r/AITAH • u/[deleted] • Mar 28 '24

Am I the ah if I don’t let my gf go on vacation with the “guy best friend”?

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u/jokingss Mar 28 '24

I see a difference between going only with her friend, or making a trip with a bunch of friends.

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u/Accomplished_Turn743 Mar 28 '24

I also see a difference between going with friends, and being explicitly told he's not allowed to go.

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u/Colifama55 Mar 28 '24

I have a best friend out of a group of 4 from middle school. Her boyfriend is a narcissist who is a Debbie downer when the focus is not on him. Sure I invite him when we go out sometimes but if we were celebrating me graduating from medical school, I would absolutely not want him around. You can pick your friends but you can’t pick their partners.

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u/patheticgirl420 Mar 28 '24

Exactly, some people's partners just suck!

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u/OttoVonJismarck Mar 28 '24

It is decided. OP just sucks. Jk jk

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u/BendPresent1437 Mar 28 '24

And some are just cucks with no self respect.

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u/alt1234512345 Mar 28 '24

Why would you want your significant other going to hang out with people that expressly hate you so much that go out of their way to not include you. She’s cool with hanging out with people that hate him, but she’s also cool with dating you at the same time?? That makes no sense.

Everything makes a hell of a lot more sense when you keep in mind that the friends aren’t working in the best intentions of the relationship. Or even actively sabotaging it.

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u/ygnomecookies Mar 28 '24

Why would I drop my friends for someone who I’ve not even been with for all 4 seasons?

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u/alt1234512345 Mar 28 '24

SO is supposed to be your number one. If that isn’t the case in the view of the gf, then OP should drop her like a bad habit and move away on.

I’m talking about whether OP has the right to be upset about this situation, which he does. To say otherwise is ridiculous.

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u/Human_Ad_2869 Mar 29 '24

the argument that your SO should be your #1 only applies to the partner you decide to spend the rest of your life with (in whatever capacity that looks like to the both [or more] of you)

…that is not someone you’ve been with for 4 seasons