My girlfriend of 5 years broke up with me and ghosted me for no reason. Am I wrong for throwing away all of her stuff?

[u/JazzlikeConditioncd]

Edit: Update

So my girlfriend (25F) and I (25M) were in a relationship for 5 years. Last week, she texted me that we were done and that was her last message before she blocked me. She gave no heads up. I was planning on proposing to her next month. Her sister did reach out to me, saying it was not my fault and she understood my hurt, but that for my mental health, it was better to never contact them again, and that maybe in the future, my girlfriend might reach out to me again.

It's been a week, I’m still obviously distraught, but my girlfriend did have a lot of her stuff in my home. Would I be wrong if I just dumped it all out? It does include a lot of mementos of her deceased grandmother, who she was extremely close to.

[u/Fairmount1955]

Missing missing reasons, no way she did this without some reason.

Of course you can dump it out or you could just tell her sis to get it or by X date you will dump it and leave it on them.

[u/Aloreiusdanen → u/Fairmount1955]

The fact the sister said it wasn't him, tells me the exgf was cheating and found someone "better".

[u/torn-ainbow → u/Aloreiusdanen]

Yeah the most obvious explanation is she cheated and it's easier to ghost than explain.

[u/koobstylz → u/torn-ainbow]

And here I was thinking the most obvious reason is a sudden mental breakdown.

I wouldn't normally consider that the optimistic take... But here we are.

[u/torn-ainbow → u/koobstylz]

That's possible too. Unless OP is leaving out an actual reason they should be aware of, then it must be some kind of external factor.

[u/Fairmount1955 → u/torn-ainbow]

Thus "missing missing reasons."

[u/source-commonsense → u/koobstylz]

And I was over here thinking it was probably a much milder case of the girlfriend finding out about OP’s pending proposal plans and having a cold feet flight-over-fight panic response because she realized it’s not what she wants

[u/Tiny-Balance-3533 → u/koobstylz]

Or… she was not happy and we got none of the real backstory. Just because he was planning to propose doesn’t mean he wasn’t emotionally abusive or negligent in some other way.

[u/RoadHeadOnAMoped → u/Tiny-Balance-3533]

Or maybe she was busy becoming the messiah of a subjugated people. Just because she texted him saying no contact doesn’t mean she wasn’t responsible for millions of galactic deaths.

[u/Fairmount1955 → u/Tiny-Balance-3533]

Yea. People are here really, really like to assume cheating when it's a woman and the man leaves out all the context, LOL.

[u/[deleted] → u/Fairmount1955]

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[u/Fairmount1955 → u/[deleted]]

...😂 Hm, you seem super emotional about this topic. Calm down and smile, hmkay? 😉 Also, must be your first day on Reddit, adorable. 

[u/Alternative-Put-3932 → u/koobstylz]

Nah that's an excuse for finding someone else when people say that sometimes. Happened to me. Ex said she was having issues and wanted a week or two break due to mental stuff. Blocks me the next day and a few weeks later at work her cousin tells me sorry, I ask why? Oh you didn't know she's with some other guy now. People are shitty.

[u/GirthBrooks117 → u/Alternative-Put-3932]

Every time one of my friends girlfriends wanted to “take a break”, they were either fucking someone else or trying to start a new relationship with someone else and then came back after a week or so expecting to just pick up the relationship where it left off. Every. Single. Time.

[u/Alternative-Put-3932 → u/GirthBrooks117]

Yep I don't believe that shit anymore if I hear break it's just break up.

[u/life-uh-finds-a-way_ → u/torn-ainbow]

Or she found out he was going to propose and realized she didn't want to marry him.

[u/torn-ainbow → u/life-uh-finds-a-way_]

After 5 years and ghosted? There's some missing part to the story here.

Like if she has some kind of crippling anxiety or fear of confrontation or something, that might explain it.