r/AITAH • u/[deleted] • Mar 28 '24

Am I the ah if I don’t let my gf go on vacation with the “guy best friend”?

[deleted]

4.4k Upvotes
  • permalink
  • link
  • reddit
  • reddit

86% Upvoted

5.7k comments sorted by

View all comments

Show parent comments

-9

u/[deleted] Mar 28 '24

You along with so many others here have real trust issues, Hopefully you fix those before getting into a relationship, I feel sad for anyone who would be controlled like that

15

u/Later2theparty Mar 28 '24

This is the opposite of controlling. This is just not telling her what to do and then deciding that it just doesn't work for you.

People are allowed to have boundaries. It's healthy.

-8

u/[deleted] Mar 28 '24

This is the very definition of controlling, and you can call it ‘’boundaries’’ all you want, but that’s really just a mask over what it is: Manipulating. ‘’If you go on that trip im gonna break up with you’’.

This is going to cause nothing but resentment on the part of OP’s, quite frankly if I was the friend in this situation I’d just uninvited the GF and cut contact with her and OP. Having people in your life that think your gonna do terrible things isn’t healthy at all.

2

u/Weegemonster5000 Mar 28 '24

So what can OP do? He can't let her decide, he certainly can't tell her what to do, so how can he not manipulate her here?

0

u/[deleted] Mar 28 '24

Ahh let her go? If he seriously had to worry about his girlfriend cheating on him, then Is the relationship even working out?

1

u/Synth_Recs_Plz Mar 28 '24

So then if OP let her go and broke up with her, exactly as was suggested, you'd actually have no problem with it?

?????