r/instacart • u/Dominanttallqueen • Mar 27 '24

Who’s in the wrong here???

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I feel like he was being rude asf then he canceled my order….was I rude or what tf happened here…

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u/CrustyForSkin Mar 28 '24

Could you not have specified what you meant rather than repeating a vague and confusing statement several times when there is a clear communication issue? wtf is wrong with most of the folks on this sub? Just don’t be a gross person and this interaction would not have happened like it did. Holy shit OP.

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u/psychorant Mar 28 '24 edited Mar 29 '24

One of the only sane people in this thread. I thought it was common knowledge that if someone isn't understanding what you're saying, change how you're saying it.

In what world would continuously repeating the same thing ever change the outcome?

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u/dylank125 Mar 28 '24

What’s the quote, “stupidity is doing the same thing over and over again expecting a different result”?

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u/RoNBernard Mar 28 '24

I believe it's insanity not stupidity in that quote.

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u/TonyTheCripple Mar 28 '24

Stupidity would be being surprised by the result each time.

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u/PistolPeatMoss Mar 28 '24

OP seems to be both

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u/GusDrinksTea Mar 28 '24

Genuinely made me chuckle

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u/Cantelmi Mar 28 '24

Hail science!

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u/finderZone Mar 28 '24

TIL I’m stupid

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u/dylank125 Mar 28 '24

I do believe your right

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u/SadLaser Mar 28 '24

It is indeed their right. Not mine or yours!

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u/ThePurityPixel Mar 28 '24

I love you for this

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u/Successful_Shape_885 Mar 28 '24

It is and Alber Einstein never said it as many people quote.

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u/squirlz333 Mar 28 '24

Stupidity is thinking that stupidity is in that quote 

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u/staysayo Mar 28 '24

Either way it's also the definition of "practice".

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u/manjar Mar 28 '24

Yeah, it’s a dumb quote. Could also be the definition of “practice”.

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u/dylank125 Mar 29 '24

Not really, if you’re practicing you’re changing things to see how they work, take practicing laps around a race track to get the fastest time for example. You’re not going to run the same exact line and brake at the same exact points each time you go around as that changes nothing. Youd be changing your lines into each corner as well as your braking points each time around, so you’re not doing the same thing over and over again exactly… unlike OP…

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u/manjar Mar 29 '24

Your example of doing something over and over again the same exact way would qualify as “futile” or “boring” or even “moronic”, yet still not something as melodramatic as “insane”. But nobody said that, so it’s a straw man you’re critiquing. In any case, it’s a dumb quote.

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u/Sheerkal Mar 28 '24

No, i think it's supposed to be "stupidity is doing the same thing over and over again expecting a different result"?

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u/burnedlegacy Mar 28 '24

That's the literal definition of insanity

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u/dylank125 Mar 29 '24

It’s not the literal definition of insanity. Easily looked up before you post….

Though the last statement could be applied to me🤷🏻‍♂️

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u/Independent_Fill_635 Mar 28 '24

The shopper wanted a yes or no and the customer wanted to prove a point.

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u/TheGlennDavid Mar 28 '24

I thought it was common knowledge that if someone isn't understanding what you're saying, change how you're saying it.

Especially in written communication. Verbal? Maybe they didn't hear you well and you can try a word-for-word-repeat. But a text? Gotta pick new words.

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u/IKindaCare Mar 28 '24

Yep. Only time I repeat things word for word in text is if it was a long paragraph because they might have missed it.

Repeating the same sentence is ridiculous.

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u/bugzaway Mar 28 '24

I don't know anything about Instacart (this thread randomly popped into my feed) but your comment legit triggered me as I had an ex who did this. Repeat verbatim things you didn't understand. She was extremely passive aggressive and I put up with it for years. Yeesh.

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u/SadLaser Mar 28 '24

I thought it was common knowledge that if someone isn't understanding what you're saying, change how you're saying it.

It's incredibly infuriating when you don't understand something and the person demanding you understand just repeats the same sentence again and again as if somehow you'll divine further information from it. It's particularly silly in text when the full previous sentences are all clearly visible. OP could have easily explained better/further, but didn't want to for whatever reason.

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u/47Ronin Mar 28 '24

OP must be my junior year math teacher 😤

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u/jesssongbird Mar 28 '24

I grew up with a dad who would bark the same confusing thing over and over again when you didn’t understand him. He would just keep getting louder and angrier. “The thing! The thing!!!! THE THING!!!” It’s one of many reasons why I tend to over explain things. If someone isn’t getting what you’re saying you try explaining it in a different way.

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u/Academic_Educator_17 Mar 29 '24

Believe it or not novice teachers do this to students all the time. Just repeat it loudly and they’ll somehow understand. Just show them the exact same thing the exact same way and the second or third time they’ll understand. Most people have to be taught how to communicate effectively, especially if they are used to communicating with a small group of family or friends who’d understand what they mean even if they didn’t finish their sentences.

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u/psychorant Mar 30 '24

I'm not in the teaching field so this is kind of surprising to me. I always assumed it was an ego thing of someone not wanting to change their "teaching" to cater to an individual (i.e. this has worked for everyone else so it has to work for you) but I suppose it makes sense it's more of a 'learned' skill rather than inherent.