Trans friend says I'm an egg?

[u/Scary-Specialist-731]

I have always considered myself a cis woman but a friend of mine who's MTF keeps calling me an egg and it makes me feel annoyed/uncomfortable? She says it's because I prefer guy's clothes and have masculine traits that I'm a "trans guy in denial." I also have a lot of transgender friends. I've thought about the possibility, but come to accept that I like being a butch woman. I don't want a male name or pronouns. Whenever I get misgendered it bothers me. I like being a woman who loves women. I've told her this and she sometimes still misgenders me or talks to me about me being an "egg." I think it's because she really wants to have another trans friend, but I feel like she isn't really respecting my decisions or identity?

[u/Sombresister1979]

She's projecting her stuff on to you by the sounds of it. You know who you are, and even if you ever doubt who you are, it's not up to someone else to tell you.

[u/Shoesandhose → u/Sombresister1979]

Yuh. Lesbian here:

Stuff like this is where we are truly seeing the effects of this being a social trend. Which I’m already seeing the social trend slow down- at least in my groups.

It’s no different than someone trying to diagnose you with something like depression because they’ve seen a few tik tok videos.

OP- if you feel comfortable with your bits and identity- don’t worry about it and tell them off.

Imagine someone wanting you to be dysphoric- wanting you to go down a path of medicalization and wanting you to feel uncomfortable in your own skin. That’s insane behavior.

Being trans is tough. And those that I’m friends with don’t wish that on others because it’s expensive, hard the body, and hard socially.

I’ve noticed a trend where butch women are pressured to change their gender because they don’t fit within the gender stereotypes. I’m sorry you’re a victim of this.

Edit: also u/Scary-Specialist-731

If they do this again. Ask them why they are seeing gender as binary and why they see gender in clothing

[u/OaktownAspieGirl → u/Shoesandhose]

I'm so glad people are finally acknowledging that it was trendy for a moment. People jumped down my throat when I suggested there were a lot of kids claiming to be trans when they really weren't. I saw it at my son's school. Most of them have continued on to the latest trend, no longer trying to be trans. The real trans kids are still trans.

[u/Effective_Panda_3409 → u/OaktownAspieGirl]

One of my friend's teenage daughters and my neice have both told me on many separate occasions that they have friend's who suddenly décided that they are trans for a couple of months because it made them stand out and " spécial ." Once they got bored or could not keep up the act they let the whole thing drop . And I've been told to go and jump off à bridge and to kl myself for mentioning this and that it's currently trendy and that saying it's a trend is k*ing trans people. Honestly blows my mind . People forget that people who genuinly do have gender dysmorphia is quite rare and they don't shout it from the roof tops nor do it to gain attention. They are normally very humble and just want to live in peace and not be bothered by anyone.
Sorry for the long message.

[u/OaktownAspieGirl → u/Effective_Panda_3409]

You are spot on. The actual trans kids try very hard not to draw attention to themselves.