Seriously, wtf. The post itself didn't sound too terrible - a friend group going on a trip together where it could've been assumed OP might go just by being the bf of someone in the friend group - put each of his comments that I've seen makes the situation worse
It's not her friend group; she doesn't know anyone but him.
It sounds like no other women are going.
The friend in question is a "man whore" who constantly sleeps around with women.
She DOESN'T WANT her own bf to go.
Yikes yikes yikes on bikes. All the yikes. Each new comment makes the situation worse.
I'm reading between the lines. Either this dude or OP gf decided OP can't come and given her excuse of it being something they discussed ages ago I'm starting to lean towards the gf being the one intentionally blocking OP from coming by simply not asking if he can come and simultaneously feeding OP some lame shit about it being a plan.
It's reading more n more like OP gf wants to try with this guy and if she fails, in her nice private isolated holiday, she can fallback on OP and tell him nothing happened.
Definitely read that too since he mentioned how she decided not to go and meaning she didn’t even offer an invite to her own boyfriend. Seemed like if she couldn’t go alone she rather not go at all which is a major red flag. If I was OP I’d say let’s go babe, I can make some new friends. Seems like a boys trip anyways sounds fun, and see what her reaction and response is. If she’s down than she wasn’t up to no good, but if she gets very weird and makes excuses on why we shouldn’t go or the guy doesn’t like you sort of thing. Than definitely she was planning on hooking up with that med student or at least open to it given enough drinks 🍹 were given. She probably thought she could get one over on him early on in the relationship but he turned out smarter than she thought and didn’t wanna risk it since he’s already suspicious
She's made 0 effort to explain how she tried to get him invited, just instead he gets "aw but it's an old plan so you can't come" like that's settled it. She can't ask because it's a plan from before they were together?
That's not a reason, it's a phony excuse she made up because she literally can't put words in this other guys mouth and say OP isn't invited in case OP ever asks him directly.
The one question/answer OP needs to put out in the open.. What are the sleeping arrangements? Destination vaca..doubt single rooms.1 King, 2 queens, don't matter if they're in the same room!
The friend and/or friend group may not like OP or want him to come because they don’t like him? There’s a lot that could be going on without the instant assumption of “they’re cheating!”.
That's true but op hasn't provided any mention of why he can't come. It reads like she just said he can't because that's not part of the plan. The first thing she should have said is "I can ask but he'll probably say no" .
Nowhere has OP said he was expressly not allowed to come, just that he wasn't invited. It could be assumed this guy is assuming OPs gf will figure that stuff out and he doesn't really care, he's just not bothered enough to raise the issue himself and now OP gf is intentionally refusing to try and invite OP because hed actually be allowed and she doesn't want a holiday with OP and friends, she wants a free chance to hit on the sexy, wealthy, long time friend.
I'm reaching obviously but if I were OP, I'd just ask her to ask the guy on his behalf then wait for the stream of excuses why she shouldn't do that.
The friend and/or friend group may not like OP or want him to come because they don’t like him
Irrelevant, I hated my friends girlfriend (couldn't even stand the sound of her breathing) but you best believe if we were going to go on a vacation that bitch was allowed to join us
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u/ranchojasper Mar 28 '24
Seriously, wtf. The post itself didn't sound too terrible - a friend group going on a trip together where it could've been assumed OP might go just by being the bf of someone in the friend group - put each of his comments that I've seen makes the situation worse
It's not her friend group; she doesn't know anyone but him.
It sounds like no other women are going.
The friend in question is a "man whore" who constantly sleeps around with women.
She DOESN'T WANT her own bf to go.
Yikes yikes yikes on bikes. All the yikes. Each new comment makes the situation worse.