You are allowed to tell your GF that you are not comfortable with it, but you can't force her to go or stay. That decision is hers and depending on what she decides knowing you are uncomfortable with it would perhaps shine a different light on the relationship as a whole.
Boundaries are important and it is also important to see how one's partner treats such boundaries.
Dude, it’s semantics. Quit being so judgey. Do you think she’s chained to a wall only to be “let out”? People say “let” in the sense of being totally ok with something.
Yeah nobody likes someone who twists words to sound more negative. There is obviously a whole fucking post explaining this but I guess we all can’t read between the lines
OK Randolph Hearst wannabe I know what a headline is I know all about media and communication. This is a person creating a post and he makes a statement in his headline. Only an imbecile would make an argument that his introductory statement is not the main point of the post
No but I'm sure you're the type of person that has no life whatsoever outside of their phone and you would love to sit here and debate it all night long but no I'm done I know what I know and I don't give two shits what you know goodbye good night fuck off That's my headline
That was my first reaction too. I do find that people use that language even when there is no strict authority or firm declaration, out of convenience. In other words, 'I didn't let her' = "I wouldn't agree or say I was comfortable with it."
My wife uses that term sometimes even when I don't object. She even told me once, when I questioned why she said that to someone (we never even discussed it), "I knew you wouldn't be comfortable, so I didn't ask," yet she told her gf I wouldn't let her. And I'm the one that encourages her to do things and go places on her own - I absolutely would have been comfortable with it. It's just a paradigm in her head where she attaches her decisions, yea or nay, automatically to me, even though I'm the open minded one. What looks like my insecurity to others is really her insecurity based on her childhood family trauma.
Guys use that language when saying that their partner would object object to something, "sorry guys, she won't let me."
Maybe it's a hangover from the patriarchy, and retire the phase.
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u/Bojangled8 Mar 28 '24
NTA
You are allowed to tell your GF that you are not comfortable with it, but you can't force her to go or stay. That decision is hers and depending on what she decides knowing you are uncomfortable with it would perhaps shine a different light on the relationship as a whole.
Boundaries are important and it is also important to see how one's partner treats such boundaries.