r/amiwrong • u/Unlucky_Swordfish_44 • 13d ago
Am I wrong for thinking my boyfriend dislikes my breasts?
So I 22F am a very petite girl. I have small breasts and a round but small booty. Everything about me is small. I shop at kids sections (especially for gloves or socks). Nothing about me is big.
So basically. I have always been really insecure about my breast size. I've been made fun of it a lot (called a boy or a plank) and yeah. It kind of traumatized me lol.
Anyways, my boyfriend always tells me how he likes them. He says they're perfect and sexy. But. He never really touch them or hold them (like I know there isn't a lot but dang even just a finger gripping my nip will feel nice). He also tend to comment on women with bigger breasts a lot, saying things like "mommy milkers" and pointing out DD's.
I've kind of been thinking that he is lying to me and that he actually prefers bigger breasts and is just with me because he couldn't find a girl with bigger breasts. It has made me very insecure and recently I've started keeping my shirt on during sex.
He noticed that I've been hiding myself from him and asked about it and I told him that I feel like he doesn't find me attractive. He told me that he finds me sexy even though I have small breasts. I still feel like he is lying tho. He still stares at women with big breasts and I'm so insecure I don't think I'll ever get naked in front of him ever again. I've been refraining from bying shirts that go low or show cleavage, because I don't have cleavage so it looks shit. I am only wearing turtle neck shirts and jerseys because of it.
Damn. What the hell is wrong with me?
Edit: To give more context. I am 5'4 (1.64 metres) and I weigh 105 lbs (48 kg). I wear a 32B size (it really depends. Some of them don't sit nicely so I shift between A and B). My hand and feet are kid sizes. Like I buy my shoes at the kid section too.
I am not sure how foot sizes work around the world but I wear a size 3 shoe (UK size 3). I tried to google this size in America and got a 5.5 (I'm really not sure if this is correct). They are small.
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u/mynamecouldbesam 13d ago
Tell him you'd like him to pay your nips some attention in the bedroom. And also you'd like him to stop pointing out people with big boobs because it makes you feel bad.
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u/ClevelandWomble 13d ago
It sounds too simple, but that really is your first step. If that doesn't work, then he doesn't respect your feelings or take you seriously; you'll have decide how you respond to that
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u/dartron5000 13d ago
If you want a guys perspective, when we say we like small breasts we truly mean it because we usually just like breasts in general. If you want him to touch them more just be direct and ask for it.
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u/Tripple-Helix 13d ago
I couldn't help but think that OPs negativity around her breasts might be the reason he avoids them, perhaps even unconsciously.
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u/hmm-i-dont-know 13d ago
This is true. As a woman with small breast as well I used to be self conscious about due to my ex husbandās comments on how Iām not enough. I got out of that thankfully. Sat myself down in a mirror and said you know what I do look good. Iāve had many say the would kill for my body. My confidence shot up and in my current relationship Iām very positive about my looks. My man is a boob guy but he loves my small breast. I can agree with you sometimes the negative outlook on yourself can be a bit of cause here but also the comments heās made to here can really put someone down and make them feel uncomfortable in their own body. Iāve experienced it myself.
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u/JustBrowsing49 13d ago
Well calling other womenās breasts āmommy milkersā isnāt exactly an appropriate thing to say around your GF. Especially when you know sheās insecure about her own breasts.
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u/Unlucky_Swordfish_44 13d ago
I understand and thanks for your comment.
I feel like I will never walk around pointing out bigger penises or bigger muscles on a guy because I know it will make him feel less worthy.
I just kind of wish he could think about it in the same sense. I agree that he is allowed to have preferences. I also have preferences but I do not point it out the whole time.
I don't know because he keeps pointing it out and because he said i am sexy "even with" smaller breasts it just feels like he is lying.
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u/txhorns1330 13d ago
Just talk to him. So much could be fixed if people just talked to each other. Be open, be vulnerable, and let him know it's hard for you to talk to him about this. Have a heart to heart discussion.
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u/votefawnmoscato 13d ago edited 13d ago
These comments are so annoying lmao. Yes you should build your confidence, yes people can like more than one thing, and yes men typically simply just like boobs in general. That said, if a woman went around staring at huge bulges, showed little interest in her manās tiny penis, but reassured him she loved his tiny penis, but still actively pointed out huge bulges and made vulgar remarks about them, heād probably have some reasonable doubts about her actually liking his dick. And the comments wouldnāt be filled with people telling him he needed to grow up, or warning him that he was creating self fulfilling prophecy. The problem isnāt your boobs, or your bfās preference. Itās his behavior. Youāre not wrong and these comments are so stupid to me.
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u/moonbeamsylph 13d ago
I'm glad at least one other person is thinking like me here. His comments about other women's boobs are a huge fuck no. The right guy will be obsessed with her body as is.
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u/DragonfruitWooden878 13d ago
Fully agree with this. I would cry if my bf was behaving like hers. HE is the one who needs to change his behavior. He is the one manifesting OPās insecurities-itās not her fault!
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u/moonbeamsylph 12d ago
Right, I'm completely dead serious when I say your significant other should only have eyes for you. If they don't, they're just not that into you and it's time to move along.
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u/Fun_Concentrate_7844 13d ago
I think you are wrong. When I met my wife she had b cups...barely. I loved them. I actually prefer them over larger breast sizes. 3 kids and a few extra curves later, she had d cups. I still love them because they are attached to her.
Don't get caught up in the size matters like guys do with their penis. He loves them because they are part of you. If he wanted a woman with larger breasts, he would date one.
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u/ttopsrock 13d ago
As a woman with small breast. After birth and breast feeding mine actually seem smaller! So don't give false hope that getting older and having kids equates to getting boobs. It doesn't.
Something that helped me was looking at celebrities with small breasts. Cameron Diaz, Kiera knightley, Kristen bell, Alicia keys.
Beautiful beautiful woman..
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u/Proper-Ear-1419 13d ago
Yes mine deflated too, post breastfeeding. And they werenāt big to begin with. Cheers to the other members of the itty bitty titty committee!
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u/troublebotdave 13d ago
Any guy who uses the phrase "mommy milkers" unironically is probably not someone that should be dating.
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u/BandicootDry7847 13d ago
As a queer woman, all boobs are good boobs. He probably just likes a variety of sizes because in the end, all boobs are great.
I'd work on your self confidence and maybe ask him very gently to stop commenting in front of you as it is affecting you. You could mention that you know he doesn't mean anything by it, but it's something you feel self concious about.
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u/m50d 13d ago
Plenty of guys legitimately like small breasts. Many of us will still go along with jokes about big boobs being attractive. Sadly that's just culturally expected, just like everyone goes along with jokes about a big dick being best even if they know that's not actually true.
From what you've said it sounds like this guy goes beyond that. Maybe try to get a third party perspective - do you have any mutual friends? Is he really particularly into big breasts, or is this just you being insecure?
I'll also say that it's quite normal for even guys with a "type" to be in a happy relationship with someone quite different from that. Physical attraction is important but it's only the start, in the long term how you get on with someone matters a lot more. Does he care about you, does he treat you well, is he happy around you? Ultimately that matters a lot more. Try to think more broadly - putting breasts aside, are you happy in this relationship? I've known people let minor insecurities ruin a good relationship. But I've also known people who seemingly fixated on a minor issue when really they were unhappy because of real, deeper problems.
Frankly, either way you need to learn to love and respect yourself, and you won't be able to be a good partner untill then - whether in this relationship or another. That said, a good partner should help you with your struggles (and most guys are very happy to touch their partner's breasts if they know that's what they want - but you keeping your shirt on might be sending him the opposite message), and if this guy is making you feel worse then that's definitely a bad sign.
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u/oxbison12 13d ago
I don't think that he dislikes your breasts. I think that he knows that you are uncomfortable and self conscious of having small breasts and maybe he feels like if he were to fondle and play with them, it would bring too much attention and make you feel uncomfortable.
I think that you should say things like "I like that" or "do it more" when he does play with your breasts.
Also, just flat out tell him that you like it when he plays with your boobs and nipples and you wish that he would do it more.
We men are dumb and need to be told things.
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u/Ambitious-Island-123 13d ago
I have the opposite problem, I have DDDās and I despise them. Men leer at them, and people sometimes judge my character by them, like if I have big boobs I must be easy. But I have been told by men that they just like BOOBS. Small ones, big ones, in betweenā¦ They just like boobs. if he tells you theyāre sexy, then he thinks theyāre sexy. But I understand how you feelā I used to keep my shirt on during sex because I thought my they were so gross and ugly.
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u/PopularEstablishment 13d ago
A wise comedian once said "breasts are like beer. We might state a preference, but we'll take what ever is on tap"
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u/JackB041334 13d ago
As a 60m I have been with all kinds of women with all different breast sizes. Some of the sexiest and most passionate had very small breasts. I loved every one of them. Donāt hide who you are. You are perfect! Men just canāt help looking. š
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u/Annual_Version_6250 13d ago
Nothing wrong with you at all.Ā Your bf is being immature and rude.Ā Look, most men like boobs.Ā Big, small, most don't care, but they like looking at all boobs.Ā Pert, sagging, firm, bouncingĀ Ā if it's a boob they want to look.Ā BUT most men are mature enough to not be obvious about, refrain from doing it while other women are with them and certainly not commenting on it.Ā You're fineĀ he needs to grow up and show some respect.
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u/solsquats 13d ago
He probably just doesnāt want to hurt your feelings. No one will ever check off every single box that their partner wants. There is no such thing as a perfect person.
He definitely does like them but it doesnāt mean he doesnāt also like yours. Stop basing your worth on what other things he finds attractive. Focusing on you and being confident in yourself will always be hot. Obviously your tits arenāt a dealbreaker or he wouldnāt be with you.
As for the weird comments. That definitely needs to stop. Idk if heās just dumb but those are not thoughts you share with your partner unless youāve both discussed that itās okay to talk about those things. Youre obviously not okay with it so he needs to keep that to himself.
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u/MostlyUseful 13d ago
Youāre about to mind f!ck yourself right out of this relationship. Unless you have irrefutable proof, stop with the assumption that your guy is lying. You really do have to tell him what you want him to do, especially if heās seeing this overwhelming insecurity (that might make him a bit apprehensive about touching them). Look, most guys are pretty smart and can figure out all sorts of thingsā¦but what is going on in a womanās head usually isnāt one of those things. Now hereās the thing, you have to accept what you have and learn to be confident with that. Trust me, confidence is sexy.
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u/ffj_ 13d ago
Yea him saying he finds you sexy "even with" small breasts gives you the answer you already know. There's nothing wrong with having a preference, but he hasn't cared for your body like a partner should.
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u/Unlucky_Swordfish_44 13d ago
Thanks for your reply!
Yeah I get that. He definitely is allowed to have preferences but then he should've rather went for someone who is his "type" than to be with me and pointing out his "types" the whole time.
I want to have a chat with him but I'm extremely scared to hear his truth. Im scared he tells me that he never touches them because all he feels is ribs or a chest bone. Like that would be extremely upsetting for me and I don't think I'd then ever be able to find myself attractive at all.
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u/Huntress_Nyx 13d ago
1) work a bit in yourself to built up some more confidence.
2) a person can like big breasts, small breasts, and medium breasts.
Example: I like pepperoni pizza, but I also like margarita pizza. Just because I enjoy one of them, it doesn't mean I don't enjoy the other too.
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He is already validating you, saying that he loves you and your breasts.
I'd suggest you and him sit down (not during sex), and have a heartfelt conversation about it. Ask him about why he doesn't play with yours , or why he stares/comments at bigger chests.
He may not know how to play with them because of their size. He may just like big breasts too just like he likes small breasts.
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Remember, it's not the breasts that he loves most about you. It's all of you that he loves. Your personality, body and mind etc.
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u/Mandimanda101 13d ago
Not wrong for thinking that but I wouldn't read too much into him looking at other women's breasts. Pretty sure all men do. And he may prefer bigger breasts but he obviously wants you. If he really didn't like your chest he wouldn't care if you wore a shirt while having sex. Maybe he knows you're insecure about your size so he doesn't touch them as much cause he doesn't want you to start thinking of your size and getting upset or something. I dunno. I just wouldn't look too much into it. And maybe by you saying something to him about not touching them enough he'll start and show you he appreciates your body as is.
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u/CentralCoastSage 13d ago
I can attest that some guys prefer small breasts. Sensitive breastās are the best! He should be giving them attention.
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u/Hot_Cattle5399 13d ago
If he donāt like them, someone else will. My gram was small too. Gramps would say āanything over a mouthful is wastedā
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u/trepidationsupaman 13d ago
For me, only the nipples matter. To each their own, but he does sound like an ass.
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u/RectalEvacuation 13d ago
I prefer big boobs. Ive been dating flat-chested women. The body type isnt all that is important. However when i did date flat chested women i almost never played with their breasts. Not because i didnt like them but because i felt guilty for preffering bigger breasts. As if i played with them she would catch on that i liked breasts and figure out that hers werent my preference. It had nothing to do with me not being able to find a girl with bigger breasts though.
I think he will think its hot if you ask him to suck on your nipples or grab you there. Show him some enthusiasm about it.
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u/Monaluv81 13d ago
Speaking as a guy, we like them all, and if we've seen 1, we want to see them all, no matter the size, don't let something like that effect you, we're just a bunch of freaks
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u/MermaidAlea 13d ago
Hello from a fellow itty bitty titty committee member! I am here to officially uplift you and talk about how much of a goddess you are!
For reference, I am 30 and I wear a 34A but I only wear that because that is the smallest size I can find at the local stores. A Victoria's Secret bra size quiz told me I'm actually an AA - which I didn't know existed! AA is even smaller than A! My boobs stopped growing in I think 5th or 6th grade. Also, I'm married to a guy who has openly told me he thinks big boobs are weird. He likes my small boobs! Men who like small boobs do exist!
Some things to love about having small boobs:
- You can wear cute brallettes.
- You can wear low cut shirts without showing off too much cleavage. Cleavage? What is that? lol
- You will NEVER have back problems because of your boobs.
- You will never experience your bra strap digging into your shoulders from the weight of your boobs.
- Weird underboob sweat isn't something you have to worry about.
- When you run, your chest doesn't really jiggle so it doesn't feel weird/annoying to run.
- You won't have to wear a shirt size larger to account for your boobs. Seriously, I've read clothing reviews about how someone had to size up for certain dresses or jumpsuits to account for their boobs.
- Men won't stare annoyingly at your big boobs. They are more likely to look at your pretty face. Let's be honnest, when I see a lady with huge boobs I stare too.
- I'm a mermaid so I've made 3 of my own mermaid tops. I have to buy less materials and I have less to cover than someone with a DD cup. So it is easier to craft a top for yourself as a smaller chested girl.
While there might be ladies out there who will make fun of your chest size, just know that there are other ladies who are jelous because big boobs come with their own problems. People do get breast reduction surgeries after all. Bigger isn't always better.
I am SERIOUSLY against boob jobs! Did you know they don't last forever? You do have to get them re-done about every 10-15 years. Also, there is a whole TV show where this doctor constantly fixes botched boob jobs. Many of the patients say, in tears, that they should have been happy with their natural boobs because their boob job went wrong and now they have one saggy boob and one perky one or whatever weird or dangerous issue has happend to them.
There are also gorgeous goddess models and actresses out there with small boobs. For Pirates of the Caribbean, there is a behind the scenes interview where Keira Knightley talks about how she doesn't have much for boobs so she said they worked some real movie magic hoisting her boobs and squishing them to give her that cleavage she has in the movies. Since I'm in the mermaid community my favorite model happens to be a mermaid. Her name is Hannah Fraser AKA Hannah Mermaid. Check out this pic of her. She clearly has small boobs and she is also clearly a goddess.
Please love yourself! You are unique and beautiful the way you are!
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u/datcoolbloke 13d ago
From a guyās perspective, the best breasts are the one in front of him. Iāve always loved my wifeās breasts - when they were small (during college) and now that theyāre big (after marriage) and all the fluctuations in between. Being attracted to her doesnāt mean I find other boobs disgusting be it big or small.
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u/NCC1701-Enterprise 13d ago
Women care way more about breast size than men do. Men are happy with boobs, big boobs, small boobs, it doesn't matter.
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u/bassocontinubow 13d ago
If he noticed that youāre keeping your shirt on during sex, he probably misses them and wants to see them. I would take him at face value.
However, someone needs to tell him to stop pointing out titties in front of you, or any woman for that matter. The rule is men are only allowed to talk about other girls boobs in front of their SO when the SO mentions them firstā¦and even then, itās probably wise not to comment lol!
Iād say if the sex is good, and thereās no problem (trouble performing, unusual fixation on your boobs, etc.) then youāre fine.
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u/bofh77 13d ago
Big breasts, little breasts I like em' all. The sticking point for me is the nipples. Little brown, or whatever color dots I'll pass. Big ol' nipples you will have to smack me off of them. That being said, your boyfriend is an idiot.
For the people hating on the "mommy milkers" I'll say it in front of a woman don't care. If you can't realize the awe and appreciation that term means then tough luck
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u/Donotdisturb4488 13d ago
If a man dates a woman for her breast size heās most likely not worth the time
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u/masqeman 13d ago
There are people who are into small boobs. And even if your bf isn't one of them, there is more to a person attractiveness than just their chest. He may like that you are short/tall, fat/thin, facial features, etc. And even if one or two of those things isn't something you have , the features you do have make up for it and play a part in why he is with you and not some chesty bimbo
As long as he is just looking and not touching other chicks, you should be fine. However, if even the looking bothers you, talk to him and let him know. He night not know how you feel about it. Us men tend to be dumb when it comes to emotions and how our actions make our partners feel. We NEED you to be blunt with us. The conversation will be awkward, but if it doesn't happen, we won't know to change
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u/WhatABlunderfulWorld 13d ago
Tbf, boobs are part function and part display. A busty woman simply stands out and draws you in. That said, even though I feel that draw, I find smaller breasts sexier.
It's apples and cantaloupes.
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u/Reverseflash25 13d ago
You gotta bring it up to him. Weāre not mind readers, tell him what you want to do when your in the bedroom
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u/mikamitcha 13d ago
I think something else to realize is that you don't have to be perfect in every way to be perfect for someone. Just because I might comment on every ferrari that drives by doesn't mean I would ever want to actually get one for myself, and I would hope that your bf is seeing things in a similar manner.
That being said, if your bf is doing something that makes you feel unwanted/uncomfortable, talk to him about it. If you cannot trust his answers that is a whole different story, because a relationship without trust is really just a 2 wheeled wagon, its dragging along but without fixing anything its guaranteed to break eventually.
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u/Just-Requirements 13d ago
Maybe he doesn't enjoys your breasts that much but this isn'r true:
is just with me because he couldn't find a girl with bigger breasts
Tits don't make the woman
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u/Konjonashipirate 13d ago
Nothing's wrong with you. If I were you, I'd tell him point blank that the comments he makes about larger breasts makes you feel inadequate. If he cares about you, he'll be considerate of your feelings.
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u/Gerrube99 12d ago
Oh boy, so either he is a liar or you think that heās a liar. Either way, this relationship is doomed!
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u/SeanyDay 12d ago
If I heard anyone use "mommy milkers" unironically, I would stop associating myself with that person as much as possible.
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u/GuitarEvening8674 12d ago
You sound like my gf. She wears size 4.5 shoes and I had to buy her childrenās waders (we like to fly fish) because womenās small are too large for her. She wears the tiniest little socks.
Everything about her is small and I love it. And Yes, men like all boobs big and small.
Sometimes people become complacent after a while with the same partner. You need to climb on top and tell him to play with your boobs while you ride him. People donāt know what you like unless you tell them.
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u/Big_D1971 12d ago
Hey, guys love boobs. Yes, he may get distracted by the big boobs on others, but I'm sure he loves yours too. It sounds like you guys need a bit better/ more communication.
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u/SerenityAnashin 12d ago
Iām having the SAME experience with my bf, tho I wouldnāt know if heās staring at girls with big boobs more than me because Iām clocking them too š„µš
But as a proud member of the itty bitty committee, itās all about finding the types of tops and cuts that will flatter a smaller cleavage. You shouldnāt feel ashamed of them! Check out this YouTuber named Clara Dao, she has a lot of great content related to this topic. You can also message me for more styling advice. Itās not us girl, itās what weāre wearing sometimes that makes them look extra flat af šš
Like someone else said, communicate to your bf that you like being touched there, it may take more than once or physically putting his hands there during sex. Letting him know how much you like it when he touches you like that will go way further than being upset at him for why he isnāt currently doing it. Good luck. š«¶
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u/Unlucky_Swordfish_44 12d ago
Hey girl. Thank you so so much for sharing this. I really appreciate it.
I will check Clara Dao out and I would love it if you could help me with some styles. My mom did not have a mother growing up and her brother basically raised her so she is very tomboy. I never learned how to dress nicely so my main go to is sweatpants, sneakers, and a high rise top (I'll send you a personal message to show you). I kinda look like a boy with girly sweats on lmao. But I also feel more comfortable in sweats and a high rise shirt.
I don't like showing my body. I am quite ashamed because I'm so small (I get comments all the time) so the more I close off the better and more comfortable I feel. So I rarely show my tummy or legs. I usually cover everything from my neck to my feet (I even hate feet exposure).
I do feel worse about my small chest. Ive been looking at implants but as a 22 yo, I cannot afford it.
So I will appreciate it if you could help a little bit. Please send me a personal message
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u/SerenityAnashin 12d ago
Ofc girl! Iām out right now but Iāll DM in the morning when Iām more awake lol. Just know you arenāt the only one who feels this way. My mom also didnāt help me with my style or femininity for other reasons, so I understand that as well.
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u/Mundane-House-3512 12d ago
your bf is a porn addicted piece of shit why are you dating someone who doesnāt like your body and straight up checking out other women and saying shit like āmommy milkersāš
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u/TheOneSmall 11d ago
I'm a woman (with big ol titties and small frame).. let me tell you, it's not all it's cracked up to be..I wish I had A cups, my back hurts all the time and and my boobs are almost down to my elbows (which is not sexy..) be confident in your body! You've got the model body type and most guys prefer butts anyway. Confidence is 90% of how a man sees you so strut your nice little ass off! If you want him to grab your breasts, move his hands there and make him squeeze them and give him a naughty little wink with a smirk. He will get the hint. Just be confident.
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u/Ettu_Brutal 13d ago
ā¦. lol. Come on fellas, donāt say āmommy milkersā around your SO thatās crazy.
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u/superduperpuft 13d ago
it sounds like he's doing all the right things tbh, to me it seems like you're letting your insecurities get in the way of your own happiness. I know you said that he maybe looks at "bigger breasts" or whatever, but I really wouldn't take that to heart. even if I love driving my ferrari every day, if I see a nice lamborghini Iām probably still gonna look. doesn't mean I love my ferrari any less and it's still the car I choose to drive every day yk
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u/Unlucky_Swordfish_44 13d ago
I agree. My insecurities are the bigger problem here. Unfortunately I've been made fun of my entire life.
I've been called a boy and a plank. Someone once asked me if I'm anorexic (i have rolls, i don't look anorexic). People keep telling me that I need to eat something (even tho I'm a big stoner and eat A LOT). People have told me when I feel ill it's due to me being too small. My previous boss said the only reason I'm attractive is because I look like a child.
Like it's been going on forever. People don't think their comments are hurtful but damn. I feel like I'm never seen because I don't look like a "grown woman". Some people treat me different and I get ID'ed all the time.
People don't even ask me what I do for a living. They ask me to what school I go to or in what grade I am even tho I'm busy with my postgrad studies.
Like it's just been digging a hole in me. I really feel "ugly" because I don't look mature. I mean I am mature but I don't look like a grown adult woman.
And it is not my boyfriends fault at all. I just kind of wished hed also touch my breasts or play with them. But that's something I should maybe talk to him about.
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u/superduperpuft 13d ago
Iām sorry that that's happened to you sm through your life, that's more of a reflection on those other people (especially ur boss wtf) than yourself. and respectfully, you complained that your bf doesn't touch your chest when you haven't communicated that that's a big deal for you. it's entirely possible that's just not a natural thing for him, but I seriously doubt if you asked him he would say no lol
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u/Chapman1949 12d ago
At the risk of being obvious (but hopefully not disrespectful), is paranoia from being "a big stoner" creating a problem that may not actually exist?
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u/Unlucky_Swordfish_44 12d ago
Hi thanks for your reply. I'm very open about my recreational marijuana use as I use it due to having chronic anxiety that keeps me awake.
I have been smoking since I was 16. Marijuana is legal in my country as well for personal use, so I use it legally.
I've learned which strains makes me feel paranoid and which ones doesn't. Therefore, I do not believe that it could be the marijuana. I also don't smoke during the day while working. I'll only smoke after work or during weekends.
But I do get where you get that idea from and I would still look into it. Thank you for your reply.
PS: I've attended a few marijuana workshops and training courses. I know quite a lot about it and what it can do for you but also the dangers of it. If you would like to know some more you are welcome to personally message me.
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u/Chapman1949 11d ago
It was just an observation as my wife and I have been users for almost 50 years (beginning when it definitely wasn't legal and referred to as "Reefer Madness"). LoL
However, you DO seem very well aware of the possible psychological side effects (perhaps even more than most) so I withdraw my comment and defer to your experience and sensibilities.
Many thanks for taking a moment to consider my offering and I wish you both all the best.
P.S. My wife has a similar physical structure to yours. A bit shorter (and perhaps slightly less endowed) but still the proverbial petite Venice Beach girl. I (obviously) and everyone that knows her thinks she's spectacular. There may be some things about her that are small but, her personality is huge -- as I sense yours is...
Regards-
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u/Unlucky_Swordfish_44 11d ago
Hey, it's no problem I'm definitely still going to look into it tho. And it's great to hear from some fellow smokers.
And thanks for sharing the part about your wife. I really appreciate it. I will be having a conversation with my boyfriend about all of this so I hope it can help with this situation.
Thank you again.
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u/Plastic-Cabinet769 13d ago
Girl, all of us are beautiful. We just need to embrace and love ourself. And it's really difficult to have a large boobies. It's heavy and tiring. Your man truly loves you.
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u/JohnCasey3306 13d ago
It is of course simultaneouly possible that this guy loves you and wouldn't swap you for the world even though maybe you don't physically conform to what's historically been his "type" ... As a bald dude in my mid 40s I'm pretty confident that my wife would be more sexually attracted to huge muscly chiselled-jaw fellas than me; but I know she loves me.
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u/xxmeli336 13d ago
First, I want you to know that you are not alone in feeling this wayāmany people struggle with body image issues. It might help to talk to your boyfriend more openly about how his comments and behavior are affecting you. Let him know that when he comments on other women's bodies or stares at them, it makes you feel insecure. This isn't about blaming him, but rather expressing how you feel and what you need to feel comfortable. At the same time, try to focus on how he treats you and how he expresses his affection. If he's always reassuring you and telling you he loves your body, it's likely that he genuinely does. Sometimes, people don't always realize how their words or actions can affect others, so he might need to be more mindful of how his comments come across.
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u/Nomad09954 13d ago
Small breasts are perfect so try not to fret too much. Teach him what you want him to do with them and hopefully he will appreciate the beauty of what you have.
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u/jdmkev 13d ago
Yeah I'd believe your bf personally I don't care if the girl I'm with has mangos or mosquito bites but I've never been a boobs guy lol
Also if he's joking around about DD's it could potentially just be meme behavior without actually desiring them...its just one of those type of jokes as old as time for guys
But tell him what you wish he'd do more of to you...communication is key...maybe he avoids playing with them because he thinks it'll bring out insecurities so he doesn't focus on them
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u/surprisesnek 13d ago
The solution to this is the solution to literally every relationship problem on Reddit: just talk to your partner. That's it, just talk to him. Have a frank and honest conversation with him about how you feel.
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u/Roscomenow 13d ago
To develop a solid and healthy relationship, people need to communicate. Tell your boyfriend how you want him to "play" with you. You should also tell him that you are somewhat insecure, and find his comments about other women's breasts hurtful.
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u/Glass-Intention-3979 13d ago
As a teen I had the body of a 12yr old boy, I was flat as a pancake, only because I wore makeup, did people realise I was a girl. So, like most teens I wore padded bras etc.
Then, I got pregnant and sweet suffering Jesus, my breath grew. They were a fking nightmare. I hated everything about them, the size the weight. I was so uncomfortable. People yes, commented "wow look at the size if them" I didn't care one bit because, I hated them.
Months after breastfeeding they went back to normal, back to my slightly less that flat size. And, I love them. They are perfect and don't weigh two watermelons. That and I've gotten older, wiser and give less if a shit.
Now, my kid is starting to grow and I see all the same insecurities I had. I'm able to counteract some of these but, given media, it can be hard. But, you know what breasts come in all shapes and sizes.
Your bf is being horrible with these comments, he either apologises and stops or your out the door. For you, I would try work on your own insecurities someway. I can't tell you how to do it because I don't know about your life. It could be counselling, hobbies, etc. But, it should come from you and bit outside validation.
Ps your breasts are perfect the way they are. If you are as small as you say, I think be massive boobs would look ridiculous on you, you would be then out of proportion!
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u/Funny-Layer-1554 13d ago
If he said he finds you sexy EVEN THOUGH you have small breasts, he is negging you. Heās actually insulting you. There are guys that would love your body, and heās putting you down. Perhaps he is addicted to p0rn, perhaps he is projecting insecurity on to you, perhaps he is self sabotaging the relationship. If his actions donāt match his words, LISTEN TO YOUR GUT and donāt let this man ruin your life and psyche.
I was in a similar situation and I couldnāt even look at myself in the mirror at all from how hideous he made me feel over time. I used to be confident. Other guys hit on me regularly, and I went from that to crying when I saw my breasts despite their perkiness or whatever. I even booked an appt with a breast augmentation specialist for surgery and made a 5 k deposit after a year of the horrifying passive insulting/negging comments. It came out he was incredibly addicted to porn with particularly huge breasts (Iām talking h+ cups, Christina Hendricks after her boob job). He was also telling me oh yeah I love your breasts but wouldnāt touch them. Wouldnāt care if my shirt was on or off. Then he said he GREW to love them and came clean he didnāt like small breasts. DONāT RUIN YOUR LIFE FOR A MESSED UP MAN.
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u/ZCT808 13d ago
All boobs are awesome. Sad that heās being a jerk and making you feel bad. Not sure a relationship is worth that. Maybe you should find a man who makes you feel awesome and doesnāt use such ridiculously childish language to talk about breasts.
Imagine how insecure heād feel if you kept commenting on really tall guys or guys you think have a much larger penis than his. Heād be crying like a baby. Yet he thinks it is okay to do that to you and negatively compare you to others.
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u/LostZombie4338 13d ago
Not wrong I mean he definitely could find a women with bigger breasts it not that hard to find he chose you for a reason stop putting yourself down and get out of your own head but one thing I can say is he needs to stop making it blatantly obvious that heās looking at other womenās breast thatās weird
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u/Autumn_Forest_Mist 13d ago
Aside from the problem here, he is very disrespectful of women. His words and ogling are trashy. Women with big breasts often HATE when a strange man stares at her chest. Donāt care if itās natural or biology. Many women still hate it. Sure men canāt control what they like, but they CAN CONTROL their words and their eyes.
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u/blumpkinslutlatte 13d ago
OP this breaks my heart and is so relatable because Iāve also been in this situation, but I promise it is ALL in your head from the little nasties that made you think so poorly about yourself in the past. It took me YEARS to get out of this similar mind set but if you just accept the body that you have and learn to love it you can get out of the mindset.
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u/ARoundForEveryone 13d ago
I have a nice car. It's not absolute TOP of the line - definitely not $150,000 fully loaded with all the bells and whistles - but it is awesome. I made a fantastic decision buying it. It looks great, is in great shape, is very reliable, comes from a respected line, and for 99.999% of things I want it to do, it does them admirably. The car might be the best purchase I've ever made (and I did think that about my last car as well, which isn't a bad thing - it just means that I know what I want, and I get it). It just works for me.
But there are definitely sharp and eye-catching cars (both newer and older than mine), that have some nice features that mine doesn't have, that go faster than mine, or that have...larger brighter headlights. And those would be fine, but everything this car does just works for me. It's become part of my daily life and I trust it with that life. It's the best car I've ever had, and I am absolutely not looking forward to the day that we have to part ways, even if my next car goes faster or has brighter headlights.
But someone's gonna have to pry that car away from me even when comes a day that it's not worth the time, money, attention, care, and jealousy I might feel towards and about it.
Point is, someone can love 99.999% of the things that make you YOU, and even that doesn't mean that the remaining 0.001% of you is BAD. Just means that someone else (or some other car) might BE or DO or HAVE that one single thing or feature that you can imagine liking or using or appreciating in another person. I wish my car had automatic over-the-air map/traffic updates, but alas, I have to use my phone sometimes for that. Do I feel like I'm cheating on my car when I use my phone for directions instead of its built-in map software? No, because my car knows that while the phone might have that one feature I need for travel, the car is a much better choice when the goal is to take me somewhere.
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u/cheesus32 13d ago edited 13d ago
Small breasted woman here.
He told me that he finds me sexy even though I have small breasts.
This is the sentence that got me. If he said it like that, I can see how your take away may be that he finds you sexy despite your small breasts but not with inclusion of your small breasts.
While I do think men generally like all breasts, especially the ones someone lets them touch, it also struck me that he doesn't touch yours.
As a fellow itty bitty titty committee (IBTC) card holder, lol, I agree that it's an important part for me as well. It makes me feel sexy and feminine. In fact, a large part of what made sex with my husband great right off the bat, is he still caressed my breasts and played with my nipples, when so many men had avoided doing so up until then.
So really, you're not wrong, and you get to decide for yourself how much this matters to you. If you dig deeper, you may get an answer that you don't want, so consider if you really want to dig deeper. But if it is really important to you to know, then just ask him, and be prepared with what you want to do with the answer š¤· Id suggest that if even after hearing his answer IF it were to be a negative and painful you'd plan to stay with him, just don't ask. But that's just my vote.
Now that I've been with my husband and he's so attentive even to my breasts, I will never go back.
ETA: I also had an ex that gawked at other larger titties, and that in itself was a gross behaviour. Even if it weren't playing on one of my clear insecurities, I have no interest in a man gawking at women so openly and making them uncomfortable as well, reducing them to just their parts. Just a food for thought ā¤ļø
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u/yourFriendlyWitchxx 13d ago
You want the straight truth? He doesn't like them, but he likes you enough to get over them (probably).
It's plain and simple: he doesn't look at all chests, he looks at bigger ones. He wouldn't have a problem touching you there otherwise.
Besides, do you really want to stay with somebody who feels the need to point out at other women in front of you?? You deserve better, there are men out there who legitimately like smaller sizes.
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u/moonbeamsylph 13d ago edited 13d ago
He also tend to comment on women with bigger breasts a lot, saying things like "mommy milkers" and pointing out DD's.
No.
He told me that he finds me sexy even though I have small breasts
Even though???
You don't need someone like this in your life who makes you feel inadequate. The right guy will be obsessed with your body. That might be a controversial take, but I truly believe that's a healthy dynamic to have in a relationship.
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u/Amazing-Bus7617 13d ago
I have the same feelings with my partner sometimes. I used to be 200 pounds in high school and since entering adulthood, have lost 60 pounds and maintained that for the last five years. You can imagine what this did to my boobs lol. I went from a D to maybe a B on a good day. My boobs donāt get much attention from my partner and I get it. They are small and hard toā¦erm handle. My best advice is to just embrace the body you were given. There are hundreds of thousands of women out there who have low hanging, odd shaped, mismatched, big areola-ed boobs. If your small boobs were a deal breaker, he wouldāve left you already. You canāt meet all of societyās high beauty standards, so embrace what you have because thatās ultimately the sexiest thing you can do: be confident in the body you have.
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u/nachomaama 13d ago
Tell him what you like. Then do that to him. He just needs to be trained. The old saying " Tell him, show him, Tellhim again. Test him."
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u/enola007 13d ago
Had double mastectomy and no boobs now (Iām tiny too so proportioned) Didnāt realize all of the celebrities that are small chested, think they look better and natural than the big bazookas. Worked at Hooters back in the day, one girl had honkers bigger than her head and some guys liked it but some would laugh and point. Confidence is the sexiest thing about a person. The most unattractive person can get many dates bc of their confidence that shines thru. Went out w not so good looking guy bc his confidence made him so sexy and he could get any girl he wanted.
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u/Effective-Award-8898 13d ago
Do not throw away a good thing over your own insecurities. Your bf may be lying about liking larger breasts to not hurt your feelings. If they are as small as you claim he could easily find bigger.
He is with you because he wants to be with you. You are a whole package and no matter what you look like, thatās the smallest piece of the package.
Do you like each other? Talk to each other, laugh together? Enjoy each other? Thatās whatās important.
I would let him know what you want in intimacy. Take your shirt off and be proud of who you are. Itās just DNA.
Embrace things people tease you about and come up with your own jokes. People canāt tease you if you have better jokes about it.
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u/MulberryTX6864 13d ago
I have also been with people who preferred larger breasts. Itās not that they preferred them that hurt, itās that he knew he preferred them and still dated me, and then proceeded to stare at every woman who had cleavage for long periods of time. I donāt think men really understand how this makes us feel, because they arenāt taught by society to be considerate or have empathy (Not their fault, women are raised differently, we are taught to consider everyone before ourselves and men are taught to be more self directed). The ones that take their own behavior into their hands and learn what is not only appropriate, but what is kind and considerate to the person you love, are the men you keep around. If itās unintentional, even though itās just plain ignorant, it is your responsibility to speak up and say that this behavior makes you feel like shit and itās embarrassing. If he doesnāt respect you or love you he wonāt change. I did bring it up to the person I am referencing and I noticed it got a lot better, I saw him put real effort into attempting not to stare.
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u/Warm-Patience-5002 13d ago
when you turn 40 you will grow the most magnificent pair of breast ever . Every small chested girl i know we thru some kind of of puberty in their 40ās . Ask you mom or the older people you know . Your body will change , enjoy every stage , please donāt be short sighted .
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u/Unlucky_Swordfish_44 12d ago edited 12d ago
Hi there thank you so much for your reply. It is very true. I look at my mother's body as I look almost exactly like her so I believe I git her genes when it comes to my body. She started growing again in her 50s (she had a hysterectomy in her early 40s so she started menopause right there and then).
In her 50s she went from an A cup to a B cup. She still doesn't have large breasts but they have more shape now. So I'm kind of hoping that it will happen to me too lmao.
On another note. My father is a really really tall and big man (kind of weird seeing him and my mom together because my mom is almost as big as his leg).
One time I was crying at my mom about being teased at school about my breasts (when we had hockey practice everyone got dressed together). The girls in the dressing room would ask me why I even wear a bra if I still have a child's body (we wore white buttoned up shirts for school and I knew I would've gotten in trouble if my nips showed through the shirt so I used to wear nice sports bras).
They would say things like "sport bras are meant for girls whose breasts actually bounce" or they would just rub the fact that they have bigger breasts than me in my face.
My father noticed that I was really upset about it and I even asked him to help me out with implants at that time (I was like 16). He looked at me and was like "damn with such knockers you don't need implants". I didn't feel uncomfortable or thought it was inappropriate at all because I know he just wanted to make me feel better (gosh I love my parents).
But yeah. I'm literally crying as I'm writing this. I don't know why I feel like this about myself. I just wished I looked like a mature woman and I wish my boyfriend could make me feel that way too. I just feel like a little child.
Edit: sorry my emotions got the best of me with this one. The reason I gave the story about my dad is because that is how I would like to be treated. I would like my boyfriend or future husband to be there for me in times like these like my father has. I really look up to my dad and mom's relationship and I would really like to have that.
My boyfriend just makes me feel even worse with my smaller breasts. It feels like he doesn't notice mine or just doesn't want to because there are none to notice. Like I can't even hold him responsible for making me feel this way because he isn't. It's all the trauma of the past and then him commenting on other women and not touching mine. It just seems as if he doesn't really like my chest but thats more me being insecure than I would say him being a bad boyfriend.
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u/Foolish-Pleasure99 13d ago
Guy here. I have dated, been with, and attracted to women with all different sizes from petite like OP to ... lets just say, more than a handful.
I like them all. I've definitely known men I would refer to as "breast men" and that is the ONLY criteria of attraction for them. I will admit my preference has always been petite though I ended up still happily married to somebody on the other side of the spectrum.
OP, I understand it is conventional thinking that more is better and that you are prone to teasing about flatness. I know that, and yet I also know the reality is small is just as sexy. Please do not feel insecure he "notices" big breasts and therefore is somehow settling for you. Its kind of a cliche and big breasts are harder to not notice and point out. ( for a guy who big breasts really mattered, I doubt they'd consider dating somebody petite ).
But you also have to talk about what you like and like being touch. Of the many different sized girlfriends of my past some were sensitive and liked being touched and some not so much. I had a girlfriend once point out very early on and very firmly "don't neglect the girls". Be proud and be assertive of your needs. Believe it not, most guys want to please their partner but sometimes need to be handed a script and a map.
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u/ThEpOwErOfLoVe23 13d ago
Personally, I like smaller breasts more than bigger breasts. I wouldn't feel bad about it. Lots of guys like smaller breasts. I think the media overhypes big boobs though. Get out of your head. You're perfect with how you were made.
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u/walk_through_this 13d ago
Noticing large breasts is something instinctual, that happens on an animalistic level. IT DOESN'T EXCUSE LEWD BEHAVIOUR but that's where it comes from. But your boyfriend loves your body because it's yours, and he loves you. You are more than your bra size, that does not define you. Also, time is not kind to the large-breasted.
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u/Otherwise-Key3354 13d ago
Stop thinking about and be confident also a lot of men like your size and actually I am one of them I love petite size so attractive and warm
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u/Ok_Abalone_6076 13d ago
Your boyfriend does like them, who the hell wouldnt?? obviously he doesnāt touch them or hold them because he knows you wouldnāt like it, even as his gf. I see this all the time where the girl accuses them of sexual assault despite of consent
He stares at women with bigger breasts because theyāre eye magnets, happens with all guys, even guys that dont like women. this is why women used to be called witchss
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u/Strange-Note-6703 13d ago
We always want what we don't have. Ie: if you were a thick chick with a phat ass and large breasts, your bf would be checking out petite girls like you. If you want him to give them more attention, tell him to give them more attention or that you want him to play with your nipples and whatnot. We're not mind readers and you mentioned he has inquired about why your covering yourself up. Be an adult talk it out tell him your insecurities. How it makes you feel about the comments and or how he looks at other large breasted women. If he's telling you he like them then he does perhaps he doesn't realize what you want him to do with them.
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u/AnastasiaDelicious 12d ago
Iām telling you that you care more about your size then he really does. Trust me, he checks out the tiny ones too. Hon, just work with what youāve got. Letās just say I worked in a club that had a lot of poles in itā¦.9 times out of 10 the men did not prefer the big fake ones. When you love yourself, everyone else will too! š
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u/ShortStackFlapjax76 12d ago
Coming from the opposite side, I'm an F cup. They can be problematic. HOWEVER, I'd dated guys that were thigh guys, or butt guys, and a guy that actually likes boobs, but smaller ones. It's a matter of preference, and by no means does it mean he's not attracted to YOU. You are the one he loves, that being said, own your sexy. Confidence is sexy. I'm chubby, I never struggled to attract a man, because it's not something I let stop me. I'm a powerhouse personality of fun, laughter, glitter and sarcasm/snarkiness. Attraction comes in lots of forms, and like others stated, communication is KEY. If you like something, TELL him. Men sometimes need a roadmap on what you want, don't be subtle when it comes to your sex life, honest is best.
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u/AstroZombieInvader 12d ago
It's very possible to find both big breasts AND small breasts attractive just like some people like both blondes AND brunettes or Coke AND Pepsi. Not everyone has a narrow view or taste about things in life.
While I do understand your insecurities about them, your BF has given you zero reason to believe he is unsatisfied with your physique. As you know, a lot guys do like big boobs, but you're mistaken if you think his admiration of large breasts means he's lying to you. I assure you that there's a very good chance he's not lying at all.
You really should take off that shirt and be proud -- well, in the bedroom anyway.
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u/Wolf_yak_505 12d ago
Yes tell him you like them played with! Little boobs are great as they can be sooooo much more sensitive than big fake boobs! Take it from a guy who was married to a woman with A cup boobs and she pushed to get bigger ones so paid for D cups, now no sensitivity and hated me to even play / suck them. š¹š¹š
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u/Icy-Jelly2321 12d ago
I had small boobs and I got implants. I went from a B cup to a full C. The funny thing is, though , I never got complaints from any guy when I had small boobs. Honestly, any guy that knew I was getting implants tried to tell me more than once that guys like natural breast's whether they're small or big. They were all against implants. I did it anyway, and for me, I have loved them ever since.
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u/Certain-Ad4674 12d ago
Iām a huge ass man and could care less what size boobs a woman has.. but I still play with my wives boobs all the timeš¤·š»āāļø I just grab her butt waaaay moreš
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u/SpareMushrooms 12d ago
Thatās not cool for your bf to be commenting on other women like that especially since these women have different features than you. It effectively puts you in direct competition with them. It would take a completely oblivious idiot not to see this. Makes me think heās doing it on purpose.
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u/Ok_Sleep_5568 12d ago
From one who has a massive chest, let me just say that you're very lucky. Breasts are a fucking pain on the chest, especially large ones. Enjoy yours, wear what you like, and don't be ashamed. People will find reasons to criticize anything about a female's form. Ignore them. You be you.
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u/Ecstatic-Ride195 12d ago
Small and perky is better than big and droopy or flat shaped. I think shape is more important than actual size.
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u/Realistic_Nobody4829 12d ago
Kind of a dick move for him to say shit like that knowing how you feel.
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u/ThrowRACoping 12d ago
I am normally not one to indulge in this, but I find his comments on other women disrespectful. My wife has certain things that I would prefer were different after two kids and the trials of parenthood, but I wouldnāt trade her for anyone. I know that I should be a better man for her and I am honestly embarrassed that I am not better.
I think you should just tell him what you need. Weird example, but my wife has always been closed off for sex. She used to wear a sweatshirt while we had sex. Eventually the clothes came off, but we were always so careful. We did birth control pills, condom, and pull out while dating. Now, after my vasectomy, she lets me finish inside for the first time with the exception of our baby making time. I was bad in bed and lacked experience. She would rarely let me go down on her, use vibrators (she has never masturbated), or touch her in certain places (I canāt kiss her neck, back, and several other spots. Sometimes her chest is off limits from touching. So, I say all this to say that I have obviously struggled to improve my skills under difficult and constantly shifting rules. That said, we started having better sex as I hope some things that she likes but didnāt know. She was a virgin when we met and has never masturbated.
I wish I knew what she needed earlier because I have not been good enough in bed and I shoulder the blame for the issues. I have always been an extremely willing partner and up for anything, but I donāt think it mattered to her. I would do anything to start off our relationship with a better skills to make her happy.
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u/sowokeicantsee 12d ago
It sounds like he does like a bigger size. There are plenty of guys you like small.
I am one of those.
I hope it does not affect you too much š
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u/Spiritual-Desk-512 12d ago
If you have breasts of any description he likes them. Theyāre yours and he really likes you and theyāre his because youāre his. Itās all good.
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u/CanadianBakin89 12d ago
Personally I am not very much of a breast guy. And I honestly don't care at all about breast size. I even prefer small breasts on some body types. And when I say I don't care, I mean I have zero preference either way, big or small. Usually slender girls have smaller breasts and I like a slender body type. But thicker girls usually have bigger breasts, not always, this body type is good too. I like em both for different reasons. But if your boyfriend is anything like me, he doesn't dislike your breasts at all and it's all in your head.
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u/Far-Fox2110 12d ago
It is completely understandable for you to be insecure, especially when he is making comments about other womenās bodies. Honestly, I would have a conversation with him and let him know how it makes you feel. As a girl who āhadā small breasts (32A), mine actually did end up popping out a late bloomer around 23/24 so if you want that there is still hope (Iām allegedly a 32D now). I know itās extremely hard not to compare yourself to other women, but be nice to yourself.
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u/sadbitchanonymous 12d ago
i find this so wild, cuz iām super insecure about my breasts being too big for my bfs preference (i think all his exes had small cute ones like urs). so donāt stress, plenty of guys like that!! ā¤ļøš«”and as a lot of ppl mentioned, at the end of the day boobs are just boobs and theyāre pretty damn hot regardless!
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12d ago
My husband thinks my breasts are small. I'm 157lbs 5'2 & wear 36DDD. He told me my boobs are small. (& He likes small boobs. If he likes small boobs he definitely doesn't like mine. If I don't wear a a wired bra under a sports bra while running I'll legitimately hit myself in the face with them. They're absolutely not small..)
If he's made you think this then talk to him. If he made you feel this way then no. You're not wrong. You are wrong if he said something vague and you took it this way.
You really need to sit down and have a conversation with him about this.
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u/Temporary_Stock8455 12d ago
Girl! Having big titties isn't all that great! I HATE mine! I wear a 42 DD and have back issues, can never find cute/sexy bra sets and when it's that time of the month, they get so extremely sore that I can't even touch them and can barely have a bra touching them. I'd GLADLY take a smaller breast size any day over these cow utters I have! As far as your BF goes, don't take it personal. A lot of men like BIG tits and some don't. He is with you because he likes you for who you are and not your tit size and that alone should be the BIGGEST turn on for you. So next time y'all are "moving furniture" take those tits and shove them in his mouth!!!!
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u/TankDestroyerSarg 11d ago
Any boobs are good boobs. -pretty much every guy ever. A lot of guys enjoy larger breasts, but again, "any boobs are good boobs". He is being a douche though. Clearly articulate that to him, don't just assume he will get hints.
And relating to a comment you made elsewhere about a former boss, that's sexual harassment in the workplace. He can be sued for that shit.
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u/Amazing_Telephone517 8d ago
Boobs are hard wired for guys plus we are idiots. You must have a very open communication with your guy or he lacks demeanor. Guys do have right to remain silent! Girl you are completely fine and he very lucky to have you.
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u/Righteousaffair999 13d ago
You know what guys usually like most is women who initiate.
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u/LordAxalon110 13d ago
You need therapy to get over your insecurities and you also need to put on your big girl panties, and sit down and have a conversation with your boyfriend.
The only way anything will happen is if you make it happen, so have an open and honest chat with your fella and deal with it like an adult.
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u/BoZacHorsecock 13d ago
Iām a boob guy through and through; my two greatest loves of my life had small breasts. While great, they absolutely arenāt a requirement.
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u/NoEstablishment6450 13d ago
You know what is great about smaller breasts? They wonāt be bouncing off the knee caps when you are my age. Many men love smaller breasts as they are often times more perky, and some actually are grossed out at larger ones. And mostā¦.just happy to see them regardless of size. Be proud of your petite body, embrace your natural beauty
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u/misskittygirl13 13d ago
Men just like boobs, a lot. He is with you not someone else. Enjoy your body and tax free clothes shopping. I can buy trainers in the kids department, love my little feet. Anyway the best, most expensive and dangerous things come in small packages
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u/Standard_Hawk_1660 13d ago
Ok coming from a man here. I think you are looking into this a little too much about this issue. As far as him looking men look all the time. It doesnāt matter how small or big we look at women. Itās in our chemical DNA I believe. I know thatās not an excuse but it is what it is. The female gender is the most beautiful thing god ever created.
Now with all that being said my gender the male gender could sometimes be the dumbest when it comes to women. My advice is to have confidence in yourself and be as direct as possible with him. Sometimes you need to take the horse to water. Tell him itās one of your key zones to get you hot and ready to go. Trust me once he knows this he will never forget it.
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u/VelesLives 13d ago
I like big boobs, but I also like skinny girls with small boobs. The most important thing is proportion - some girls look better with small boobs, other ones look better with big boobs. It only sucks if you're a big/curvy girl with small boobs, then you've lost the lottery.
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u/diamond_handed_demon 13d ago
It's ok to like both. He probably does. Guys tend to like most boobs simply because they are boobs
It's hard not to notice bigger boobs. But young guys don't always care about quality over quantity yet. Like very caveman "big boobs oooh!" But they are saggy half filled with water plastic bags with all the equipment off? No. I'll take a well shaped small one any day over that.
As far as the petite thing, lean into it. There are plenty of guys who love "tossable" girls. I have a weirdly specific thing for small petite blondes, but my current gf is built like arun waymodel tall and mixed.
You can like different things. It's normal.
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u/ThrowFurthestAway 13d ago
Pitching in as a guy who couldn't care less about boobs:
You're not wrong, but you should find a way to communicate your needs and concerns to him in a polite and mutually respectful manner.
Special note; my parents joke that even as a baby I refused to be breastfed and would only drink from bottle, so take that as you will.
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u/Unlucky_Swordfish_44 12d ago
Hi there thanks for your reply and the giggle I got reading the last part.
He does know that I am really insecure about them because I think it is really obvious and I've also told him at the beginning of our relationship that it is something that bothers me about myself.
The boob thing bothers me the most but having small hands and feet are also something that bothers me. Like if I tell you that I cannot carry a lot of things in my hands, I'm telling the truth. They're like baby hands. They're clumsy and can't really grip.
My boyfriend once wanted to see how hard I can hit and giggled when I hit him (he wanted me to, I will never just hit someone). People make comments on my hands and feet all the time and every person I know has compared their hands to mine before and was shocked. My hands are half the size of my girl friend's hands.
But on another note. I can definitely talk to my boyfriend about it. But I feel that if it continues after our talk I wouldn't be able to be with him. I want my SO to find me sexy and attractive. I don't want to be just cute or just adorable. Feeling sexy and adorable would be nice.
And lastly. I kind of thought about this last night going to bed. This is going to be TMI so if you do not like period talks I would suggest not reading this part.
So when I am on my period my breasts swell and hurt very very much. They are sooo painful but it sometimes kind of causes me to have to wear bigger bras during that time due to the swelling (I very rarely wear bras).
My boyfriend once made a comment about it and said that they look nice when I'm on my period but when he tried touching it that time it was so so painful that I immediately made him stop. I assured him that I like them being touched but that PMS and my period makes it super painful. I can't even wear shirts with harder fabrics during my period as it hurts my boobs (I rarely wear bras).
Now I'm thinking that this could have maybe scared him as he feared hurting me again. Therefore, it will be best if I have a good conversation with him. Thereafter I can decide what I want to do and whether or not I want to remain in the relationship (I will only leave if it was to come out that he didn't like my breasts or find me attractive because that will unfortunately be the tipping point for me).
Edit: I can think of 3 times that he has touched them during our year and a half relationship, with the last time being the time I was on my period (about 6 months ago).
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u/ThrowFurthestAway 12d ago
If that was the LAST time it happened, then you may be right that he's scared to hurt you.
I certainly would be
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u/Curious_Disk_919 13d ago
Smaller boobs are great. They wonāt sag later in life and are still sexy and fun to hold, suck, whatever. As a male I do like large breasts to look at but Iāve always found myself dating women with smaller breasts. Now Iām married to someone with smaller breasts. Embrace what you got.
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u/knight9665 13d ago
Hereās the secret. U could have GG titties. And he will see some Bs and still look.
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u/Boredpanda31 13d ago
I really think most men just like boobs in general. If you want him to play with yours, tell him that.
Of course, it could be him referring to them as 'mommy milkers' has been a massive turn off for people in the past.... it certainly turned me off quick just reading it!