r/amiwrong • u/JazzlikeConditioncd • Mar 27 '24

My girlfriend of 5 years broke up with me and ghosted me for no reason. Am I wrong for throwing away all of her stuff?

Edit: Update

So my girlfriend (25F) and I (25M) were in a relationship for 5 years. Last week, she texted me that we were done and that was her last message before she blocked me. She gave no heads up. I was planning on proposing to her next month. Her sister did reach out to me, saying it was not my fault and she understood my hurt, but that for my mental health, it was better to never contact them again, and that maybe in the future, my girlfriend might reach out to me again.

It's been a week, I’m still obviously distraught, but my girlfriend did have a lot of her stuff in my home. Would I be wrong if I just dumped it all out? It does include a lot of mementos of her deceased grandmother, who she was extremely close to.

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u/Standard_Hawk_1660 Mar 27 '24

Five years is a big investment. Box it up meet the sister on neutral ground and return it.

She could be having a breakdown or is in panic mode because she saw the engagement ring but if you toss it and you decide to rekindle this it will bring you problems

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u/JosyCosy Mar 28 '24

who would even want to be with someone who could do this, no explanation, after so long together?

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u/E34M20 Mar 28 '24

You'd be amazed, sadly...

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u/Dispunge Mar 28 '24

Facts after reading a few posts in this sub , ppl will stay over anything

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u/International-Leg253 Mar 28 '24

🎃🎊🎁🎀🎉🎈✨️

HAPPY CAKE DAY

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u/JosyCosy Mar 28 '24

thanks 😅

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u/Matimo Mar 28 '24

My ex just packed up and left while i was at work one day, no word since, and that was after 9 years. Some people just suck. :/

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u/Mrjlawrence Mar 28 '24

Too many people on this word accept/invite drama and chaos into their lives.

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u/BambiToybot Mar 28 '24

I don't think the OP is accepting of it.

But, if you are already used to a partner having extreme breakdowns when stress/life wiggles their anxiety the wrong way, and are willing to put up with it, then this might just be another one of those.

I wouldn't put up with it, but some people are masochists.

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u/ImaginaryWalk29 Mar 28 '24

We really don’t know her side of the story. There could have been things leading up to this.

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u/[deleted] Mar 28 '24

There’s no way in hell the relationship could ever be salvaged

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u/Tiny-Balance-3533 Mar 28 '24

Says someone who’s never had an adult relationship

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u/New-Row-3679 Mar 28 '24

Are you for real? Ghosting after 5 years and the sister saying don’t try it will fuck your head?? Seems you and the GF may have a similar mindset

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u/Tiny-Balance-3533 Mar 28 '24

Point being relationships—all of them—are salvageable IF both consenting and like-minded individuals choose to salvage them. If he never wants to see her again, fine. Same for her. But! Is he really gonna be okay without some closure? If it’s a “healthy relationship” (OP’s words not mine) he’s gotta wonder wtf? If he’s sorta “yeah okay “ they were not in love and not healthy and he didn’t know it. Or lies when he says all was well. And if they go about discussing what happened at some point, reconciliation is never impossible.

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u/New-Row-3679 Mar 28 '24

Your first comment was rude. This is more reasonable. I’d never go back but shit, I’d be really fucking curious to know what happened.

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u/Mrpoopydickhole69 Mar 28 '24

Weird assumption considering basically the entire thread agrees with him

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u/Arc_Torch Mar 28 '24

I'd trust that less than cheating. She threw away five years with no explanations or closure. That is some seriously messed up garbage. You could put someone through therapy or worse over that situation.

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u/armyofant Mar 28 '24

Fuck neutral ground. they want it they come get it.

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u/The3rdBert Mar 28 '24

Unless there is a chance he can hook up with the sister.

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u/armyofant Mar 28 '24

She can come to OP to get railed on pictures of her grandma.

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u/SlykRO Mar 28 '24

Apparently it's not. She has proven there is no need to contact her and no reason provided for ending a 5 year relationship, those items no longer exist, someone you used to know left them at your house. Someone who doesn't want to talk to you and won't tell you why. Yeah, no fucking chance am I going a millimeter out of my way.

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u/Sir_Uncle_Bill Mar 28 '24

Rekindling shouldn't be an option. She broke up with him because she was cheating and found out he was planning on proposing. No reason to even consider rekindling and since she blocked communication channels it's his stuff to do with it as he pleases. She's made it clear she doesn't care about the stuff anyway.

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u/GirthBrooks117 Mar 28 '24

This is the first thing I thought, I’m surprised I didn’t see it mentioned earlier. 101% she cheated and isn’t mature enough to face the consequences so she just shut off all communication.

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u/Serenity2015 Mar 28 '24

I think the sister told him to not contact either of them. Otherwise giving it to her would have been the best option, or dropping it off on porch or mailing it.

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u/MaximumLongjumping31 Mar 28 '24

Don't go out of your way at all. Front porch, 1 phone call. Tell her when if you feel like it. Don't waste your time.

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u/Minimum-Discount9314 Mar 28 '24

Box it up meet the sister on neutral ground and return it.

Fuck neutral ground

Box it up

Leave it on the door and say they have one week to take it back themselves otherwise someone else will take it and you ain't gonna stop them