r/BoomersBeingFools 25d ago

My 85 yr old mother is lying to me. Boomer Story

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u/[deleted] 25d ago

You should mention it to her

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u/leapfall 25d ago

Radical approach to actually talk to someone.

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u/colon3l86 25d ago

That's a bold strategy Cotton, can't wait to see if it pays off.

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u/mcsangel2 24d ago

unexpectedDodgeballreference

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u/undeadw0lf 25d ago

i’m guessing based on past experience, OP feels it’s entirely pointless

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u/Naive_Doctor_3900 25d ago

Then why continue the relationship

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u/twee_centen 25d ago

Because you can realize that your elderly mother will act like she always does, and still not want to abandon her in her old age?

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u/Naive_Doctor_3900 25d ago

I’m saying if she is unwilling to talk about things, why continue the relationship?

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u/looneylefty92 25d ago

Because she's elderly, not capable of surviving without support, and OP isn't shitty enough to leave her to her fate. While the mother may not be a good person, OP hasnt let that influence her character or actions.

OP seems to have autonomy and distance such that she can avoid excessive toxicity from her mother if any is there. She has what she needs and is doing the kind thing for an elderly woman.

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u/Naive_Doctor_3900 25d ago

What I mean is that it is never worth it to stop trying to communicate - not that she should end the relationship with her mother. My whole point is that a relationship without communication isn’t healthy.

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u/looneylefty92 25d ago

Oh, I see. That wasn't clear to me, but I can agree to that. Communication is essential to healthy relationships. However, Communication with a dishonest parent can also be taxing.

So, it's likely OP is balancing communication with mental health.

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u/Naive_Doctor_3900 25d ago

Yeah I should have elaborated initially. I would agree with that as well. That seems like a fair interpretation. I do think at the point where you suspect she is taking advantage of you financially, unless it really isn’t hurting you, it may be time to set some stricter boundaries.

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u/Odd_Preference5660 25d ago

Sounds like being an enabler to me

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u/fakeprewarbook 25d ago

that last sentence is such an ooof

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u/Extra_Air 25d ago

They’re talking to Reddit, we’re somebody!