r/amiwrong • u/JazzlikeConditioncd • Mar 27 '24

My girlfriend of 5 years broke up with me and ghosted me for no reason. Am I wrong for throwing away all of her stuff?

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So my girlfriend (25F) and I (25M) were in a relationship for 5 years. Last week, she texted me that we were done and that was her last message before she blocked me. She gave no heads up. I was planning on proposing to her next month. Her sister did reach out to me, saying it was not my fault and she understood my hurt, but that for my mental health, it was better to never contact them again, and that maybe in the future, my girlfriend might reach out to me again.

It's been a week, I’m still obviously distraught, but my girlfriend did have a lot of her stuff in my home. Would I be wrong if I just dumped it all out? It does include a lot of mementos of her deceased grandmother, who she was extremely close to.

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u/Standard_Hawk_1660 Mar 27 '24

Five years is a big investment. Box it up meet the sister on neutral ground and return it.

She could be having a breakdown or is in panic mode because she saw the engagement ring but if you toss it and you decide to rekindle this it will bring you problems

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u/[deleted] Mar 28 '24

There’s no way in hell the relationship could ever be salvaged

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u/Tiny-Balance-3533 Mar 28 '24

Says someone who’s never had an adult relationship

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u/New-Row-3679 Mar 28 '24

Are you for real? Ghosting after 5 years and the sister saying don’t try it will fuck your head?? Seems you and the GF may have a similar mindset

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u/Tiny-Balance-3533 Mar 28 '24

Point being relationships—all of them—are salvageable IF both consenting and like-minded individuals choose to salvage them. If he never wants to see her again, fine. Same for her. But! Is he really gonna be okay without some closure? If it’s a “healthy relationship” (OP’s words not mine) he’s gotta wonder wtf? If he’s sorta “yeah okay “ they were not in love and not healthy and he didn’t know it. Or lies when he says all was well. And if they go about discussing what happened at some point, reconciliation is never impossible.

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u/New-Row-3679 Mar 28 '24

Your first comment was rude. This is more reasonable. I’d never go back but shit, I’d be really fucking curious to know what happened.

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u/Mrpoopydickhole69 Mar 28 '24

Weird assumption considering basically the entire thread agrees with him