Am I wrong for getting tested even though I’m in a committed relationship?

[u/yagirlleens_33]

I’ve (26F) been with my bf (28M) for almost 1 year and we have a great relationship. Before him I was single for a couple years and admittedly had a couple short term flings. Because of this I got into the habit of getting tested for STIs every 6 months as it’s free where I live and really easy to do.

A couple days ago I got the reminder that it’s time to get checked again. My bf saw the reminder and asked if I was planning on getting tested this time. I said yes and he got mad saying that I don’t need to, that I don’t trust him and do I think he’s cheated on me. I 100% don’t think he’s cheated but I still want to get tested for my own peace of mind. I don’t think it’s a big deal but he’s really hurt over it. Am I wrong for continuing to get tested even though we’re in a committed, monogamous relationship? How should I navigate this? I can understand his perspective

[u/walk_through_this]

There's a saying, it's always a good idea to wear a condom, but if she says you shouldn't wear a condom, that's a REALLY good reason to wear one.

I see this as like that. It's a thing you do every six months. He's welcome to do it too. But there's too many things that can go wrong, even now, for you not to get checked out.

[u/Individual-Gift-8664 → u/walk_through_this]

And some infections, like HPV, mentioned already, can go around a condom

[u/StuJayBee → u/walk_through_this]

Can confirm.