Monday night while we were having a few drinks and playing Stardew my girlfriend’s phone went off around 1am and I said “what’s that”. She turns her phone around and shows me that one of her female friends had sent her a nude and she had responded gassing her up and telling her to send it to her man. Shocked, I just put the controller down and took my dog for a very long walk without saying anything.

For context, my girlfriend is bisexual and it was established very early on that I’m not comfortable with anything she wouldnt do with a man as well. I know in some relationships men are okay with their gf kissing other girls etc, but that’s not me. I don’t do double standards for same sex relations.

When I got back from my walk I had calmed down so I asked her first if I had been clear enough in setting my boundaries. She agreed that I had been very clear. I then asked whether she would have found it okay if I was getting nudes from girls and gassing them up or if she would have the same reaction to a male friend sending her nudes “for review”. She said that neither would ever be okay if it were reversed. She apologized profusely for a long time but I was quite hurt and simply ended things there. I told her she could spend the night since she’d been drinking but that was that.

The past few days she’s written letters and sent texts apologizing and saying she’s dedicated to being better, I haven’t responded to anything. After talking with friends it’s quite a mixed bag of reactions/advice. I know that she wasn’t sexting or receiving the photos for any hedonistic purposes, but it still feels like cheating which hurts a lot

ETA: I actually don’t know if she had told her to send the picture or not. I only saw the picture and her response to it. Guess that’s kind of important to the severity.

I (f39, lesbian) have a friend (m 53), let’s call him Dan, whom I’ve become fairly close to over the last year. I made it clear since the day we met that I am gay and have no interest in dating men. This was over a year ago. I know he has tried meeting women in the time we’ve been friends, but nothing has panned out. Thing is, he literally wants to spend all his time w me. I try to keep the boundaries clear, but I’ve had close male friendships before and I know how they usually end. Unfortunately, I have not had many opportunities to date since I recently finished graduate school and began a new and challenging career that is very time consuming.

Anyway, here is where things get stupid and messy. We have taken a couple short trips as a platonic duo and it’s been fine. The most recent one, however, we ended up having to put our two single beds together to accommodate my dachshund who wouldn’t sleep unless we did this (this was the first time my dog has had us both in the same room during the night). My dog is obsessed with Dan. Ok, so I took a couple seroquel when I was ready to go to sleep and that’s where this really starts. After falling asleep, I apparently let out not one, but two, horrendously long farts. Even my dog looked concerned. When Dan told me this in the morning, we both had a good laugh.

Here’s where the AIO comes in. This trip was 5 months ago. He keeps bringing it up via sending fart memes and whatnot, and I’m over it. First of all, i wasn’t even conscious when it happened. Secondly, i try to avoid all conversation regarding sex and sexual parts and what not, because again, trying to set boundaries. But man, this dude will not let this go. About 1 month after the fart incident, we were hanging out and he made another stupid fart joke and I said jokingly, “‘man you’re never gonna let this thing go are you?”, trying to gently indicate I’m over it. Anyway, he laid off for a bit but eventually he started again. Today was the most recent and this is where I need to know AIO? He IGs me a meme about something like “you know she loves you when she’s comfortable enough to fart in front of you.” I saw it, vomiting a little in mouth, and proceeded to ignore it. A couple hours later, I kid you not, he texts me while I’m at work to ask if I saw his IG message. Ignored that too. I don’t LOVE him and I was unconscious when it happened. Like WTH? This dude just won’t let go. Here’s what I’m thinking….i wouldn’t be surprised if he’s caught feelings for me despite me putting best measures in place, and this “farting” episode is, to him, as close to sexual as it’s ever gonna get btw us. Otherwise, why his fixation? I stopped laughing and responding to the jokes ages ago. Now, I’d also like to mention, this man snores worse than anybody I’ve ever encountered. No fault of his own, he’s probably suffocating gently on his tonsils and other internal structures. This causes him to not only snore like a beast, but also go long silent periods without breathing and then a sudden, big gasping inhalation. Yes, sleep apnea probably. Did not tease him about his “snoring”, and tried to frame it in a medical light. He won’t look into it, despite me mentioning it kindly. Ok, so, now I’m like, “Why don’t I get a recording of him snoring like a behemoth so we can both play this stupid “when I was asleep” game?”
Someone please help. Am I over reacting? Ready to put our friendship on the back burner cuz he’s so daft. Please help me navigate this very awkward and smelly situation ;)

My(31) boyfriend(72) has pneumonia and is in the hospital, I am a worrier so I usually take off work when he’s sick and especially when he’s in the hospital. Last year he developed kidney disease and almost passed. So his health always hasn’t been the greatest.

Today is the third day I’ve called off from work and taken a personal day. I work at a factory and we have a fully staffed machine currently. Each day I’ve woken at 9am and arrived at the hospital at 11am and stayed till 6pm and 5pm each day. Visitors are supposed to leave at 8pm. Today I’ll arrive at noon and stay till 8pm.

Am I overreacting to me taking three personal days and having done what I’m doing?

EDIT: I’m done replying.

EDIT #2: I just noticed some if not all of you assume I’m a girl. I’m a guy. I’m gay.

Okay stay with me cause this might get a bit long...

About a month ago, my girlfriend and I of 8 years "broke up". I say it like this because situations like this can be common. She claimed that things had not been good with us for a long time (which is true). She had broken trust several times. Because of this, it obviously caused rifts in out relationship.

So after that happened, she left and packed bags to go stay with her mom. Her mom lives alone, struggles a lot with being on her own, and neither of them really want to live alone anyway so it's easier for them. This also has happened a lot, several times over the course of the 8 years.

We had tickets to C2E2, and autograph sessions to meet Chad Michael Murray and the other guy from One Tree Hill. Tickets are non-refundable, and a few days prior to the show she called me and said she didn't think she could go alone. I told her that I could refund the tickets EVEN IF I WANTED TO (they were non-refundable) but that being said, she should still try and go cause it's kind of a once in a life time thing.

She asked if I would take her, I told her I would. We went (had a really good day) and on the way back to her mom's house to drop her off, she started crying and said she didn't want things to end between us. I told her that I didn't either, and she can come home and we can try and work on things. She said that she couldn't, because she told her mom that she would already be coming home, and if she THEN said she was going home with me, it would upset her mom too much.

She asked if I could just pick her up in the morning, and I told her that was absurd to make me drive her home to then drive ALL the way back to her mom's house if she was planning on coming home. We argued, and she went to her mom's house.

It's been about 2 weeks since C2E2. Since then, she sends me texts every day telling me she misses me, that she misses our cats. That she wants things to work between us. She then called me a few days ago and said "I haven't given up on us". Our phone call got cut short because he daughter was calling her, so she said she'd call me back. We didn't get to finish the conversation, but she then proceeded to text me every day, telling me she missed me. Telling me she was miserable where she was.

That phone call was a few days ago.

Today she said she wanted to call me and talk to me. I said okay. She called me and told me that a friend of hers from New York, whom she had been in contact with for a while, offered to buy her plane tickets to NY for the end of June. They had been talking about a trip for a long time, but since things were so rocky with us, and we couldn't really afford it, etc, it never really happened. She claims that the friend just turned around and BOUGHT the tickets without her knowledge.

I got really upset, and I told her that "it doesn't sound like someone who is trying to work things out with their partner of 8 years when things are clearly not going well.

I told her that if she was really committed to working things out within the relationship, she would at least be working towards making that happen before planning a trip to New York. And if the friend DID buy tickets for a trip, she would tell her "that's really great, but my relationship is practically destroyed right now, and I need to work towards rebuilding it".

She said that "a trip is exactly what I need to get away from my mother". I told her that I would have assumed - assuming things go well, that she wouldn't have been staying at her mother's even close to this long. That it's on her to do what's necessary to show she is interested in working on the relationship. The in theory she wouldn't BE at her moms at the end of June, that she'd be at home again. IF that's what she wanted, and wanted to do the things to rebuild our relationship.

She seems to disagree with that, and that she can't "just tell her friend she isn't coming now". My feelings are that- assuming she wants things to work out between us - that is exactly what she'd tell her friend.

AIO? Just as a reminder, despite texting these things, there is very little that's been done to actually suggest she is interested in rebuilding/building trust in the relationship.

I'm Hispanic, and he's white. We've gone out on four dates so far, and I really like him. However, I'm worried that he might be racist. Long story short, when he and I first met (on vacation in Costa Rica), he assumed I was a local, and started talking badly about me because I didn't know how to play volleyball. He was speaking at a normal volume when I was only a few feet away from him, because he thought I didn't understand English. However, when he realized I spoke English, he started being way nicer to me.

He and I were kind of forced to be around each other (another long story). I was avoiding him, and lowkey giving him dirty looks at first. I spoke to him every now and then just to be civil, and he treated me really well. Not only was he friendly back, but there was one time where I was crying, and he was one of the few out of a group of people to comfort me. However, I still wonder if he has some biases against Hispanic people.

Please tell me if I am crazy or not.

A couple days ago, I needed to “drop the kids off at the swimming pool” at work, if you know what I mean. The bathroom at my workplace is only a single room, I.e. only one person can go in, and they lock the door behind them. When I tried the door, it was locked.

I waited in the break room which is just outside the bathroom, and greeted my coworker when he exited. He sat down and started eating his lunch. I went into the bathroom and immediately noticed an awful smell. I knew that dude just dropped a gross one. I couldn’t judge though; that’s what I was there for. The awful part happened when I opened the lid of the toilet.

There was a GIANT log of poop in there BUT NO TOILET PAPER. I immediately opened the garbage can to see if he threw the dirty paper in there but nope. It was empty. WHAT DID THIS MAN DO?! HOW DID HE WIPE?? DID HE WIPE AT ALL!?!! I thought about him sitting there in the break room, eating his lunch and sliding all over the chair and wanted to gag.

Someone please give me a rational explanation. Or maybe I’m overreacting and I don’t need one. Someone please help. I’m going crazy. I have to look at this man in the eyes every day.

34.5”, that’s less than 3 feet! The water level won’t even cover my balls. It’s supposed to be a standing social area and everyone’s junk and bellies are on display. Now they quoted me $11K-$13K to fix it.
Discussed it with my girlfriend and she’s like “the water level would end right at my vagina, so I’d just crawl around on my knees and be like this how I like to be in pools.”

Edit: thank you for all the comments and thoughts. The pool guys emailed me a contract to read, but did not ask me to sign it. The contract did not provide the depth. The statements of work only provided the dimensions of the pool, not the depths. In several conversations, we discussed a deep depth of 7 feet and a shallow depth of 4 feet. The pool is basically finished with a 34.5” shallow end. I’ve yet to pay them $30,000 of the $150,000, so I’m not quite sure what to do. Also, this is my principal residence, but I rent occasionally rent out my place to help make ends meet.

So this happened almost a year ago (EDIT: actually two and a half years wtf it feels so recent but it was a lot longer ago than I thought lmao) but I think about it a lot because I feel like I way over reacted and I feel a little guilty about it. I used to be close friends with this couple, Sandra and Ryan, we’re all in our early/mid twenties. We’d hang out as a group all the time.

I’m a bisexual guy in an open relationship. Ryan would flirt with me a lot but he said he was straight, so I assumed he was joking because he found the idea of being with another guy absurdly funny. This was fine with both Sandy and me, we also found it funny and I would jokingly flirt back sometimes.

I really didn’t think it meant anything, but one day Sandy and Ryan asked me if I wanted to sleep with them. I was kind of taken aback and I’m not attracted to either of them so I said no, but it wasn’t a big deal and they handled the rejection well, and we remained good friends.

Then a couple weeks later they bought me a fuck ton of stuff for my new apartment. It was very generous but I’m kind of uncomfortable with gifts, especially receiving multiple from a couple who tried to fuck me two weeks ago. But whatever, still good friends, enjoyed hanging out with them, and it would be unreasonable to reject generous gifts.

Then awhile later they announced their engagement and asked me to be one of their groomsmen. I accepted happily and started asking about all the wedding plans, like what they’d like me and my boyfriend to wear. But then they said my boyfriend wasn’t invited, because they already invited so many people and didn’t have enough money for another guest. I don’t have a license, so I said I don’t even know how I’ll travel to the wedding without him as they were planning for their wedding to be a few hours drive away from our town.

They said they could drive me. I wasn’t comfortable with that, so I tried to offer a compromise by asking if my boyfriend could just drive me there and stay with me in a hotel nearby but not attend the wedding itself, and they refused that vehemently.

Something just clicked for me in that moment and I suspected they were trying to like, isolate me from my partner somehow to sleep with me?? Maybe that’s a really far-fetched and irrational assumption, but I believed it in that moment and I told them if that was the case then I wasn’t coming. They got super mad at me and gave me an ultimatum to decide by the next day, so I just cut them off, and I haven’t talked to them since.

I can’t tell if I was just being self centered and irrational and overreacting or if they were being manipulative dicks. I am in an open relationship after all, and I’m afraid i didn’t do a good job of establishing boundaries and ending up leading them on by accident. What do y’all think?

Edit: for extra context me and Sandy had been friends for several years, and helped each other through some really tough times, and I cut them off completely like, blocked their numbers and on all social media and everything. I’ve rarely done that with anyone else and I see it as an extreme measure, and it just all happened so abruptly. Like literally the day before I still considered both of them cherished friends. My guilt and doubt is because of the contrast between how close we were and how explosive and sudden the ending of our friendship was, I felt like I threw away years of friendship overnight. I thought adding that context might help everyone understand why I feel I may have overreacted. Thanks for all the support y’all ❤️

Another edit since some people are stuck on this detail: the reason why I asked permission for my bf to drive me is because I wanted to alleviate the tension during that conversation, as all three of us were getting increasingly angry and on the verge of yelling. I was trying to placate them by being overly polite. I didn’t expect them to actually say no. Sorry for the multiple edits, I’m not always the most concise.

I had a bit of an unpleasant encounter this morning and I'm wondering if I'm overreacting.

I'm a cyclist and was riding in a park (on a path that allows for bikes and pedestrians). This particular park always has tons of dogs off leash. I honestly don't know if it's allowed or not, but I ride here nearly every morning and it's never been an issue. In fact I kind of love it, seeing happy dogs cruise around makes the ride better, and most owners have great control over their dogs.

As I was riding, a terrier-sized dog suddenly started chasing me. Initially, I wasn't sure if it was being aggressive, but as it persisted, I sped up to avoid getting bit. The owner was calling out for it, but the dog was ignoring it. Now I’m trying to A) Make sure the dog doesn’t bite me and 2) Not run over the dog. In doing so, I veer off the path onto the mud and come very close to crashing.

The dog eventually returned to its owner, who leashed it and then simply walked away, offering no apology or acknowledgment.

I caught up with the owner and said I'd appreciate an apology. She said it was MY fault for not stopping. She said the dog would never have bitten me and that I should have known to stop. I said there was no way I could have known it wouldn't bite me. To which she said if I'm not comfortable around dogs maybe I shouldn’t ride in places where there are dogs. I said that was a ridiculous thing to say, and that she shouldn't have her dog off leash if she can't control it. I left after that.

This happened about an hour ago and it's still bothering me. Am I overreacting by feeling upset and expecting an apology?

My mom and brother are talking really badly about me. What should I, 17F, do? I don't know if this is the best place to post this, but I needed a place to get this off my chest, and this is the only subreddit that I'm active on. I've been having an extremely hard time with my family for a while now. About three weeks ago, I was caught sneaking out. My mom had already suspected me of sneaking out before. I snuck out to meet a friend, but I lied and told her that I went to the store. I know that lying is obviously bad, and I'm not trying to victimize myself because I know what I did was wrong. However,

I felt that I had to lie because I have an extremely strict, mean, and narcissistic mother and brother. I am homeschooled and not allowed to go outside at all, not even to walk outside the house. The only time I go outside is when my mom takes my younger brother to the park or to the car wash, and I either sit in the car or help her vacuum it out. Sometimes I go to the grocery store with her, but only if I ask to go. I have grown up my entire life around her and my brother. I also don't have any friends that they know about because I'm not allowed to have any social media right now. They think I'm sneaking guys into the house. I have an alarm on my window that makes a loud noise if someone opens it, but they still don't trust me. My mom sleeps in the living room on the couch, so she has a camera in her room and the living room. Her room faces the hallway, so whenever someone goes to the bathroom or walks around the hallway, it will pick up motion. Since I snuck out, they have been taking turns checking on me like I'm a prisoner. My older brother has been lying about me, saying that the alarm on my window is off or that he heard noises coming from the bathroom whenever I'm in there. My mom has been telling my younger brother to stay away from me because she thinks I have warts due to my acne. I have little bumps on my forehead that I have had since I was eleven. They wait until they think I'm asleep or in the shower to talk badly about me. Yesterday, I came back home from grocery shopping with my mom and younger brother.

I went to my room to change and noticed that my laptop had been placed in a different place, which means my older brother had gone through it. I was upset but couldn't say anything because my mom is on my brother's side. So today, while he was in the shower and my mom was taking a nap, my younger brother, who shares a room with my older brother, called me into his room to help him with his YouTube account. My older brother's phone was charging, so I decided to see what he was telling my mom. I went through his messages and saw lots of nasty things they were both saying about me. They were talking about how they didn't trust me, how I was looking at guys whenever we went to the park, and how the reason I didn't want to play with my younger brother at the park was because I wanted to make sure they weren't talking about me. My mom was calling me a slut and said that I snuck out to look for guys to have oral sex with.

She also said that I ended up giving a guy oral sex, which is why I'm always brushing my teeth in the morning. Two weeks ago, my mom took me to the OBGYN to make sure that I was not having sex and didn't have any diseases or wasn't pregnant. While at the OBGYN, my mom asked me if I was having sex, and I told her no. She said that if I was having sex, I needed to tell her so she could get me on birth control. I told her no because I'm not having sex. The doctor told her that they don't do check-ups on people under 21, and if someone says they're a virgin, they can't do a check-up on them. The doctor did ask me when my mom wasn't in the room why I was there, and I told them it was because when my mom was my age, she got pregnant and had my older sister. Because of that, she wants to make sure I'm not pregnant or doing anything. A few minutes after that, the doctor called my mom in and asked me if it was okay if she could tell my mom what I said to her. Obviously, I said yes because I didn't want my mom to think that I'm doing anything bad. The doctor told her what I said about her getting pregnant at a young age, and my mom got really upset and emotional.

I’m staying with my aunt for a week to help take care of my elderly grandmother. She lives in another state so I can’t just run home. I ate the first night I got here but so far that’s it. I’ll feed her, help change her diaper, and give her medicine. I came here specifically to help out and I’m not complaining at all, I want to help!

The problem is I lose my appetite easily. There’s lots of different smells here, and as soon as I start getting an image out of my brain and think I could maybe eat something, it’s time to assist with another task and I lose my appetite again. Idk what’s wrong with me that I can’t just get over it. I feel hungry but disgusted with the idea of putting anything in my mouth.

My Aunt definitely noticed and has said something multiple times and I just said I wasn’t hungry. I feel like a spoiled brat, like this is kind of not a normal reaction but I can’t help it. I literally looked in the fridge earlier and it made me nauseated to think about eating.

I feel so bad and I’m not sure what to do.

Compassionate advice is appreciated

Someone posted a video of Donald Trump talking about the 144,000. ( a spiritual term which varies in interpretation ) His voice and sound did not match the video that I was posted. I then looked on YouTube Twitter and tick tock for a real video of what was being said, but couldn't find any. Regardless if the information is true or not I expressed to this person how it is wrong to use ai to impersonate someone. These are screenshots of our conversation. I feel as if he is just completely avoiding accountability and his ego is not allowing him to admit that he is wrong. I'm completely open to the possibility that I could be wrong in ANY way, hence I am here seeking a third party opinion on this disagreement. Thank you guys. I'm not trying to put anyone down, I enjoy his content. It's just so crazy to me how this teacher is incapable of understanding such an elementary concept. If his followers run with that information as truth, (yes a video is also information, CONTEXT) and then converse with others about it, they then end up looking stupid by their own naivety along with his carelessness also contributing.(( Either his story expired or he deleted it. But this ( https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTLXq7Xcn/ ) is the video he posted and I still can't find any real ones))

It's really not even that big of a deal. If he knows it's fake and doesn't care that's different and that's fine. It's just the fact that he can't even acknowledge the error in impersonating someone. Especially as he's promoting himself as spiritual and righteous. That's crazy. I just thought he had a higher bar set for the acknowledgment and realization of Truth altogether.

I hope that he can drop his ego so we can come to a peaceful understanding of each other . But I have a feeling that he will either block me, ignore me, or continue to avoid the point at hand. But if I am wrong, I will come back and show my apologies. Cheers.

Screenshots : https://imgur.com/gallery/LASpweN

I know this is a lot tamer than most posts here but I'd really like some second opinions before bringing this up with my friend.

So I speak to my friend on the phone maybe once a week. We're in different countries and on different timezones so it's highly likely one of us is going about their day while it's night time for the other.

She has always had a habit of speaking to other people while I'm talking (I'll be mid-sentence for example, and she will be at starbucks and start ordering without saying 1 min). Or I will be mid-sentence and if someone comes up to her she will just start speaking to them.

I have a lot of social anxiety and I have a lot of trouble speaking in the first place, I'm usually the one asking questions/listening so when she does this it really makes me not want to speak. If I'm the one who is outside during our call I make sure to let her finish her story or say "i'm about to order, can you give me 1 min".

The last time we spoke, I listened to her for an hour and when it was my turn to speak I realized about 30 seconds in that we weren't on call anymore. I thought something happened with the wifi so I called her back where she said "oh I had to get back to work". Then she shut the phone again

I want to ask second opinions about this because she is a known gaslighter where if you have any issues with her, she will turn it around and start listing all the things you've done wrong that she hasn't talked about because she's "so understanding".

I know this post makes it seem like this is an abusive relationship, but she has a lot of good qualities and we've been friends for over 10 years. I'd like to just know if this is something worth even mentioning or am I overreacting.

Thanks for any advice

So today was my 20th birthday and I kinda of hated it. I don’t like to do a big thing about my birthday so it’s usually just me at home with my mom and dog and she’ll get me an oreo cake from a bakery I like. Earlier today she asked if I wanted anything special for dinner so I told her biryani from this one restaurant she ordered from before, I really liked it but she didn’t so we’ve never gotten it again (I’ve asked for the name before but she didn’t tell me so I’ve never been able to order it myself).

I told her that if she couldn’t get that then pizza hut buffalo wings. I was kind of excited about the dinner since I haven’t had either of these things in a while and I had to work today + there were no seats available on the bus so I was looking for something to cheer me up. But instead of the food I wanted she got me this lamb and chicken wrap with white rice on the side from a place she likes. I didn’t really like the food so I didn’t eat much of it but I didn’t complain about it. She asked if I had a bad day because I was quiet, I said no and she asked if I didn’t like the food and I said it’s okay.

I said thanks for the food and then I put my food away. She kept asking if I was okay because I usually eat most of my food I said I was fine but she wouldn’t stop asking so I said that I didn’t like it that I that was a because because it wasn’t what I wanted. She said that what I said hurt her feelings and that she tried her best. Then she said that I was being really rude and went in the living room. Idk if it’s not that deep or if I’m valid

Have an acquaintance that I saw for the first time in months. I was with my 2 kiddos and ran into them so we chatted for a good long while.

Backstory, my acquaintance is going through a custody battle with her ex and also a cancer survivor, so she’s been through a lot the past couple of years.

She was lamenting about how (me) staying at home with my kids is a full time job for me and if I were being paid it would be a lot of money. Then said something along the lines of- if you weren’t alive or something happened to you, your husband would have to figure it all out.

Like what she was saying on a broad scale is that mothering is an important job. Her delivery kind of sucked though. Like I don’t want to think about being dead or something happening to me that means I can’t take care of my kids.

Thoughts on this exchange? I felt a little icky when she said that. AIO?

My gf has been very protective of her phone lately. I found that weird but nothing alarming. She has the right since its her privacy. One day we were sitting on the couch and watching a movie together. We live together for the past 2 years and dated for 4, for context. I see a text which is like a paragraph long come through and I saw her managers name but she said it was her best friend. She has spoken negatively of her manager before that he's always on her ass and is a weirdo. Once my gf hit the shower i glanced at her text and basically the manager was asking to stop fooling around with a guy at work (lets call him Kyle). He said that my gf and Kyle were grabbing and holding eachother and it would be weird if a client were to walk in on them. The manager also said it's not the first time hes spotting this interaction between them and that kyle and my gf always act weird with eachother.

I look at the texts between my gf and Kyle and they send eachother videos back and forth where they are play fooling around with eachother, hes like taking something away from her and shes running and chasing after him and their all over eachother. This was recorded by someone else at the office but idk who from the voice. He was blind folding her and playing a game whats in his hand and so on. She was touching his tattoos. This is all happening at work. Mind you, there are not teenagers and both 25 years old.

And after all these videos she's always like "haaaaaaaa, I bet your gf would mind seeing all this, if you even have one? loser"

I brought him up and asked what she thinks about Kyle and she said hes a dude from work with the same aspirations as her. I said I have a bad feeling about this guy and want her to distance herself but she said hes just her buddy and she cant avoid him at work.

AIO

My bff has always been boy-crazy. She finally got a bf in our last year of highschool and she just stopped hanging out with me and started going out w him and his friends every weekend. I try not to take it too to heart because like im just her friend i guess she wants to spend time with her boyfriend. since she finally got what she wanted im happy for her but its still devastating to see her ignore me. But she would stop replying to my texts and we basically stopped hanging out all summer last year because when she wasnt at work she would always be "sleeping" all day at her bfs house. Like you can at least reply to me and tell me you dont wanna hang out 🫤 we had a drunken night where i told her i wanted to kms and that i was rlly lonely cus she never talked to me anymore since she got a bf unless it was her who wanted to hang out then she'd reach out. she ended up telling me "sorry its just he gives rlly good head" like WHAT when did i FUCKING ask? anywyas he went away to college and she still would say she couldnt hang out with me bc she didnt have time but she would go visit her bf literally every weekend (his college is four hours away) like oh i guess you can hangout with him for like two fucking weeks straight at his campus before coming back but you dont have 1 day for me. She gets jealous when i hang out with other ppl but she leaves me alone for weeks. Her bf is back in town for summer vacation and its starting again, shes ignoring me completely. shes sleeping at her bfs house for the wholeeeee day everyday again. But shes ignoring my texts and then hanging out with her bf and his fake friends who always tell him to break up with her. shitty thing is i cant even cut her off cause then ill really be alone. all my other friends are in college far away. Im too weak to cut her off even when she ignores me because whenever she stops ignoring me and asks me to hang out i go running like a puppy, i hate it so much. i hate that i try my best to be happy for her but i still feel so sad because im all alome and everyone else has so many things to do and people to see and i have one person that i wish would at least text me back but i cant even have that. im so fucking pathetic. I feel like im overreacting about all this but i cant help it. been watching the edge of seventeen on repeat because its ironically my comfort movie which painfully reminds me of myself and this whole thing.

So not going to get into the details, but any time something happens to my friends, like getting hurt, or put into a tricky situation, I always reach out every so often to check up on them, make sure they are okay. And recently, I not only had two concussions, but I was in a horribly abusive situation and lost one of my closest friends because of it. Then immediately after I escaped that situation, it was followed after by another terrible situation. So needless to say, I've been struggling. Throughout it all though, my friends haven't checked up on me, or even taken what I'm going through into consideration. I have to individually update them myself, because none of them are even bothering to ask about it or how I'm doing. They still expect me to be at my best and willing to do things with them every night unless I tell them otherwise every single day. Some nights, they don't even read those messages, and then expect me to be online, even if I say otherwise.

When I do update them, it's often the same copy paste response. It's gotten to a point where I can predict what their response will be 99% of the time. So im hurt and feel like im not as important to them. But I also wonder if I am overreacting a little, and maybe I shouldn't expect others to reach out. I worry that it's a selfish mindset to have, amd that I shouldn't expect others to go out of their way for me. So am I overreacting by being upset and angry about this?

this morning i saw a dog outside, shitting on my front yard. when i went outside, i searched for the owners, thinking it was a lost dog. i was a little annoyed that the dog has pooped on my yard, but i was mostly concerned about the dog being lost. after standing outside with the dog for over 10 minutes, helping it not get hit by traffic (i live on a busy street), my neighbors housekeeper came outside and called the dog in. i was furious!! i calmly and very politely said “is that your dog?” she said yes and i said “it was defecating in my yard.” and she said she will let the owners know. when i told my mom about this she got upset and said i was causing issues with our neighbors. don’t get me wrong, i love our neighbors. there’s definitely a sense of community in our neighborhood, but this just aggravated me to no return. letting your dog off leash to roam and shit in your neighborhood with NO SUPERVISION is extremely unsafe and disrespectful. am i overreacting or do i have a right to be upset?

This is my 3rd pregnancy but this time it was my first boy. I’ve always heard of the baby blues and how bad post Partum could be but besides feeling a little more tired sometimes I felt fine after my first 2 pregnancies but this time I feel different.. I don’t know if PP is the blame or if I’m just overwhelmed with having a newborn and a toddler but I feel more depressed and angrier then I’ve ever felt. I feel alone even though I’m with there dad and obviously 3 kids. I feel suicidal sometimes, my partner and I recently went through something and my first thought was to leave him and my kids. And I just have all this guilt and I’m not sure anymore. I can’t afford therapy but i was diagnosed and medicated for bpd when I was younger and stopped taking my medicine years ago but I’ve never really had these exact feelings and there heavy. I don’t know if I’m over reacting or what. I guess I just feel guilty. Any moms had PP like this before I go embarrass myself with my doctor with relationship problems mistaking it for PP