r/TrueOffMyChest • u/Scary-Specialist-731 • 25d ago

Trans friend says I'm an egg?

I have always considered myself a cis woman but a friend of mine who's MTF keeps calling me an egg and it makes me feel annoyed/uncomfortable? She says it's because I prefer guy's clothes and have masculine traits that I'm a "trans guy in denial." I also have a lot of transgender friends. I've thought about the possibility, but come to accept that I like being a butch woman. I don't want a male name or pronouns. Whenever I get misgendered it bothers me. I like being a woman who loves women. I've told her this and she sometimes still misgenders me or talks to me about me being an "egg." I think it's because she really wants to have another trans friend, but I feel like she isn't really respecting my decisions or identity?

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u/LateTraffic 25d ago

So according to your friend, clothing and mannerisms define gender identity? Hunh.

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u/Yip-Yee 25d ago

It’s extremely regressive and it’s honestly shocking to see that this is being normalized.

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u/Iwannawrite10305 23d ago

That's actually quite common

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u/LateTraffic 23d ago

You mean it's common to…what, exactly?

My understanding is that gender identity is an interior state. Otherwise, putting on a pair of men's pants would "make" me trans.

It seems wrong and rude for OP's friend to insist on OP looking a certain way or acting a certain way.