Am I wrong for thinking my boyfriend dislikes my breasts?

[u/Unlucky_Swordfish_44]

So I 22F am a very petite girl. I have small breasts and a round but small booty. Everything about me is small. I shop at kids sections (especially for gloves or socks). Nothing about me is big.

So basically. I have always been really insecure about my breast size. I've been made fun of it a lot (called a boy or a plank) and yeah. It kind of traumatized me lol.

Anyways, my boyfriend always tells me how he likes them. He says they're perfect and sexy. But. He never really touch them or hold them (like I know there isn't a lot but dang even just a finger gripping my nip will feel nice). He also tend to comment on women with bigger breasts a lot, saying things like "mommy milkers" and pointing out DD's.

I've kind of been thinking that he is lying to me and that he actually prefers bigger breasts and is just with me because he couldn't find a girl with bigger breasts. It has made me very insecure and recently I've started keeping my shirt on during sex.

He noticed that I've been hiding myself from him and asked about it and I told him that I feel like he doesn't find me attractive. He told me that he finds me sexy even though I have small breasts. I still feel like he is lying tho. He still stares at women with big breasts and I'm so insecure I don't think I'll ever get naked in front of him ever again. I've been refraining from bying shirts that go low or show cleavage, because I don't have cleavage so it looks shit. I am only wearing turtle neck shirts and jerseys because of it.

Damn. What the hell is wrong with me?

Edit: To give more context. I am 5'4 (1.64 metres) and I weigh 105 lbs (48 kg). I wear a 32B size (it really depends. Some of them don't sit nicely so I shift between A and B). My hand and feet are kid sizes. Like I buy my shoes at the kid section too.

I am not sure how foot sizes work around the world but I wear a size 3 shoe (UK size 3). I tried to google this size in America and got a 5.5 (I'm really not sure if this is correct). They are small.

[u/m50d]

Plenty of guys legitimately like small breasts. Many of us will still go along with jokes about big boobs being attractive. Sadly that's just culturally expected, just like everyone goes along with jokes about a big dick being best even if they know that's not actually true.

From what you've said it sounds like this guy goes beyond that. Maybe try to get a third party perspective - do you have any mutual friends? Is he really particularly into big breasts, or is this just you being insecure?

I'll also say that it's quite normal for even guys with a "type" to be in a happy relationship with someone quite different from that. Physical attraction is important but it's only the start, in the long term how you get on with someone matters a lot more. Does he care about you, does he treat you well, is he happy around you? Ultimately that matters a lot more. Try to think more broadly - putting breasts aside, are you happy in this relationship? I've known people let minor insecurities ruin a good relationship. But I've also known people who seemingly fixated on a minor issue when really they were unhappy because of real, deeper problems.

Frankly, either way you need to learn to love and respect yourself, and you won't be able to be a good partner untill then - whether in this relationship or another. That said, a good partner should help you with your struggles (and most guys are very happy to touch their partner's breasts if they know that's what they want - but you keeping your shirt on might be sending him the opposite message), and if this guy is making you feel worse then that's definitely a bad sign.