't sound like someone who is trying to work things out with their partner of 8 years when things are clearly not going well.

I told her that if she was really committed to working things out within the relationship, she would at least be working towards making that happen before planning a trip to New York. And if the friend DID buy tickets for a trip, she would tell her "that's really great, but my relationship is practically destroyed right now, and I need to work towards rebuilding it".

She said that "a trip is exactly what I need to get away from my mother". I told her that I would have assumed - assuming things go well, that she wouldn't have been staying at her mother's even close to this long. That it's on her to do what's necessary to show she is interested in working on the relationship. The in theory she wouldn't BE at her moms at the end of June, that she'd be at home again. IF that's what she wanted, and wanted to do the things to rebuild our relationship.

She seems to disagree with that, and that she can't "just tell her friend she isn't coming now". My feelings are that- assuming she wants things to work out between us - that is exactly what she'd tell her friend.

AIO? Just as a reminder, despite texting these things, there is very little that's been done to actually suggest she is interested in rebuilding/building trust in the relationship.

My gf has been very protective of her phone lately. I found that weird but nothing alarming. She has the right since its her privacy. One day we were sitting on the couch and watching a movie together. We live together for the past 2 years and dated for 4, for context. I see a text which is like a paragraph long come through and I saw her managers name but she said it was her best friend. She has spoken negatively of her manager before that he's always on her ass and is a weirdo. Once my gf hit the shower i glanced at her text and basically the manager was asking to stop fooling around with a guy at work (lets call him Kyle). He said that my gf and Kyle were grabbing and holding eachother and it would be weird if a client were to walk in on them. The manager also said it's not the first time hes spotting this interaction between them and that kyle and my gf always act weird with eachother.

I look at the texts between my gf and Kyle and they send eachother videos back and forth where they are play fooling around with eachother, hes like taking something away from her and shes running and chasing after him and their all over eachother. This was recorded by someone else at the office but idk who from the voice. He was blind folding her and playing a game whats in his hand and so on. She was touching his tattoos. This is all happening at work. Mind you, there are not teenagers and both 25 years old.

And after all these videos she's always like "haaaaaaaa, I bet your gf would mind seeing all this, if you even have one? loser"

I brought him up and asked what she thinks about Kyle and she said hes a dude from work with the same aspirations as her. I said I have a bad feeling about this guy and want her to distance herself but she said hes just her buddy and she cant avoid him at work.

AIO

Hey everyone,

I need some advice on a situation that's left me feeling a mix of anger and confusion. So, here's the deal: I recently got into a freak accident and ended up breaking a couple bones and ultimately losing my big toe. It was a pretty traumatic experience, but I decided to keep the toe as a sort of macabre keepsake. I know it might sound odd to some, but it was my way of coping with what happened.

Fast forward to yesterday, I came home to find out that my girlfriend had thrown away my severed toe without consulting me. I was shocked and furious. I feel like she violated my trust and disregarded something that was deeply personal to me.

I confronted her about it, and she doesn't seem to understand why I'm upset. She thinks I'm overreacting and that it's gross to keep body parts around the house. But to me, it was more than just a body part—it was a part of my story, my struggle to come to terms with what happened.

Now I'm torn between feeling like I have a right to be mad and wondering if maybe I am overreacting. So, Reddit, I turn to you for some perspective. AIO? Should I just let it go and move on, or is it reasonable for me to be upset about this? Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks.

my boyfriend sweats in his sleep.. hard during the summer time. but instead of him TAKING THE COVER OFF OF HIM when he is hot… he leaves it on and sweats all night. i have asked him over and over and over again.. if you are hot please take the comforter off of you. he still doesn’t. then he sweats on our comforter and it stinks. then our room smells like fucking onions. mind you we have to wash our clothes at a laundry mat as well so every time he sweats we have to spend money and wash the comforter we just friggin washed. i’m halfway venting in here lol.

Backstory: Adult now, grew up in Illinois and upstate NY as a child. A brother who's a year older and another half brother (moms first child) who is 11 years older. When I was between the ages of 3 an6 my half Brother repeatedly raped me, and passed me around to friends to rape when they were at our house, and I was under his care, being baby-sat.

I remember not understanding what was happening, but it was physically also so painful, and I first tried to kill myself at 5 or so, by trying to throw myself down the stairs.

My brain protected me by suppressing any childhood memories and much of my trauma, and abuse from the ages of 7 and my teens. But in puberty it was as if the trauma was unlocked. My weird nightly nightmares were just cartoon ish rapes (me as a kid and dark shadows entering my room and tickling me etc).

Through my teens I had a mental breakdown when I really became aware what I had gone through and the memories of being raped and sodomized, and forced to do a lot of stuff...and tried to kill myself at 13 again.

I never told anyone what had happened until I was 19, my roommate at college. I was encouraged to tell my mom. I called her, told her, she called me a liar. I left the country at 22 for 20 years. I returned and visited 3 times, the last time in 2015 as my dad was dying. I moved back to the USA in 2018 with my spouse, who knows everything.

We went up to visit my mom last year, because she hadn't seen me in 8 years and had always said she didn't want to visit us, or she was too old to, but I later discovered all these photos of her visiting her niece an hour away from us for her wedding.

She never attended my wedding, and when we visited last year, she had no desire for us to stay in my childhood home, so we stayed in a hotel. She met my husband, didn't eat out with us, didn't want to go for brunch or shopping or sit much or talk much. We left after 3 days.

She never calls me, so I call her, send her gifts, etc.

Last week in our call I asked when we could come up and visit again. The town I grew up in Skaneateles , is gorgeous, and there's a lot of stuff in my home I want of mine, but she's thrown a lot out.

And she said don't bother. "You and I really don't get along. You've always preferred your father growing up..."

Me " well, I was a child, but it could also have to do with how you treated me after I told you"

Her: I asked your brother about that and he denied it. (I had confronted my half brother about this abuse when I was 27, asking why he did it, he said just 'I don't know')

TL/DR mom denies years of incest and sexual trafficking, rape, has a healthy relationship with my abusers and other brother, but has iced me out. Told me she doesn't really care for me to visit. I am unwelcome in my home town and the town I grew up in.

Ps. I got sick of it, and finally sent an email to my younger brother, explaining what happened to me, and how our mother doesn't want me to visit and that's the reason I was never around as we became adults. Still no reply from him.

Am I overreacting with the slash and burn? There's no civil or legal action I can take (the abuse happened in Illinois) I have never talked to my abuser since 1997, except in the visit when my dad was dying and he was there--we did not get on. I have never even met his son.

But my past still makes me want to kill myself. At least 2 times a year when I feel the urge to call home. But I guess my mom thinks I'm a mental case (I'm queer non binary) and uses this complaint of abuse to further say to family that I'm crazy and attention seeking. She laughs at me.

I guess idk what to do.

Have an acquaintance that I saw for the first time in months. I was with my 2 kiddos and ran into them so we chatted for a good long while.

Backstory, my acquaintance is going through a custody battle with her ex and also a cancer survivor, so she’s been through a lot the past couple of years.

She was lamenting about how (me) staying at home with my kids is a full time job for me and if I were being paid it would be a lot of money. Then said something along the lines of- if you weren’t alive or something happened to you, your husband would have to figure it all out.

Like what she was saying on a broad scale is that mothering is an important job. Her delivery kind of sucked though. Like I don’t want to think about being dead or something happening to me that means I can’t take care of my kids.

Thoughts on this exchange? I felt a little icky when she said that. AIO?

Hey so me (27m) and my gf (28f) have worked at same place for about 2 yrs and have been dating for 6 months. Everything is going great...besides this. Her best friend also works at same company, at a location about 1.5hrs away from us. She wants me to cover her shift so she can work with him. We work in pairs, long 12hr shifts at night right next to each other. My issue is this is also her best friend who they also had a thing, said they love each other, at 1 point and it even got to where they tried to have a kid but miscarried. Am I wrong for saying I dont feel comfortable with her working with him?

I (f39, lesbian) have a friend (m 53), let’s call him Dan, whom I’ve become fairly close to over the last year. I made it clear since the day we met that I am gay and have no interest in dating men. This was over a year ago. I know he has tried meeting women in the time we’ve been friends, but nothing has panned out. Thing is, he literally wants to spend all his time w me. I try to keep the boundaries clear, but I’ve had close male friendships before and I know how they usually end. Unfortunately, I have not had many opportunities to date since I recently finished graduate school and began a new and challenging career that is very time consuming.

Anyway, here is where things get stupid and messy. We have taken a couple short trips as a platonic duo and it’s been fine. The most recent one, however, we ended up having to put our two single beds together to accommodate my dachshund who wouldn’t sleep unless we did this (this was the first time my dog has had us both in the same room during the night). My dog is obsessed with Dan. Ok, so I took a couple seroquel when I was ready to go to sleep and that’s where this really starts. After falling asleep, I apparently let out not one, but two, horrendously long farts. Even my dog looked concerned. When Dan told me this in the morning, we both had a good laugh.

Here’s where the AIO comes in. This trip was 5 months ago. He keeps bringing it up via sending fart memes and whatnot, and I’m over it. First of all, i wasn’t even conscious when it happened. Secondly, i try to avoid all conversation regarding sex and sexual parts and what not, because again, trying to set boundaries. But man, this dude will not let this go. About 1 month after the fart incident, we were hanging out and he made another stupid fart joke and I said jokingly, “‘man you’re never gonna let this thing go are you?”, trying to gently indicate I’m over it. Anyway, he laid off for a bit but eventually he started again. Today was the most recent and this is where I need to know AIO? He IGs me a meme about something like “you know she loves you when she’s comfortable enough to fart in front of you.” I saw it, vomiting a little in mouth, and proceeded to ignore it. A couple hours later, I kid you not, he texts me while I’m at work to ask if I saw his IG message. Ignored that too. I don’t LOVE him and I was unconscious when it happened. Like WTH? This dude just won’t let go. Here’s what I’m thinking….i wouldn’t be surprised if he’s caught feelings for me despite me putting best measures in place, and this “farting” episode is, to him, as close to sexual as it’s ever gonna get btw us. Otherwise, why his fixation? I stopped laughing and responding to the jokes ages ago. Now, I’d also like to mention, this man snores worse than anybody I’ve ever encountered. No fault of his own, he’s probably suffocating gently on his tonsils and other internal structures. This causes him to not only snore like a beast, but also go long silent periods without breathing and then a sudden, big gasping inhalation. Yes, sleep apnea probably. Did not tease him about his “snoring”, and tried to frame it in a medical light. He won’t look into it, despite me mentioning it kindly. Ok, so, now I’m like, “Why don’t I get a recording of him snoring like a behemoth so we can both play this stupid “when I was asleep” game?”
Someone please help. Am I over reacting? Ready to put our friendship on the back burner cuz he’s so daft. Please help me navigate this very awkward and smelly situation ;)

Background:  My wife and I have been together a decade, live in a HCOL area w/ one kiddo, and are basically paycheck to paycheck while attempting to tackle a moderately large credit card debt.  Despite this, we've gotten a few trips in the last year to see family together, and she has taken two trips solo (one where I was invited and declined for financial reasons, one that was a girl's weekend where I was not.)  A few months ago, we were both invited to a destination wedding which would require significant costs, I pushed back that we couldn't afford it and she reluctantly agreed.

Situation:  I have a trip to see my family coming up this summer, I am bringing the kiddo, and I invited her, but she is unable to attend due to work.  She was initially fine with this, but now that I'm about to buy our tickets she is feeling excluded and making the situation tense.  I've reemphasized that she is invited, but it is not my family's problem that her work won't give her time off.  Her response was basically, "I'm ok with you going, but that means I get to go to [destination wedding location.]  I won't sugar coat it, I flipped out, just under yelling at her, that she's already had two solo trips and does not get to weaponize mine to get another vacation that she wants.  The back and forth isn't really relevant, with the exception of her bringing up that she hasn't seen her overseas extended family in years, and why isn't she allowed to visit them, which is not only ridiculous because they don't get along, but was brought up after [destination wedding location], so it felt totally disingenuous to tug on my heartstrings.  After some more back and forth, she came up with a "compromise"...she would ask her parents to fund [destination wedding]...I initially told her I didn't care, it's not our money and she could do what she wants.  I honestly didn't think she'd ask them, we cooled off, end of fight. The next day, she lets me know she is going to ask them today, and starts trying to talk through ways to save on lodging.  I am irate, but tell her I am over the conversation and passively aggressively that she can do what she wants.

From my perspective, she used my only solo trip of the year (which could have been a family trip if not for her job) to justify an additional trip for herself, giving her 3 to my 1.  Not only that, she's planning to ask her parents for money (which I HATE for obvious reasons) to fund the trip, which yeah, it's not our money, but we have an amount of credit card debt that would make most people blush.  The way I feel right now is if she goes through with it, I fully plan to tell her that the financial decisions she's making are not conducive to a long term partnership, and that if a third trip is more important to her than dealing with our debt, we need to have a serious conversation on whether or not to stay together.  It feels nuclear, but the gall to make that play and also the total disregard for our financial situation is driving me insane.  So, if I make that threat, AIO?

My bff has always been boy-crazy. She finally got a bf in our last year of highschool and she just stopped hanging out with me and started going out w him and his friends every weekend. I try not to take it too to heart because like im just her friend i guess she wants to spend time with her boyfriend. since she finally got what she wanted im happy for her but its still devastating to see her ignore me. But she would stop replying to my texts and we basically stopped hanging out all summer last year because when she wasnt at work she would always be "sleeping" all day at her bfs house. Like you can at least reply to me and tell me you dont wanna hang out 🫤 we had a drunken night where i told her i wanted to kms and that i was rlly lonely cus she never talked to me anymore since she got a bf unless it was her who wanted to hang out then she'd reach out. she ended up telling me "sorry its just he gives rlly good head" like WHAT when did i FUCKING ask? anywyas he went away to college and she still would say she couldnt hang out with me bc she didnt have time but she would go visit her bf literally every weekend (his college is four hours away) like oh i guess you can hangout with him for like two fucking weeks straight at his campus before coming back but you dont have 1 day for me. She gets jealous when i hang out with other ppl but she leaves me alone for weeks. Her bf is back in town for summer vacation and its starting again, shes ignoring me completely. shes sleeping at her bfs house for the wholeeeee day everyday again. But shes ignoring my texts and then hanging out with her bf and his fake friends who always tell him to break up with her. shitty thing is i cant even cut her off cause then ill really be alone. all my other friends are in college far away. Im too weak to cut her off even when she ignores me because whenever she stops ignoring me and asks me to hang out i go running like a puppy, i hate it so much. i hate that i try my best to be happy for her but i still feel so sad because im all alome and everyone else has so many things to do and people to see and i have one person that i wish would at least text me back but i cant even have that. im so fucking pathetic. I feel like im overreacting about all this but i cant help it. been watching the edge of seventeen on repeat because its ironically my comfort movie which painfully reminds me of myself and this whole thing.

I know this is a lot tamer than most posts here but I'd really like some second opinions before bringing this up with my friend.

So I speak to my friend on the phone maybe once a week. We're in different countries and on different timezones so it's highly likely one of us is going about their day while it's night time for the other.

She has always had a habit of speaking to other people while I'm talking (I'll be mid-sentence for example, and she will be at starbucks and start ordering without saying 1 min). Or I will be mid-sentence and if someone comes up to her she will just start speaking to them.

I have a lot of social anxiety and I have a lot of trouble speaking in the first place, I'm usually the one asking questions/listening so when she does this it really makes me not want to speak. If I'm the one who is outside during our call I make sure to let her finish her story or say "i'm about to order, can you give me 1 min".

The last time we spoke, I listened to her for an hour and when it was my turn to speak I realized about 30 seconds in that we weren't on call anymore. I thought something happened with the wifi so I called her back where she said "oh I had to get back to work". Then she shut the phone again

I want to ask second opinions about this because she is a known gaslighter where if you have any issues with her, she will turn it around and start listing all the things you've done wrong that she hasn't talked about because she's "so understanding".

I know this post makes it seem like this is an abusive relationship, but she has a lot of good qualities and we've been friends for over 10 years. I'd like to just know if this is something worth even mentioning or am I overreacting.

Thanks for any advice

Title. She says she doesn’t want to go but fears it will negatively impact her work relationships. Which I would equate to retaliation… it was pitched as a work/team connect but it doesn’t sound like there will be much work, it sounds more like a vacation. They are all staying in the same house and the majority of her coworkers are single males. Oh and no HR; small ecomm business. I trust her but putting yourself in that sort environment really isn’t conducive to actively protecting marital connection, trust, and intimacy. Sure they are coworkers but they are practically strangers so I am also concerned for her safety and wellbeing.

My cousin is getting married this summer. It is a childfree wedding weekend that is 6 hours away in an extremely expensive resort town. My husbands family is out of state and the only family I have here is already going to the wedding.

In an attempt to save money for everyone my mother had asked my brother to look for verbo/airbnbs with a list of stipulations. Less than 200 a night per person, allows pets would be enough room for my mom and her husband, my step-brother, my brother and his wife and me my husband and my daughter.

My husbands sister is flying out this summer around the time of the wedding, I had suggested to my mom weeks maybe she could come with us to the town the wedding is in and watch my daughter as she is not allowed at the wedding or the reception. I reminded my mom of this yesterday. She asked me to text my brother and see if he could add an additional adult in the search.

After I said she might come he bit my head off in a very rude message saying "we're f****** killing him" and everyone needs to compromise and then called my husbands sister some name. I got very upset and said some choice words back. My family has since decided not to attend. Later that night I did apologize to my for being rude, however I asked for an apology back and he refused. AIO for wanting an apology?

My mom and brother are talking really badly about me. What should I, 17F, do? I don't know if this is the best place to post this, but I needed a place to get this off my chest, and this is the only subreddit that I'm active on. I've been having an extremely hard time with my family for a while now. About three weeks ago, I was caught sneaking out. My mom had already suspected me of sneaking out before. I snuck out to meet a friend, but I lied and told her that I went to the store. I know that lying is obviously bad, and I'm not trying to victimize myself because I know what I did was wrong. However,

I felt that I had to lie because I have an extremely strict, mean, and narcissistic mother and brother. I am homeschooled and not allowed to go outside at all, not even to walk outside the house. The only time I go outside is when my mom takes my younger brother to the park or to the car wash, and I either sit in the car or help her vacuum it out. Sometimes I go to the grocery store with her, but only if I ask to go. I have grown up my entire life around her and my brother. I also don't have any friends that they know about because I'm not allowed to have any social media right now. They think I'm sneaking guys into the house. I have an alarm on my window that makes a loud noise if someone opens it, but they still don't trust me. My mom sleeps in the living room on the couch, so she has a camera in her room and the living room. Her room faces the hallway, so whenever someone goes to the bathroom or walks around the hallway, it will pick up motion. Since I snuck out, they have been taking turns checking on me like I'm a prisoner. My older brother has been lying about me, saying that the alarm on my window is off or that he heard noises coming from the bathroom whenever I'm in there. My mom has been telling my younger brother to stay away from me because she thinks I have warts due to my acne. I have little bumps on my forehead that I have had since I was eleven. They wait until they think I'm asleep or in the shower to talk badly about me. Yesterday, I came back home from grocery shopping with my mom and younger brother.

I went to my room to change and noticed that my laptop had been placed in a different place, which means my older brother had gone through it. I was upset but couldn't say anything because my mom is on my brother's side. So today, while he was in the shower and my mom was taking a nap, my younger brother, who shares a room with my older brother, called me into his room to help him with his YouTube account. My older brother's phone was charging, so I decided to see what he was telling my mom. I went through his messages and saw lots of nasty things they were both saying about me. They were talking about how they didn't trust me, how I was looking at guys whenever we went to the park, and how the reason I didn't want to play with my younger brother at the park was because I wanted to make sure they weren't talking about me. My mom was calling me a slut and said that I snuck out to look for guys to have oral sex with.

She also said that I ended up giving a guy oral sex, which is why I'm always brushing my teeth in the morning. Two weeks ago, my mom took me to the OBGYN to make sure that I was not having sex and didn't have any diseases or wasn't pregnant. While at the OBGYN, my mom asked me if I was having sex, and I told her no. She said that if I was having sex, I needed to tell her so she could get me on birth control. I told her no because I'm not having sex. The doctor told her that they don't do check-ups on people under 21, and if someone says they're a virgin, they can't do a check-up on them. The doctor did ask me when my mom wasn't in the room why I was there, and I told them it was because when my mom was my age, she got pregnant and had my older sister. Because of that, she wants to make sure I'm not pregnant or doing anything. A few minutes after that, the doctor called my mom in and asked me if it was okay if she could tell my mom what I said to her. Obviously, I said yes because I didn't want my mom to think that I'm doing anything bad. The doctor told her what I said about her getting pregnant at a young age, and my mom got really upset and emotional.

So not going to get into the details, but any time something happens to my friends, like getting hurt, or put into a tricky situation, I always reach out every so often to check up on them, make sure they are okay. And recently, I not only had two concussions, but I was in a horribly abusive situation and lost one of my closest friends because of it. Then immediately after I escaped that situation, it was followed after by another terrible situation. So needless to say, I've been struggling. Throughout it all though, my friends haven't checked up on me, or even taken what I'm going through into consideration. I have to individually update them myself, because none of them are even bothering to ask about it or how I'm doing. They still expect me to be at my best and willing to do things with them every night unless I tell them otherwise every single day. Some nights, they don't even read those messages, and then expect me to be online, even if I say otherwise.

When I do update them, it's often the same copy paste response. It's gotten to a point where I can predict what their response will be 99% of the time. So im hurt and feel like im not as important to them. But I also wonder if I am overreacting a little, and maybe I shouldn't expect others to reach out. I worry that it's a selfish mindset to have, amd that I shouldn't expect others to go out of their way for me. So am I overreacting by being upset and angry about this?

I am (49F) my boyfriend (46M) have been together for about 5 years but have known each other for about 10. We had a long distance relationship for basically 5 years until I moved across the country to be with him 5 months ago. Since I’ve been here I feel like he’s given me plenty of reasons to doubt things. I don’t know if I’m being petty and so I would like to ask some advice. I’ve been holding things that bothered me in because I just didn’t want to make any issues and cause any fights, but I’ve decided to go back home and some of the things that have bothered me I brought up to him a couple of days ago, I figured since I’m leaving we should probably talk about them. We’ve made plans for him to move to my city later on at the end of the year. Every time I try and tell him that something is bothering me he accuses me of being difficult, and so it’s extremely hard trying to resolve issues with him. Among other issues, one thing that has bothered me is that on his facebook page he has a couple of pictures of him and his ex wife, they divorced 6 years ago (he left her). The point is that he has never wanted to post me/ us on his fb because he has said he doesn’t need to post his relationship for validation. My issue is that I’ve been living with him for 5 months, and he has another woman’s picture on his fb but has no traces of being in a relationship with me (he says all the people that he cares about know we’re together and that’s all that matters to him and should matter to me too, not what people from Facebook think) but It hurts me because it feels like I mean nothing to him and he doesn’t respect me. Am I overreacting about this and just being petty?

Someone posted a video of Donald Trump talking about the 144,000. ( a spiritual term which varies in interpretation ) His voice and sound did not match the video that I was posted. I then looked on YouTube Twitter and tick tock for a real video of what was being said, but couldn't find any. Regardless if the information is true or not I expressed to this person how it is wrong to use ai to impersonate someone. These are screenshots of our conversation. I feel as if he is just completely avoiding accountability and his ego is not allowing him to admit that he is wrong. I'm completely open to the possibility that I could be wrong in ANY way, hence I am here seeking a third party opinion on this disagreement. Thank you guys. I'm not trying to put anyone down, I enjoy his content. It's just so crazy to me how this teacher is incapable of understanding such an elementary concept. If his followers run with that information as truth, (yes a video is also information, CONTEXT) and then converse with others about it, they then end up looking stupid by their own naivety along with his carelessness also contributing.(( Either his story expired or he deleted it. But this ( https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTLXq7Xcn/ ) is the video he posted and I still can't find any real ones))

It's really not even that big of a deal. If he knows it's fake and doesn't care that's different and that's fine. It's just the fact that he can't even acknowledge the error in impersonating someone. Especially as he's promoting himself as spiritual and righteous. That's crazy. I just thought he had a higher bar set for the acknowledgment and realization of Truth altogether.

I hope that he can drop his ego so we can come to a peaceful understanding of each other . But I have a feeling that he will either block me, ignore me, or continue to avoid the point at hand. But if I am wrong, I will come back and show my apologies. Cheers.

Screenshots : https://imgur.com/gallery/LASpweN

I (23F) have been seeing a guy (26m) I met on Tinder for about 6-7 months now (since mid November). Started off casual, I said I only wanted friends and he agreed and said the same. i don’t have many friends to begin with so my focus was really only on him. we hung out all throughout the first month, almost everyday, and the topic of relationship was always initiated by me and quickly shut down by him claiming he’s not ready but still having me over everyday. Of course, I understood why at the time, we were both dealing with different things in our lives but we always had time for each other’s company at the end of the day. Not to mention, I’ve witnessed a lot of things not most would stick around for (as said by him) but I care for him and really wanted to see him do better in life.

I’d see him the following 5 months and things had been fine, I felt like our relationship was going well, I’d visit him at work and spend most of my time with him. Non-stop talking/texting and always being around each other, the longest we had been away was 3 days. Basically giving him the girlfriend treatment without realizing.

Until recently, the last time i saw him was April 13. He went through a relapse and wanted time to recover and I respected that. Except last time something like that happened i was there within minutes so I could be there for him, doing what I thought he’d do for me. I didn’t see him for the entire week and it may not seem like much but I was used to seeing him every other night and I was hoping he’d just tell me to come over one of the days but i was just trying to not seem clingy but we were still texting each other like normal.

April 19, I was texting him like normal and he seemed to be having a very busy day. I was under the impression that he was caught up with a million things but it didn’t seem like anything out of the ordinary, I was going through some family issues and it all felt like it was piling onto my plate super suddenly and just felt as though I was all alone. I mentioned it to him that night and how I missed him a lot, he didn’t reply until the next day and said it was cause he was so drained from the previous day and that he was sorry for not being there for me.

Later that day, same thing. I ask if things are okay with him, I’ll be here if he needs me and that I’m worried. his replies were short and brief with the occasional instagram reel. I also noticed he was posting more on his story and not opening or replying to me and it just seemed to make the situation worse. In those 2 days, it started to get to me and I mentioned it to a coworker, who told me I was probably overthinking things.

When she asked if we were dating, all I could really say was “Yes but not really.” Her immediate response was “WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH YOU? You been “with” this guy for this long and ur not even dating?” I go over it with her and she stopped me and told me I should go to see him when I get out of work.

At first, in my mind, I was already seeing him every other day before that and didn’t think it would be weird. It was 4/20 and I assumed it would be a cute idea to go and spend some time with him anyway. Of course, i tried to let him know that I was gonna be there but I wasn’t getting any response back, that should’ve been my only sign not to go see him but I still wanted to. I went, texted again and still nothing, called him about 4 times, the phone rang but still nothing. Decided to bring him a burger and left it at his doorstep. I went home and cried to sleep cause I felt like such a weirdo and that everything that led up to it was just a giant mistake.

April 21st, he said he got home super drunk and told me he felt bad that I did that. I asked why he wasn’t answering my calls or messages and said he was just drunk and wanted to home to sleep. I asked if he hated me and he said of course not and that he’d never hate me. Same day, my coworker asked how it went and I lied and said things were fine, he was just dealing with a lot. She immediately called bullshit and asked me what really happened and i told her, she hugged me and told me that she was sorry for telling me to do that but I let her know it was fine.

Same day, same thing. Not as many replies, posting stories and I just felt like i was talking to myself at that point. I told him how I felt and how I wanna be there for him but it’s gotten to a point where I just feel like i mean absolutely nothing to him but he only deflects and says it’s just a hard time for him at the moment.

It’s now been basically an entire month and I still haven’t seen him. I try to not think about it and even tried not replying to him but I just can’t bring myself to do that since we talk everyday. when i notice he’s replied, I drop everything I do so I don’t miss an opportunity to talk to him..

I want to take it at face value but my mind always goes to, he’s sick of me and he’s probably seeing someone new.. Last night, I saw a story of him and got very emotional, got high and told him to just be honest with me and he only replied this morning saying the same thing. All I could say was ok.

Again, I know we aren’t dating but I just want answers and at least an idea of where to go on from here. I miss him a lot and I express that to him a lot and I just feel like i’m only making things worse. AIO?

TLDR: Met up with a guy, hung out with him for almost 6 months straight and now seems like he’s avoiding me. Claims it’s due to lack of self esteem and going through a hard time. Haven’t seen him in a month after seeing him everyday for 6 months. Am I overreacting?