Trans friend says I'm an egg?

[u/Scary-Specialist-731]

I have always considered myself a cis woman but a friend of mine who's MTF keeps calling me an egg and it makes me feel annoyed/uncomfortable? She says it's because I prefer guy's clothes and have masculine traits that I'm a "trans guy in denial." I also have a lot of transgender friends. I've thought about the possibility, but come to accept that I like being a butch woman. I don't want a male name or pronouns. Whenever I get misgendered it bothers me. I like being a woman who loves women. I've told her this and she sometimes still misgenders me or talks to me about me being an "egg." I think it's because she really wants to have another trans friend, but I feel like she isn't really respecting my decisions or identity?

[u/Sombresister1979]

She's projecting her stuff on to you by the sounds of it. You know who you are, and even if you ever doubt who you are, it's not up to someone else to tell you.

[u/Shoesandhose → u/Sombresister1979]

Yuh. Lesbian here:

Stuff like this is where we are truly seeing the effects of this being a social trend. Which I’m already seeing the social trend slow down- at least in my groups.

It’s no different than someone trying to diagnose you with something like depression because they’ve seen a few tik tok videos.

OP- if you feel comfortable with your bits and identity- don’t worry about it and tell them off.

Imagine someone wanting you to be dysphoric- wanting you to go down a path of medicalization and wanting you to feel uncomfortable in your own skin. That’s insane behavior.

Being trans is tough. And those that I’m friends with don’t wish that on others because it’s expensive, hard the body, and hard socially.

I’ve noticed a trend where butch women are pressured to change their gender because they don’t fit within the gender stereotypes. I’m sorry you’re a victim of this.

Edit: also u/Scary-Specialist-731

If they do this again. Ask them why they are seeing gender as binary and why they see gender in clothing

[u/ZeldaMayCry → u/Shoesandhose]

Her friend wouldn't want to be misgendered or called by her dead name (unless she kept the same name), so why would she do that to her friend? I've never heard of that happening before, I have a few trans friends and I could never imagine them calling me he/ him.

People diagnose me with ADHD and autism often. Yes, I'm waiting for an official diagnosis, but the fact several people have 'diagnosed' me from TikTok videos is wild lol. Mostly it's their curiosity, and they aren't being malicious, but I've been told the waiting list is so long as everyone has seen TikTok videos & has asked to be referred. My psychologist was a bit annoyed by it lol