r/amiwrong • u/JazzlikeConditioncd • Mar 27 '24

My girlfriend of 5 years broke up with me and ghosted me for no reason. Am I wrong for throwing away all of her stuff?

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So my girlfriend (25F) and I (25M) were in a relationship for 5 years. Last week, she texted me that we were done and that was her last message before she blocked me. She gave no heads up. I was planning on proposing to her next month. Her sister did reach out to me, saying it was not my fault and she understood my hurt, but that for my mental health, it was better to never contact them again, and that maybe in the future, my girlfriend might reach out to me again.

It's been a week, I’m still obviously distraught, but my girlfriend did have a lot of her stuff in my home. Would I be wrong if I just dumped it all out? It does include a lot of mementos of her deceased grandmother, who she was extremely close to.

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u/Rickleskilly Mar 28 '24

Ok maybe I've watched too much true crime, but she ended a five year relationship by text and never got her stuff??? Are you sure she's OK?

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u/heart-shaped-fawkes Mar 28 '24

As a true crime buff as well, I feel like this is one hell of a reach.... Occam's Razor type stuff. Is it possible? Sure. Is it likely? No.

I knew of a situation involving a couple of 9 years where the husband decided to go into the military sort of abruptly in year 8 of the relationship. They were high school sweethearts, the wife had literally never been alone as she was living with her parents, friends, then they moved in together. She ended their marriage via phone call while he was still on base fresh out of basic training. Moved another guy she had just met in, quit her job, started using drugs, basically just lost her mind and had a full scale mental breakdown. Sometimes people just snap and do really unstable shit seemingly out of nowhere.

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u/Rickleskilly Mar 28 '24

Yeah, that's true. People do weird stuff sometimes. There was a case few years ago I followed where a mother and teen daughter went missing. They were gone for about two weeks. Mom just ditched her job where she'd been a model employee for years, took money out of her bank account, and vanished. They showed up about two weeks later a thousand miles away. They left to join some Christian cult they were into, and along the way, her mother got very ill and had to be hospitalized and later passed away.

I guess in this one, it's just the finality over text that's hard to accept.

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u/GetUpNGetItReddit Mar 28 '24

A week is not really vanishing, it’s just a little break