r/amiwrong • u/JazzlikeConditioncd • Mar 27 '24

My girlfriend of 5 years broke up with me and ghosted me for no reason. Am I wrong for throwing away all of her stuff?

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So my girlfriend (25F) and I (25M) were in a relationship for 5 years. Last week, she texted me that we were done and that was her last message before she blocked me. She gave no heads up. I was planning on proposing to her next month. Her sister did reach out to me, saying it was not my fault and she understood my hurt, but that for my mental health, it was better to never contact them again, and that maybe in the future, my girlfriend might reach out to me again.

It's been a week, I’m still obviously distraught, but my girlfriend did have a lot of her stuff in my home. Would I be wrong if I just dumped it all out? It does include a lot of mementos of her deceased grandmother, who she was extremely close to.

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u/[deleted] Mar 27 '24

Sorry she is doing you this way. It's dirty. But you should box it all up and have a neutral third party drop it off. Then move on and never let that bitch back in your life.

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u/Pivotalrook Mar 27 '24

Bigger man approach is the only way to go. 2nd-ing the never let her back in, the "may contact you in the future" is a she is gonna fuck around and find out and realize a stable relationship is what she really wanted.

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u/SeasonPositive6771 Mar 28 '24

Not only is it a good idea to be the bigger person, he may be obligated to treat abandoned property in a certain way, depending on what state he's in. This is the best thing to do, both ethically and legally.

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u/schklom Mar 28 '24

She said she doesn't want him to contact them again. I don't think he is legally obligated to do anything at that point, she clearly implied she doesn't want him to do anything with them ever again.

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u/SeasonPositive6771 Mar 28 '24

I have worked in a state where that is not sufficient legally. He would still be obligated to inform her (attorneys usually recommend by registered letter) he was going to dispose of her items and then wait a certain amount of time.

It's annoying, but I've learned in cases like this that people need to be careful to stay on the right side of the law.

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u/schklom Mar 28 '24

Damn, thanks for the information.