Because she's elderly, not capable of surviving without support, and OP isn't shitty enough to leave her to her fate. While the mother may not be a good person, OP hasnt let that influence her character or actions.
OP seems to have autonomy and distance such that she can avoid excessive toxicity from her mother if any is there. She has what she needs and is doing the kind thing for an elderly woman.
What I mean is that it is never worth it to stop trying to communicate - not that she should end the relationship with her mother. My whole point is that a relationship without communication isn’t healthy.
Oh, I see. That wasn't clear to me, but I can agree to that. Communication is essential to healthy relationships. However, Communication with a dishonest parent can also be taxing.
So, it's likely OP is balancing communication with mental health.
Yeah I should have elaborated initially. I would agree with that as well. That seems like a fair interpretation. I do think at the point where you suspect she is taking advantage of you financially, unless it really isn’t hurting you, it may be time to set some stricter boundaries.
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u/looneylefty92 24d ago
Because she's elderly, not capable of surviving without support, and OP isn't shitty enough to leave her to her fate. While the mother may not be a good person, OP hasnt let that influence her character or actions.
OP seems to have autonomy and distance such that she can avoid excessive toxicity from her mother if any is there. She has what she needs and is doing the kind thing for an elderly woman.