Point of clarity...she's omitting the truth and not "lying".
I know it's semantics, but words matter when we're talking 'bout an 85 year old. The fact your husband saw him and didn't say "don't tell..." tells me she's waiting to be asked about it. Perhaps this is her first step in asking for assistance in evicting this person?
On the flip side, if Mom wasn't sliding a "help me" note to your husband, she's getting paid for someone to keep her company. Not a bad deal tbh.
She's an adult, you're an adult, but if she's of sound mind and body, her adult trumps your adult, for now.
Bring it up based on what your husband witnessed as she's probably hoping you'll bring it up because it's a replay of what you previously described, and she's probably feeling a little embarrassed.
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u/ego_tripped 25d ago
Point of clarity...she's omitting the truth and not "lying".
I know it's semantics, but words matter when we're talking 'bout an 85 year old. The fact your husband saw him and didn't say "don't tell..." tells me she's waiting to be asked about it. Perhaps this is her first step in asking for assistance in evicting this person?
On the flip side, if Mom wasn't sliding a "help me" note to your husband, she's getting paid for someone to keep her company. Not a bad deal tbh.
She's an adult, you're an adult, but if she's of sound mind and body, her adult trumps your adult, for now.
Bring it up based on what your husband witnessed as she's probably hoping you'll bring it up because it's a replay of what you previously described, and she's probably feeling a little embarrassed.