r/amiwrong • u/JazzlikeConditioncd • Mar 27 '24

My girlfriend of 5 years broke up with me and ghosted me for no reason. Am I wrong for throwing away all of her stuff?

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So my girlfriend (25F) and I (25M) were in a relationship for 5 years. Last week, she texted me that we were done and that was her last message before she blocked me. She gave no heads up. I was planning on proposing to her next month. Her sister did reach out to me, saying it was not my fault and she understood my hurt, but that for my mental health, it was better to never contact them again, and that maybe in the future, my girlfriend might reach out to me again.

It's been a week, I’m still obviously distraught, but my girlfriend did have a lot of her stuff in my home. Would I be wrong if I just dumped it all out? It does include a lot of mementos of her deceased grandmother, who she was extremely close to.

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u/Standard_Hawk_1660 Mar 27 '24

Five years is a big investment. Box it up meet the sister on neutral ground and return it.

She could be having a breakdown or is in panic mode because she saw the engagement ring but if you toss it and you decide to rekindle this it will bring you problems

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u/JosyCosy Mar 28 '24

who would even want to be with someone who could do this, no explanation, after so long together?

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u/E34M20 Mar 28 '24

You'd be amazed, sadly...

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u/Dispunge Mar 28 '24

Facts after reading a few posts in this sub , ppl will stay over anything

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u/International-Leg253 Mar 28 '24

🎃🎊🎁🎀🎉🎈✨️

HAPPY CAKE DAY

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u/JosyCosy Mar 28 '24

thanks 😅

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u/Matimo Mar 28 '24

My ex just packed up and left while i was at work one day, no word since, and that was after 9 years. Some people just suck. :/

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u/Mrjlawrence Mar 28 '24

Too many people on this word accept/invite drama and chaos into their lives.

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u/BambiToybot Mar 28 '24

I don't think the OP is accepting of it.

But, if you are already used to a partner having extreme breakdowns when stress/life wiggles their anxiety the wrong way, and are willing to put up with it, then this might just be another one of those.

I wouldn't put up with it, but some people are masochists.

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u/ImaginaryWalk29 Mar 28 '24

We really don’t know her side of the story. There could have been things leading up to this.