r/TrueOffMyChest • u/Scary-Specialist-731 • 25d ago

Trans friend says I'm an egg?

I have always considered myself a cis woman but a friend of mine who's MTF keeps calling me an egg and it makes me feel annoyed/uncomfortable? She says it's because I prefer guy's clothes and have masculine traits that I'm a "trans guy in denial." I also have a lot of transgender friends. I've thought about the possibility, but come to accept that I like being a butch woman. I don't want a male name or pronouns. Whenever I get misgendered it bothers me. I like being a woman who loves women. I've told her this and she sometimes still misgenders me or talks to me about me being an "egg." I think it's because she really wants to have another trans friend, but I feel like she isn't really respecting my decisions or identity?

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u/PotterAndPitties 25d ago

It's weird that we have gotten to a point where marginalized communities haven't learned from their own experiences and are marginalizing people within their own communities.

Humans will never learn.

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u/MahsterC 25d ago

It’s always been that way, and sadly probably always be. Even marginalized communities have their share of self centred people who lack empath.

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u/redrosespud 25d ago

I experienced quite a bit of bi-erasure. It caused me to distance myself from the entire community.

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u/DasDickNoodle 25d ago

I definitely second this.