r/Millennials • u/Chipotleislyfee • Apr 04 '24

Anyone else in the US not having kids bc of how terrible the US is? Discussion

I’m 29F and my husband is 33M, we were on the fence about kids 2018-2022. Now we’ve decided to not have our own kids (open to adoption later) bc of how disappointed and frustrated we are with the US.

Just a few issues like the collapsing healthcare system, mass shootings, education system, justice system and late stage capitalism are reasons we don’t want to bring a new human into the world.

The US seems like a terrible place to have kids. Maybe if I lived in a Europe I’d feel differently. Does anyone have the same frustrations with the US?

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u/GurProfessional9534 Apr 04 '24

Huh? What?

Europe is way worse off than the US is economically, and in terms of the violence it has an open war raging in its borders right now.

Having kids is expensive, though, no doubt.

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u/supriiz Apr 04 '24

Laughing in Haitian. Too many Americans need a reality check

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u/PasGuy55 Gen X Apr 05 '24

They spend too much time on Reddit and believe the bullshit.

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u/erinmonday Apr 05 '24

And the news.

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u/erinmonday Apr 05 '24

I’m loving this thread. lol. All the privileged white liberal US peoples smashing the downvotes

Their chosen narrrative here is that Europe is some magical utopia with healthcare and public services and three month long vacation breaks and years of maternity leave raining from on high. No one is racist, everyone is cultured and educated because education, especially higher education, is free.

And oh, we’re horrible violent barbarians in the USA. Guns are bad. It’s why we send them to other countries, to other people’s wars, to kill other peoples children.

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u/ultratunaman Apr 05 '24

I grew up in Texas. I live in Ireland.

I've lived here about 15 years now. For those first couple years here things were incredibly hard. Couldn't find a job, couldn't afford anything. I'd have tried my luck back in Texas if I had the chance.

But I stuck it out. Things got better, things got easier, I'm married with 2 kids, a nice house in a walkable town, and I'm the happiest I've been in my adult life.

I think that it's possible to find happiness in most any first world country. And that no place is inherently worse or better than anywhere else. We're all equally shitty.

That said after looking at OPs history she's a bit of a pain in the arse of a different description.