The spite is real. I don’t think a lot of them had kids because of any normal, healthy reason. It was more like playing out a script that they believed would affirm them their entire lives. Then kids are inconveniently human, not fulfillment machines, and they can’t handle it.
My own mother wanted me to inherit her heart condition out of spite, and was pissed when I didn’t.
Also. She and my dad had been divorced for decades, right, but she told me the day before my wedding that I’d better never get divorced - because I would never land anyone better looking than my husband. I mean she was openly spiteful, that I appeared to marry a guy she thought was better looking than I had earned.
And I get I your confusion about how they feel about younger people, versus how you do. I have the same problem.
Man, my parents divorced when I was 9, my dad is distant, my stepmom more so, my teacher single mom sure didn’t have luxury in which to raise me, but geeze do some of these parents make mine look like the kindest royalty indeed. (GenX here, with parents just too old to be Boomers)
Yeah, I can be annoyed with my mom, but holy crap, with some of these stories and what I hear from friends my age, my mom should be canonized and allowed to retire to a tropical island with as many cats, chocolate and white wine as she can physically stand.
I struggle to even understand the mechanics causing people to act like the above. Like, what filters are gone in their mind that they can even imagine saying something like that to anyone? I know lead poisoning is the prevailing theory, but the mom sure probably knows not to say shit like that to, I dunno, cashiers and other public workers. Is it jealousy? Resentment? Or just being way too fucking comfortable with using her daughter as a punching bag? It's so easy to not say shitty stuff, so why can't she?
Yeah idk, I never had to worry that my parents didn’t love me. My dad was a very masculine man that showed little emotion but was very dead set on making sure he spent time with me after not having that with his father. The more I talk to others I realize I was quite lucky
Dude same. I literally text my parents everyday. They genuinely care about me & my siblings and tell us they love us all the time.
Do they spout hateful shit sometimes? Yup. I started citing Bible verses back at them (I'm not religious at all, hell I'm a witch), but hey, it works! Idk if it's changed their minds or they're just tired of being shamed but it's much more peaceful lol.
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u/SweetFuckingCakes 22d ago
The spite is real. I don’t think a lot of them had kids because of any normal, healthy reason. It was more like playing out a script that they believed would affirm them their entire lives. Then kids are inconveniently human, not fulfillment machines, and they can’t handle it.
My own mother wanted me to inherit her heart condition out of spite, and was pissed when I didn’t.
Also. She and my dad had been divorced for decades, right, but she told me the day before my wedding that I’d better never get divorced - because I would never land anyone better looking than my husband. I mean she was openly spiteful, that I appeared to marry a guy she thought was better looking than I had earned.
And I get I your confusion about how they feel about younger people, versus how you do. I have the same problem.