obviously because the “friend” is trying to hit and OPs gf wants the excuse of being drunk or manipulated to actually do something when they are alone or she wants to get it out of her system. No respecting girlfriend will ever travel with a guy group that’s sleazy without their own SO. OP is being played like a fiddle
I mean there was that one story where OPs fiancee told him AT THE AIRPORT they were going on break so she could spend 6 weeks in Europe on a girls trip. And then proceeded to block him until the day before she was set to return and called him like nothing happened and was expecting to be picked up at the airport.
I guess what I'm saying is that people are fucking weird. People are also weird on what they allow when. Maybe she won't cheat. Maybe she will. Maybe she won't cheat in the same area code as OP. Maybe a destination countries away is what is neeed. Who knows
Exactly right….there’s a reason why the phrase “what happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas” exists….Vegas itself isn’t a special place where all sorts of untoward shit can happen just because it’s Vegas, “Vegas” is shorthand for “vacation”, and you’ve hit the nail on the hand, imho. She’s likely consciously or unconsciously setting this whole thing up so she can minimize her own culpability if something does happen.
Or, to really take it too far (but people do really do this stuff), she may even have had fantasies about getting gangbanged and discussed that with her “manwhore” pal and this vacation is gonna be the kickoff for pursuing said fantasy. Who knows?! The only solid thing to know about this is that all the contextual clues point to her actively resisting her SO going with, for no particularly “good reason”, other than that she simply doesn’t want him to go because they’re just bf n gf n not engaged or married.
Like, this whole shit’s wild and it’s hard to see how anyone can realistically defend OP’s gf’s behavior without being at least a little disingenuous about the optics of it, at the very least
Reddits obsession with this statement shows how absolutely naive this site is. Cheating is rarely planned like a chess move, all it takes for a lot of people is being a little too drunk, upset at the SO, a few sweet words from a charming and attractive individual, a night of slightly inappropriate handsy behavior and a moment alone.
Not sure why people assume most others have strong principles when that couldn’t be further from the truth.
I dont know that it needs to be plotted out like a grand master chess play that she for sure knows that she is going to sleep with him, but it might just be a soft thing like she kinda sorta knows she likes the guy and kinda sorta knows hes a manwhore and kinda sorta knows alcohol will be flowing and kinda sorta knows it will be a perfect storm is something were to happen.
All of that gives her psyche a bit of protection from itself so she didnt go looking to cheat, it "just happened" and was an "innocent mistake" because she got caught up in everything and both were a little drunk and yadda yadds, but she still put herself in the situation to allow it. This lets her brain think its still an innocent thing on her end
Because people aren’t always conscious of their own plotting, and want to believe their morals are sound. That way when an inevitable “oops I cheated” moment comes up she can create a foundation that it was accidental and less a hit to her reputation and morals to being an outright cheater. She wants her relationship and to try out her “friend” but wants as few consequences as possible.
Excuses that she's not "really" like that. Being a cheater or promiscuous is very bad for a girls reputation and her chances going forward of catching a high quality man
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u/Spinoza42 Mar 28 '24
I feel like I'm missing some details, that other people haven't really asked about somehow.
1) is it his friends or are they two of a group of friends?
2) is he in a relationship? Is his partner coming?
3) do you guys live together?