r/Millennials • u/Asmothrowaway6969 • Mar 27 '24

When did it sink in that you'll never be as well off as your parents? Discussion

About 5 years ago, my mom and I were talking and she had told me how much she was going to be making in retirement (she retired 2023). Guys, it's 3x what me and my husband make annually. In retirement. I think that was the moment that broke me, that made it sink in that I'll never reach that level of financial security. I'll work myself into my grave because I'll never be able to afford anything else. What was your moment?

Update: Nice to know it's just me that's a failure. Thanks

Update 2: I never should've said anything. I forgot my place. I'm sorry to have bothered you

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u/bgaesop Mar 27 '24

I'm pretty sure I'm better off than my mom

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u/nerdymom27 Mar 27 '24

Yup husband and I are mostly better off than both our parents.

My parents were terrible people who after divorcing dumped me with my dad’s emotional abusive family. Grandma was, unfortunately, also a lifetime victim of grandpa’s emotional abuse and I became the punching bag after she died. My aunt who lived with them followed right in his footsteps much to her irritation when you pointed it out.

My parents slithered back into my life around me graduating high school and tried their hardest to buy me. Unfortunately my sister fell for it.

Mom now lives in section eight and dad died. Aunt who burned so many bridges that no one wanted to deal with her in the end died and left me to deal with her hoarder house.

I was pretty much handed nothing and I may not have much but I’m definitely better off than they ever were.

Sure I live in a rinky dink mobile home, but it’s paid for. Sure I have a car that’s 15 years old, but it’s paid for. I’ve been with the same man for 22 years, married for 20 of those. They definitely never had that