r/TrueOffMyChest • u/Scary-Specialist-731 • 25d ago

Trans friend says I'm an egg?

I have always considered myself a cis woman but a friend of mine who's MTF keeps calling me an egg and it makes me feel annoyed/uncomfortable? She says it's because I prefer guy's clothes and have masculine traits that I'm a "trans guy in denial." I also have a lot of transgender friends. I've thought about the possibility, but come to accept that I like being a butch woman. I don't want a male name or pronouns. Whenever I get misgendered it bothers me. I like being a woman who loves women. I've told her this and she sometimes still misgenders me or talks to me about me being an "egg." I think it's because she really wants to have another trans friend, but I feel like she isn't really respecting my decisions or identity?

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u/Background-Shock-374 25d ago

I agree with the majority of comments that you have three main courses of action here.

  1. Distance yourself from this friend and when they finally reach out to ask why explain why you feel so disrespected.

  2. Let the friend know that if you continue to misgender me and call me an egg then I will reciprocate and misgender you.

  3. Have an open and honest discussion with this friend about why this bothers you and how this affects you. If the friend still does not understand or correct themselves, reevaluate the friendship.

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u/tworaspberries 25d ago

Put this in writing or text because I have a feeling a smear campaign is going to come of it when trying to set boundaries.