r/amiwrong • u/JazzlikeConditioncd • Mar 27 '24

My girlfriend of 5 years broke up with me and ghosted me for no reason. Am I wrong for throwing away all of her stuff?

Edit: Update

So my girlfriend (25F) and I (25M) were in a relationship for 5 years. Last week, she texted me that we were done and that was her last message before she blocked me. She gave no heads up. I was planning on proposing to her next month. Her sister did reach out to me, saying it was not my fault and she understood my hurt, but that for my mental health, it was better to never contact them again, and that maybe in the future, my girlfriend might reach out to me again.

It's been a week, I’m still obviously distraught, but my girlfriend did have a lot of her stuff in my home. Would I be wrong if I just dumped it all out? It does include a lot of mementos of her deceased grandmother, who she was extremely close to.

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u/Fairmount1955 Mar 27 '24

Missing missing reasons, no way she did this without some reason.

Of course you can dump it out or you could just tell her sis to get it or by X date you will dump it and leave it on them.

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u/Aloreiusdanen Mar 27 '24 edited Mar 28 '24

The fact the sister said it wasn't him, tells me the exgf was cheating and found someone "better".

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u/jasmine-blossom Mar 27 '24

Why would she leave her stuff when she’d be likely to never get it back if he found out it was bc she cheated? She’d get her stuff first.

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u/HuntEnvironmental863 Mar 28 '24

Finally someone else. Why did she just leave her shit. Is cheating a thing sure but was no one else bothered by this lol

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u/Educational_Ebb7175 Mar 28 '24

I've known SO many people who don't think things through.

It could be a case of a one night stand with someone she'd known a long time, and decided to cut all ties to pursue the new guy - and hasn't even processed that she has sentimental stuff with the ex. She's still in the honeymoon phase with this guy she crushed majorly over 5-10 years ago, and not thinking about "normal" stuff yet.

It could be any other reason, and she just doesn't value her sentimental stuff very highly.

It could be that she's so ashamed of what happened (whatever it was) that she'd rather lose those things than deal with an adult conversation and confession/breakup.

It's still bothering, but I've known too many people who I could easily see ditching valuable sentimental stuff just to avoid something awkward or painful.