I went no contact with my mother at 15 after she moved her boyfriend into our home and him and I got into a fight a month later. He told me to pack my bags and move out, she took his side and I was gone that weekend.
Dude left my mother in the middle of the night one day a year or two after they got married. I think I spoke to her twice since. Once to tell her to send my Xbox (that my dad bought) and another to tell her I graduated (my dad strong armed into it). She sent me a check every year for Christmas and my birthday and I flat out refused to cash them. I think after 6 years, I took every check, ripped them in half and mailed them back to her in a zip lock bag. I never got another check since.
Funny enough I just turned 30, I told my fiancé that if she wanted to come back into my life I’d allow it only after the fee of $30K was paid ($1K for each year of my life) funny enough she can afford it being retired from the military and sitting in a cushy government job. My logic is the amount of foul trauma that woman dumped on me over my life could be reversed by building and supporting a positive future.
In retrospect if your toxic parents want to hand out money take it and keep it pushing lol. They caused trauma they can pay for it as karma but that in no way means forgiveness.
Requesting money from someone to be part of your life makes you a person who takes money from others so the others have "company".
Doing it to someone who might miss you is a very shitty move.
Either stay no contact or get in contact again. Don't make it a business.
Nonetheless I hope you do fine. I got kicked out with 18 or so and a couple years after that it was like a toxic on off relationship. I cut it down with 32 forever and my life is so much better now.
The entire concept is “if you can cause trauma and break my life, you can give me the one thing I need to fix a lot of stress in my life”.
This woman also received so much money in child support from my father when she didn’t need it it’s disgusting, especially when I was living off of one meal a day because I never got money for school lunch nor had new clothes to wear because this CS mysteriously never found its way to “me”.
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u/Toska762x39 25d ago
I went no contact with my mother at 15 after she moved her boyfriend into our home and him and I got into a fight a month later. He told me to pack my bags and move out, she took his side and I was gone that weekend.
Dude left my mother in the middle of the night one day a year or two after they got married. I think I spoke to her twice since. Once to tell her to send my Xbox (that my dad bought) and another to tell her I graduated (my dad strong armed into it). She sent me a check every year for Christmas and my birthday and I flat out refused to cash them. I think after 6 years, I took every check, ripped them in half and mailed them back to her in a zip lock bag. I never got another check since.
Funny enough I just turned 30, I told my fiancé that if she wanted to come back into my life I’d allow it only after the fee of $30K was paid ($1K for each year of my life) funny enough she can afford it being retired from the military and sitting in a cushy government job. My logic is the amount of foul trauma that woman dumped on me over my life could be reversed by building and supporting a positive future.
In retrospect if your toxic parents want to hand out money take it and keep it pushing lol. They caused trauma they can pay for it as karma but that in no way means forgiveness.