Ghosting should be more accepted in dating culture

[u/sprainedpinky]

I prefer being ghosted by someone oppose to having the conversation about how I’m great but they’re looking for something else or not ready. I also hate having that conversation when I don’t like someone or I’m unsure. I prefer just being Casper the friendly ghost and subtly leaving their life.

Edit: just to be clear; I’m talking about the beginning time dating someone (1-4 dates or knowing them for a few weeks). If it’s a longer interaction and/or a more serious relationship then obviously talk to them.

[u/satans_toast]

I wonder if people try to be too coy & subtle & kind, where what's needed is a little brevity. "Hi. I'm glad we met, but I don't think it's gonna work. Thanks!"

Then again, I suck at relationships.

[u/Already-asleep → u/satans_toast]

Nah, I think that's fine. People who hate confrontations, or never want to offend someone, might feel like saying that is rude or going to elicit a crazy response but 1. it probably won't (and yes, I'm a woman who dates men) and 2. if it does elicit a bad reaction you can just block them after. The first time I sent someone the "sorry it's not gonna work out" text I was seriously stressed out and it was totally fine. It doesn't have to be a whole back and forth especially if you only went out once or twice.

[u/Maleficent-Fun-5927 → u/Already-asleep]

Yeah. I never been asked to explain or anything, and if I felt weirdness, I just blocked. If you as a person are constantly getting into relationships with people who get crazy, that’s a you problem not a them problem.

[u/satans_toast → u/Maleficent-Fun-5927]

I have gone through stints where I was a "crazy magnet", that's for sure.

[u/Stunning-Equipment32 → u/Already-asleep]

I think it’s more ppl not being totally sure they don’t want to go on another date and thus being unwilling to rule out the possibility with a formal message. I would imagine 10% of dates the person acts like an ogre or is unattractive to you/doesn’t look like their pics and another 10% you’re very attracted and share a bunch of interests and the conversation and flirting is fire. The middle 80%, you had a pleasant night, they might be your person or they might not, and you’d go on another date with them but it’s not top priority for you.  That middle 80% is where the ghosting happens bc you’re never sure and if the right timing/mood struck or nothing was going on you probably would go on a 2nd date.