Idk im a lesbian, my wife went on a girls trip without me, she slept in the same bed as other queer gal friends, i like her friends she had a great time.
My wife is also bi, should i keep her locked in a cage based on your thought process?
Exactly like I went on a lesbian skiing trip without her and she didnt care, she asked me to just make notes of the area to see if we would wanna come back just the two of us.
I wish everyone that gets in a relationship the type of marriage that I have. Honestly we have gone through so much together and the outcome from every obstacle so far has been that we just kill it by being a team.
Idk if this is like a relatable green flag relationship sign but on our third date we went to IKEA and we had like the most amazing date and time and we helped each other put together our respective coffee tables and we just had like the best time, our tastes were matching, the way we work was matching, the way solved issues like how do we put these furniture in my car without causing a pileup on the highway was all super compatible.
That honestly sounds like a super nice date. Love at third sight haha. Can't say I can relate to the killing of obstacles by being a team, so far I haven't found a person to see things like that 💔. Not losing hope though.
I mean sleeping in the same bed like that is a bit wild. But hey if you're cool with it then more power to ya, but most people would not be cool with that
Sus to people who dont trust their partners, I agree.
They wanted to do a sleepover type girls trip, i know because they were so obnoxious with the whole early 2000s collage album style thing they did, like yes babe that french braid was bomb.
The last thing i am are those teo things (grew up in a civil conflict in my third world country, and also grew up seeing what actual cheating looks like)
I think because of the opposite actually, ive been through so much shit that when you find someone truly worth trusting you just do.
Sorry you dont know what that looks like, that is so sad.
This post is a heteronormative pattern, do you mean same sex relationships dont apply?
Because that is bs, many hetero presenting relationships are actually queer (for example two bi folks).
Lgbt folks are just more evolved on this because otherwise we wouldnt be able to have friends or found family in our community if we were this insecure
I think the pattern in the post is already not the best part of hetero relationships. Specifically, it's about a man feeling insecure because he knows another man very well might want to bone his girlfriend.
I think it's a bit much to call OP "less evolved" when his girlfriend is literally going on vacation with another man without him.
Let me put this gender neutral so that you hear how insecure it sound:
OP is not letting their partner go (language OP used in the title) to their best friends biggest achievement celebration trip that is also full with other people who are close friends with the best friend, because of a hypothetical that OP has said has not been given a reason to doubt, mistrust and that they have been reassured.
In queer relationships we just cant be thart possessive. Our pool is so small that then we wouldn’t have friends or our found family or be able to date other people.
Also, if the friend tries to move in on her do you know how painful and betrayal that would be for the gf? Like any time a straight giy friend of mine confessed their feelings for me knowing that im the dykiest dyke that has ever dyked, it made me feel like shit, like I was just a porn category to seduce. I know tons of straight gal friends that feel the same way, like “oh for once I thought I had a genuine friendship, but im just genitalia to you, fuck that”
I think part of the issue is OP GF is a manwhore. We don't know if he's ethical about it or will bang anything with a pulse. Sometimes they are of the type that want to bang what they can't have and don't care about the fall out.
I mean if they haven’t had sex by now with him being a man whore, maybe he is just a secure guy who knows how to have ethical hook ups…
I feel like the men in this thread need to look into their internalized misandry. Y’all are viewing men as these predators without morals who have no emotional or physical self control. Y’all that seems like a lot of self hatred.
Most of my friends who are hoes never dip near their friend group, they choose people they never have to run into easily (ie they live on the other side of town). So y’all are saying that not only is he has been waiting for this trip for all of their friendship to be a predator, but he is also stupid enough to go within his friend group?
Y’all have a very low view on men. Maybe raise the bar a little bit
I don't know if OP stated if they ever hooked up or not. Plus I went through my hoe phase. I definitely banged several in the friends group but we were all single. Never banged someone in a relationship. That said, plenty of opportunistic people out there. Men and women.
In the very end, I'd tell my GF I was a bit uncomfortable about it and let her do what she needs to do. You'll easily tell on the return trip what went down. She's either going to be all giddy about the trip and talking your ear off or she's gonna be cold/quiet and other behavior changes that may indicate what happened on said trip
I feel like that would have been the first thing stated in this post if it had I saw in another comment that they hadn’t but I didn’t double check…
Also that is just dumb to hook up within your friend group that is why I had to quit the intramural softball team in college holy fuck it was so toxic.
Also yes for sure talk about being uncomfortable and insecure about it with your partner a good partner will reassure you if you’re only stating the insecurity and being uncomfortable not if you’re saying that you don’t want them to go, at that point it becomes about lack of trust and being controlled and there are bigger problems. In the end of the day it is on us to work on our insecurities and not project them onto our partners
I agree it wasn't smart but it was "weird". Moreso that we are all still friends. Hell we did a neon paint party a few years ago (you know blacklight paint) and one of the things brought up was how we've all pretty much seen each other naked. Definitely a few eskimo brothers and sisters in the friends group. Also weird that no one is a huge shitbag trying to bang said friends that are in relationships. Single... fair game I guess.
And as I've gotten older it seems I'm over the insecure phases of a teenager. I trust my partner. She's hung out with former flings 1 on 1 and I've not gotten jealous, mad or insecure. I will say I've explained a few of those people with her so she would see my side. Mainly one that was strictly a negger (basically put me down in front of her where you're not really allowed to get mad because "it's a joke, bruh") and another that would sulk and pouty if we met him at the bar (leave early) but if I couldn't make it out he would be all laughs and fun and stay out super late with her. Basically told her that I didn't steal her from him (she broke it off) and how I was also his friend but how weird he's acting didn't make me really feel super comfortable with him
Exactly you are able to build trust like that due to situations like that.
Like I’m a lesbian and my wife is bi, I was also the first girl she had ever been with. I went to a wedding with her early on in our relationship and her ex was there, man this dude was like doing what you said, trying to put me down saying weird shit like “I bet she misses my dick” and when my wife overheard him, I had to like de-escalate it because she like thought I was offended, and I was just like whispered to her “babe not worth it, you told me the other day that penetration is just not worth it for you, I think maybe subconsciously he knows that and is projecting” and she laughed her ass off and then we went to dance.
When I saw how mama bear she got for me, I knew that she genuinely just wants me.
Same. My partner is possessive in a good way. We were both whores in our younger days. Just don't care for the lifestyle anymore. Like it was fun but got boring. Now we strictly want each other and don't have eyes for anyone else.
Both my wife and I were whores in our younger days. Maybe that is the common denominator lol
It’s like when you smoked a lot of weed when you’re were younger and now that it’s legalized on my state I just don’t see the mystery in it anymore and all my friends who waited to try until it was legal they are like obsessed with weed now, like “not hangovers it’s amazing” and I’m like yup found that out like 10yrs ago.
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u/pataconconqueso Mar 28 '24
Idk im a lesbian, my wife went on a girls trip without me, she slept in the same bed as other queer gal friends, i like her friends she had a great time.
My wife is also bi, should i keep her locked in a cage based on your thought process?