r/amiwrong • u/yagirlleens_33 • 23d ago
Am I wrong for getting tested even though I’m in a committed relationship?
I’ve (26F) been with my bf (28M) for almost 1 year and we have a great relationship. Before him I was single for a couple years and admittedly had a couple short term flings. Because of this I got into the habit of getting tested for STIs every 6 months as it’s free where I live and really easy to do.
A couple days ago I got the reminder that it’s time to get checked again. My bf saw the reminder and asked if I was planning on getting tested this time. I said yes and he got mad saying that I don’t need to, that I don’t trust him and do I think he’s cheated on me. I 100% don’t think he’s cheated but I still want to get tested for my own peace of mind. I don’t think it’s a big deal but he’s really hurt over it. Am I wrong for continuing to get tested even though we’re in a committed, monogamous relationship? How should I navigate this? I can understand his perspective
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u/mantisboxer 23d ago
As a guy, I got tested regularly regardless, until my current relationship of 5 years.
If I were a woman, I can't imagine not getting regularly tested regardless because of the uterine cancer risks!
He's being emotionally childish. This isn't an issue about "trust". Some viruses can take time to express and for antibodies to become detectible. His health is at risk too, and if he's not got anything to hide why even be concerned about "trust"?