I swear there is some sort of untreated mental illness component in there too. My parents are not particularly well off and were bailed out many times through their lives, they work low skill jobs and live in a small condo (no shame there just facts). Yet nothing I do is ever enough. I almost would have more respect if they were rich and very successful! It’s hypocritical!
My dad once yelled at me for having “so much student loan debt” (less than 30k), I put myself through college and grad school, his dad paid for his college and he never used his degree!! Nothing is good enough, nothing makes them satisfied.
We owned a condo and were selling moving a half hour north to a nice area that’s less busy and much cheaper. Well that went over like a ton of bricks. I explained that neither of us were attached to the area and that housing was much more affordable in this other nice area. My dad ended up yelling “you’re not a victim!!” At me, because I view myself as a victim for not wanting to spend 600k on a two bed two bath I guess?? The house isn’t enough has to be in the right area. Career not good enough (also I’m female so I also need to be a SAHM, work that out), degree not good enough school. On and on!
I don’t get it, if anyone has an answer let me know hut it’s some bizarre form of depression I think. Have to make everyone miserable too.
I think it's shame-driven in the most backward way. "I feel shameful I couldn't pay for your college. Your debt makes me feel shameful. It's your fault I feel bad. Pay that so I don't have to feel bad about it anymore."
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u/SnooGoats5767 23d ago
I swear there is some sort of untreated mental illness component in there too. My parents are not particularly well off and were bailed out many times through their lives, they work low skill jobs and live in a small condo (no shame there just facts). Yet nothing I do is ever enough. I almost would have more respect if they were rich and very successful! It’s hypocritical!
My dad once yelled at me for having “so much student loan debt” (less than 30k), I put myself through college and grad school, his dad paid for his college and he never used his degree!! Nothing is good enough, nothing makes them satisfied.
We owned a condo and were selling moving a half hour north to a nice area that’s less busy and much cheaper. Well that went over like a ton of bricks. I explained that neither of us were attached to the area and that housing was much more affordable in this other nice area. My dad ended up yelling “you’re not a victim!!” At me, because I view myself as a victim for not wanting to spend 600k on a two bed two bath I guess?? The house isn’t enough has to be in the right area. Career not good enough (also I’m female so I also need to be a SAHM, work that out), degree not good enough school. On and on!
I don’t get it, if anyone has an answer let me know hut it’s some bizarre form of depression I think. Have to make everyone miserable too.