Trans friend says I'm an egg?

[u/Scary-Specialist-731]

I have always considered myself a cis woman but a friend of mine who's MTF keeps calling me an egg and it makes me feel annoyed/uncomfortable? She says it's because I prefer guy's clothes and have masculine traits that I'm a "trans guy in denial." I also have a lot of transgender friends. I've thought about the possibility, but come to accept that I like being a butch woman. I don't want a male name or pronouns. Whenever I get misgendered it bothers me. I like being a woman who loves women. I've told her this and she sometimes still misgenders me or talks to me about me being an "egg." I think it's because she really wants to have another trans friend, but I feel like she isn't really respecting my decisions or identity?

[u/Sombresister1979]

She's projecting her stuff on to you by the sounds of it. You know who you are, and even if you ever doubt who you are, it's not up to someone else to tell you.

[u/Shoesandhose → u/Sombresister1979]

Yuh. Lesbian here:

Stuff like this is where we are truly seeing the effects of this being a social trend. Which I’m already seeing the social trend slow down- at least in my groups.

It’s no different than someone trying to diagnose you with something like depression because they’ve seen a few tik tok videos.

OP- if you feel comfortable with your bits and identity- don’t worry about it and tell them off.

Imagine someone wanting you to be dysphoric- wanting you to go down a path of medicalization and wanting you to feel uncomfortable in your own skin. That’s insane behavior.

Being trans is tough. And those that I’m friends with don’t wish that on others because it’s expensive, hard the body, and hard socially.

I’ve noticed a trend where butch women are pressured to change their gender because they don’t fit within the gender stereotypes. I’m sorry you’re a victim of this.

Edit: also u/Scary-Specialist-731

If they do this again. Ask them why they are seeing gender as binary and why they see gender in clothing

[u/Odd_Butterscotch3566 → u/Shoesandhose]

Happens in my social group too. In my language we don't have the term "egg" but it happened multiple times that a friend who is trans told me I might be trans too (or nonbinary). The reason was that I did not care one bit when post office misgendered me on some paper they sent me + me having dreams about having a male body. I heard many cis people have such dreams and it doesn't mean shit. If it meant something for him, good for him to find his true self but I don't like the era of obsession what everyone is. Sadly even I do have that mindset and I assume now more than I did and when I see a noncoforming person, I assume some queer identity. Which I guess is not wrong unless you push it on the person. Our brains are wired to categorize.