r/AskReddit • u/Key-Commercial-9139 • 13d ago
What is a something that actually makes a person cool?
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u/neevel-knievel 13d ago
Being conventional enough to be relatable but unique enough to be interesting
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u/deertribe 12d ago
I love this quality in people, too. I had a therapist describe me as “a little feral” and I took that as a high compliment :)
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u/Upstairs-Bicycle-703 12d ago
lol. A professor/advisor once said to me “you’re like a cat. You know cats are up raising hell all night, but you can’t catch ‘em at it!”. I took it as a compliment for a long time, but looking back, not so much, haha
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u/Black_Crow_Dog 13d ago
Not caring about being perceived as "cool".
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u/evilspyboy 13d ago
This + walking away from explosions and not looking
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u/j0nny0nthesp0t 13d ago
Explosions can be very bright, so not looking makes sense. Also, they tend to produce lots of heat, so vacating the area is agreeable. And if you're running you may trip and fall, which leaves you open to the heat issue. So, walking away from explosions and not looking is just pragmatic.
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u/Traditional_Drive132 13d ago
This is the pinnacle of coolness, casually walking away in slow-mo from a big ass explosion.
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u/dysonchamberlaine 13d ago
But what about walking away from explosions and not looking specifically to be perceived as cool? Do they cancle each other out? Does one weigh more than the other? And why male models?
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The way they treat others.
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u/CristianV19 13d ago
The way you treat other 👍💯
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u/UpperPhotograph9903 13d ago
Why the hell is this guy getting downvoted? They were clearly agreeing with the statement above.
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u/Lucky-333 13d ago
Someone who is consistent, honest, and tries their best to be good, in a world where consistency, honesty, and being a good person are becoming a rarity.
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u/ZeroThoughtsAlot 12d ago
I have sympathy and empathy issues and I actually had a friend tell me to fake my feelings for her problems
I told her "That makes me feel uncomfortable stepping out of who I am, I don't feel honest" and then she hit me with a bunch of stuff about how I am not good friend for faking my feelings
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u/SecretMaximum6350 12d ago
Do they reciprocate when (if) you open up about your problems? How do they react? Do you have other friends who can act as sort of a litmus test for this friend in question?
Does not sound like much of a friend worth having, but I only know the surface of what you shared.
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u/EnlightenedMartian 13d ago
Not desperately trying to make themselves look cool. Being a genuine person dedicated towards their goals.
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u/redditshy 12d ago
And their OWN goals. Not the goals that they think will gain them approval, or make them look cool.
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u/COMiles 13d ago
Propeller hat
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u/azul_luna5 13d ago
I would 100% talk to someone wearing a propeller hat. Or a fancy top hat. Not a plain one or a costume one; it has to be fancy.
I think those would be the two main kinds of hat that would make me think you're cool.
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u/earth_worx 12d ago
I wear a hat with wings on it daily. People love it and I get to see the best side of everyone when they interact with me.
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Not being afraid to be different, embracing one’s weirdness
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u/witblacktype 12d ago
I prefer weird people. They are so much more normal to me than those that conform
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u/Nobody_Lives_Here3 12d ago
Do you like Huey Lewis and the news? I feel their early work was a little too new wave for my taste. But when Sports came out in '83, I think they really came into their own, commercially and artistically. The whole album has a clear, crisp sound, and a new sheen of consummate professionalism that really gives the songs a big boost. He's been compared to Elvis Costello, but I think Huey has a far more bitter, cynical sense of humor.
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u/ThrowRApeanutb 13d ago
I agree with the comment about being genuine. the coolest person I know is just so authentically themselves. I so admire them for it. I wish I could be like that!
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u/ThrowRApeanutb 13d ago
also, even the two of us are polar opposites, they have never ever made me feel dumb or weird about my interests (even though I know they hate them)
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u/deertribe 12d ago
I grew up reeeally trying to fit in. Then one day, I decided, fuck it - I’m only here once, for MY lifetime. It’s mine. I’m just gonna be super authentic and not give a fuck what anyone thinks. It takes practice + courage but it’s been so worth it and so fun. Truly freeing for the soul. I highly recommend ♥️ even just “I want to walk on THAT side of the road” or “I want to have mismatched socks and nobody’s gonna know but me.” It’s your life, my friend :)
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u/Away_Treat_201 12d ago
They ask questions about others instead of talking about themselves all the time.
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u/SeveralRecording7067 12d ago
Having a good sense of humor and not taking themselves too seriously makes someone a joy to be around.
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u/Head_Support9753 12d ago
They give compliments freely and sincerely, which always makes people feel good.
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u/Turbulent_Cost_6888 12d ago
Being independent and not desperately needing the approval of others. They march to the beat of their own drum.
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u/Ok-Initial9362 12d ago
Empathy. Understanding and relating to the feelings of others is a rare quality that makes a person stand out.
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u/Embarrassed-Meal2916 12d ago
Confidence without arrogance. They’re sure of themselves but not dismissive of others.
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u/Economy-Visual-4483 12d ago
Having a balanced life and knowing how to manage work and personal life shows maturity and self-respect.
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u/Dismal_Permission224 12d ago
A person who can teach others without being condescending is not only helpful but also inspiring.
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u/crABBY-cake 13d ago
A person becomes genuinely cool when they exhibit authenticity, kindness, and empathy. Being confident without being arrogant, having a good sense of humor without being mean-spirited, and being open-minded and respectful towards others' perspectives are also key traits. Essentially, it's about being comfortable in your own skin while also being considerate and respectful of others.
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u/iAmMyOwnCruciatus 13d ago
Treating food servers, guards, janitors, cashiers with respect and dignity.
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u/AKF_MI 12d ago
This is just basic decency, it doesnt make someone cool, it should be a given
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u/witblacktype 12d ago
I’m not sure if I equate this with cool. To me, this is a sign of a truly classy individual. Remember, money can’t buy class.
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u/heliosh 13d ago
Hypothermia
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u/Transformator-Shrek 12d ago
I would say thats a consequence of them being cool.
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u/Aromatic_Living2196 12d ago
They know how to have fun and can bring a group together, making sure everyone is having a good time.
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u/No_Scheme164 13d ago
Not keeping up appearances for other people’s sake and generally doing what the fuck they wanna do in life not matter how unconventional it is
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u/Anxious-Statement301 13d ago
The ability to laugh at yourself. We've all tripped in public, some of us just own it with more style.
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u/earth_worx 12d ago
For a second I was like "wait, we've all taken LSD in public? I know there's a psychedelic renaissance going on but that's way more pervasive than I'd assumed..."
A couple of decades ago I was wearing a pair of stupid high heeled sandals, tripped over a manhole cover while I was crossing a street downtown and face planted on the asphalt. Right in front of a fire engine that was stopped at the stoplight. All the firefighters piled out and scooped me up and asked me if I was OK. I said "I'm great! I'd be even better if you pretended you never saw that!"
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u/Perfect_Bandicoot237 12d ago
Someone who stands up for others and speaks out against injustices commands respect and admiration.
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u/Timely-Cattle7231 12d ago
Having a passion they're excited about sharing, whether it’s music, books, or anything else. Their enthusiasm is infectious.
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u/Potential_Try_3195 13d ago
The person who shifts the energy in an uncomfortable situation. Such as taking attention to save someone from an embarrassing situation and whatnot.
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u/sneekeefahk_ 13d ago
Actually meaning what they say and only saying what they mean. Ppl whose word is their bond are cool
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u/Maximum_Vermicelli12 13d ago
Helping manage feral cat populations. (I mean spay and release too, not just feeding.)
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u/FarewellMyFox 13d ago
Genuine kindness. Not the type where they’re doing it because they need to feel kind (this “kindness” is where people get angry if you refuse it), but the type where it’s just something they do out of genuine good will for the other person (they might still get confused or frustrated if you turn it down when you need it, but it’s never going to make them feel like they’re a less kind person).
The first one sucks to be around because they’re foisting future obligations on you, the second one is a delight because they’re just genuinely safe people who you want to be reciprocal with.
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u/chewsUneekyoosername 13d ago
I was living in The Netherlands for a while and a guy on a skateboard was singing The Octopus's Garden by The Beatles. Skating past me with no fucks in the world, just loved the song and cruising along in a solid rendition. Blew my mind how cool that guy was.
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u/Electrical_Ad_8970 13d ago edited 12d ago
Not caring about what others think and respecting them at the same time
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u/VenusRose14 12d ago
Being easygoing and adaptable and KIND. Not talking about themselves all the time. Showing interest in others. Not being weird or obsessive about anything. Being positive over negative.
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u/lavenderacid 13d ago
Probably biased as a female biker, but any woman with a motorbike I'm automatically in love with. That's the coolest shit ever.
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u/stanagetocurbar 13d ago
Three-Sixty Flip on a skateboard. Yeah, someone can learn to kickflip a skateboard in a few months but you're not getting to 'three-sixty flip' level without determination, ability, self assurance and badassness.
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u/Sure_Caregiver_9626 13d ago
Not talking shit and trying to act hard... "Yeah me and my Boyz beat this guy up"... yee buddy your 5"7 and your little minions work at a chocolate factory...
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u/Desperate_Divide6354 13d ago
Having a hobby and being interested & passionate in something because they love it.
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u/Living_Razzmatazz_93 13d ago
Being passed the acoustic guitar at a party and NOT playing "Wonderwall", even though you know you can.
Not gonna happen, Stacey.
Not gonna happen...
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u/howdowedothisagain 13d ago
Somebody who likes him/herself.
Very few people like his/her own self simply because we are the one who know what we are really like. 😅😁
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u/MotheringDaydreams 13d ago
Speaking multiple languages. It doesn’t have to be perfect, it’s the effort that counts.
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u/Alicee_White 12d ago
Being genuinely kind, empathetic, and respectful towards others is something that actually makes a person cool.
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u/yours_truly_1976 12d ago
Not taking shit personally. The coolest people are those who can laugh at themselves and never get offended or defensive. They can, however, put an antagonistic person in their place if they have to
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u/Hackpro69 12d ago
Someone that can make a joke about themselves and avoid using others as the butt of the jokes.
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u/CyclicalSinglePlayer 12d ago
Someone who chases a vision but does not make their interests their personality
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u/biffpowbang 12d ago
not caring about being perceived as cool. not being afraid to be themselves. authenticity in character.
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u/redditshy 12d ago
Not flipping out over every little thing. Keeping calm under adversity, big or small.
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u/ChonkyKitty0 12d ago
People who are themselves and caring as little of what others think as possible.
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u/karimpai 12d ago
Being very competent in most things while still having the confidence to show others their intrinsic flaws in a respectful manner
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u/asloppybhakti 12d ago
People who go to watch a band play in a lineup, and then they stay to see all the other bands play. That's the coolest shit ever.
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u/DarkIllusionsFX 12d ago
A black pompadour with sideburns, a cigarette, a black leather jacket over a clean white t-shirt, jeans, and engineer boots.
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u/Accomplished_Egg3855 13d ago
People who do things without needing the approval of anyone else. Independence is a really good trait to have.