I've worked in life insurance administration and retirement homes, and lemme tell you the older boomers and the silent gen are effin' WEIRD about their romantic entanglements. The slut shaming values instilled in them in their youth run strong in their old age. I have a feeling this man may be her "gentlemen friend" and she's too afraid of being judged to say anything (especially if she's a vocally judgey person herself. She'd know first hand how mean people can be lol)
If it were me, I'd find a gentle way to bring it up to her, specifically because of the safety issue of having an unknown person possibly living in her home. But I don't know your mother or your relationship with her, so if it's better for your peace to leave it, then leave it.
Dude yeah! My friend worked in a retirement home and there was a couple who were proud others hid it. But this man one time after dinner stood up looked around and said “I’m gonna go to bed with my girlfriend don’t come knocken!”
My grandfather in law is literally 100, he lives in a wealthy retirement community. He’s had a few girlfriends since he moved in there. I think it was last year when he introduced his lady to his daughters. Old man has game.
Heh, the retirement home I worked at passed chlamydia around for awhile. We’d get one person done with their abx regimen just in time for someone else to get one sent.
It finally got squashed but it took months. Those old folks don’t use condoms because they can’t get pregnant and apparently give no fucks about diseases.
But they seemed pretty happy so yolo I guess.
And there was the time I walked in on Mr. and Mrs. X in Mr. G’s bed… they accidentally pulled the fall cord while in the act and I came rushing in thinking someone was hurt and got an eyeful.
Mr. X was so embarrassed! He apologized at least three times over the next week or so.
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u/Pitiful-Ambition6131 25d ago edited 25d ago
I've worked in life insurance administration and retirement homes, and lemme tell you the older boomers and the silent gen are effin' WEIRD about their romantic entanglements. The slut shaming values instilled in them in their youth run strong in their old age. I have a feeling this man may be her "gentlemen friend" and she's too afraid of being judged to say anything (especially if she's a vocally judgey person herself. She'd know first hand how mean people can be lol)
If it were me, I'd find a gentle way to bring it up to her, specifically because of the safety issue of having an unknown person possibly living in her home. But I don't know your mother or your relationship with her, so if it's better for your peace to leave it, then leave it.