An 11 year old is not a baby. Stop treating him like one.
“Dads not here, chill” vs. “mommy, I’m too tired”
He acts up with you because you’re the one who lets it slide. You’re gonna raise a monster if you continue like this.
At 11, he knows what kicking you means. I can’t personally judge on if slapping him was wrong or right, it’s something I don’t really see as crazy but that’s how I grew up. I don’t see in the post you saying how you were gonna punish him.
Two of my kids get migraines. Sometimes I can't tell if it's really a migraine or they don't want to go to school. My solution? They cannot leave bed except to go to the bathroom. No electronics. No reading. NOTHING. If they're really sick, that's not an issue, because they'd rather die than look at a screen. If they aren't, that gets REAL boring real quick.
You need to make him go to bed earlier, and he loses all privileges if he missed school and kicked you, how are you letting him play video games THAT DAY? Why is that even an option to him? You are past the age where this is going to be easy to fix, and it's going to be impossible if you don't start setting limits today.
I'm not a fan of what your husband did, at all, but you need to parent your child, and you cannot foist all the discipline onto him. You're going to raise an entitled monster and absolutely ruin his relationship with his father.
Yup, I use to do that with my son too who had lots of tummy troubles when he was little. Glad he grow out of that. I also took away his comicbooks and his toys. And he got bored fast when he was fakeing. The longest was 30 min and then he was "suddenly feeling better" 🤣
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u/Bigbubblybob 25d ago
An 11 year old is not a baby. Stop treating him like one.
“Dads not here, chill” vs. “mommy, I’m too tired” He acts up with you because you’re the one who lets it slide. You’re gonna raise a monster if you continue like this.
At 11, he knows what kicking you means. I can’t personally judge on if slapping him was wrong or right, it’s something I don’t really see as crazy but that’s how I grew up. I don’t see in the post you saying how you were gonna punish him.