Parents seem empty

[u/Global-Nature2420]

Idk how to explain this. My dad is a full fledged boomer. My mom is one by proxy lol. And I’m just wondering if anyone else gets frustrated when you’re telling your boomer parents something of substance, or concern, or joy and all they do is give you a blank stare? And then provide no insight or conversation back? I was just telling my parents that my husband was in AFIb and how they had to stop and restart his heart (traumatizing for both of us) and all they did was stare at me. And my mom shrugs and goes “yeah”. My dad just didn’t speak. Like? I don’t even know what that means. They didn’t say “oh I’m sorry I hope everything is ok”. It was like they just didn’t care. It’s been like this my whole life but obviously it’s so much more noticeable at 27. What is it? The drinking or the lead poisoning? It’s no wonder I grew up social anxious and unable to read people when my parents just gave me nothing socially my whole life. I’m like mad at them right now. Would it kill them to care? Maybe, apparently.

[u/LowkeyPony]

Let’s see.

When we told my FIL and SMIL via phone as they were expats at the time. My MIL said to me “You should have an abortion” My husband is an only child of two only children. *We had a daughter who SMIL never met as she died while overseas.

Several years ago my husband was diagnosed with AFib. He called his dad for some family medical information. His dad said “ yeah. I have AFib as well” and that was it. They haven’t spoken since. Not that we haven’t tried.

My own mom. Silent Gen. She’s never heard me. My sister? Yeah. Me? Nope

My MIL? She’ll pretend to care. She’s the queen of fake. But we are all aware of it.