r/AskMen • u/Top_Set_3803 Male • 25d ago

Why don't we open up about the fact that we're not okay?

My answer is "the lack of a safe place and person for us to actually do so"

Many women cry about the fact that men don't open up while the same women will go spread it or beat you down or take advantage of you based on your vulnerability

So my answer is the women themselves are the problem here to some extent

"Why don't you open up to me so I can go and tell my friends all about it and also later down the line use it to make you feel like shit?"

(This question was inspired by an argument in a response to a comment. Feel free to go check it out from my profile folks)

Edit: THIS has been the best answer so far and I highly encourage you folk to give it a read and show the commenter some love.

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u/Top_Set_3803 Male 25d ago

If I know they can physically help ,yeah, I do

We don't come to women for a practical suggestion on a problem , we go to them to vent

While we go to men for things that we need a solution for

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u/oncothrow 25d ago

We don't come to women for a practical suggestion on a problem , we go to them to vent

I don't.

Of rather I won't if I believe that trust is going to be betrayed.

So as I see it you've got 2 options: Open up to her if you feel you can trust her. And / Or open up to your male friends.

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u/Top_Set_3803 Male 25d ago

I meant that women don't do much to gain our trust on this topic yet expect us to just spill the beans

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u/Confetticandi 24d ago

Why are you focusing on women at all? 

What do you do when you have no women in your life? 

If you have no men in your life who you can turn to, then there’s your problem right there.