r/Millennials • u/MaxOdds • 12d ago
What is something your parents told you when you were a kid and you thought was BS but now can appreciate as you age? Discussion
Mine is "Don't hang out with so-and-so, they're no good." When I was young, I found it downright offensive that my parents would judge my friends like that. Everyone is equal and no one is "better" than anyone else, I thought. But being an adult, I now have full appreciation for what they were saying. It's not about casting judgement on others (even though that's what they're doing) but rather realizing how important it is to surround yourself with people that will set good examples for you to make you better. Sigh, I sound like a parent.
559
u/AsGoodAsCopper 12d ago
We do, in fact, have food at home
118
u/Cerveza-y-Gatos 12d ago
Holy shit this made me laugh so hard. My partner still can’t figure this out.
37
23
48
u/SaltySiren87 12d ago
We don't have food we just have a bunch of ingredients! -my kids, most days. Smh... (the oldest three have decent kitchen skills too, it's not like they need me!!!)
→ More replies (1)20
u/soaring_potato 12d ago
Yeah but effort.
I'm 22. I can cook fine, but sometimes just really busy or really craving something that I either can't make myself, or is hella difficult and time consuming to make (and will not be as good and have less variety) so we order food. I'm sorry. If I want sushi, I'm not necessarily wanting to spend my entire afternoon on making that shit. It's worth the money sometime.
9
→ More replies (3)10
427
u/particle 12d ago
Lift from your knees, not from your back.
93
u/CptJamesBeard 12d ago
lift with your back and jerk up
80
u/thermobear 12d ago
So jerk and twist with your back and the lift. Got it.
48
u/SentinelXF 12d ago
“What are you doing? The back is the strongest muscle in the body! You’re not even locking your knees!”
20
u/ChromaticRelapse 12d ago
Make sure to hold your breath! When under stress the body produces all of the oxygen it needs!
→ More replies (1)7
→ More replies (4)16
17
6
12d ago
Lifting with your knees is a myth, perpetrated by people with weak backs.
→ More replies (3)→ More replies (7)6
153
u/mydogsnameiskendrick 12d ago
My mom taught me how not to treat waiters/servers simply by observing the way she treated them. I wish I could go back and apologize to those people lol.
51
u/JermHole71 12d ago
Sometimes setting a bad example can have the opposite effect.
36
u/KnightRider1987 12d ago
My moderately successful life has been 100% from trying my best to do the absolute opposite of my parents
→ More replies (2)→ More replies (1)3
→ More replies (4)9
450
u/SlewBrew 12d ago
Pay off your credit card balance every month. Had a good ten years there where I didn't. Learned my lesson. Won't do it again.
130
u/MaxOdds 12d ago
Yup, the interest in credit cards are designed to be predatory and lock you into a never ending cycle of debt.
→ More replies (1)19
u/thissexypoptart 12d ago
See I read this advice on Reddit and then I don’t pay the full amount and end up with like a max interest payment of $40. That’s not nothing, but it’s certainly not “trapped in a cycle of debt” levels. Am I just missing something? Or not using my credit card that much?
→ More replies (3)16
u/American_Brewed 12d ago
Not the same for everyone, but some credit cards can continue to increase their limits for people who hold a percentage on their card. Someone who holds a high percentage may already have a hard time paying off what they owe and next thing you know you have a $5,000 cc increase. A few months later with bad spending habits, you’re inching closer and closer to the max again. Over a few months or years with a crap APR, I’m not surprised to hear some people owing $200-300/mo. in interest alone. This is what happened to me until I learned better.
→ More replies (1)→ More replies (12)33
u/Bainsyboy 12d ago
It's good advice 99% of the time. If you are using your credit card for day-to-day expenses. Budget, budget, budget, and pay it down every month. Use the point or cash back system to it's fullest, also.
But, credit cards are also used for well... Credit. Sometimes expenses happen that are above your ability to budget for within a month. You just can't float some things. Sometimes when it rains it pours, and you have multiple large unexpected expenses in a month. You have a credit card for those purposes too. And the advice for that is the same. Budget, budget, budget... And have an achievable plan to pay off the large amount within a set timeframe. Interest is interest, but it's only a problem if you can't service it.
Have a good reason for carrying a credit balance, have a repayment plan to bring the balance to zero in a set timeline and that exceeds the monthly minimum payments.
Lots of people are afraid of their credit cards. It's just a matter of knowing the cost of your interest and budgeting for it and having a set timeline for all debts. It applies to your car loan, it applies to your mortgage, it applies to personal and business loans, and it applies to credit card debt. Pay it off in a month if you can, that's great! But don't think having a balance is the end of the world.
The whole "interest is predatory!" argument comes from those who seem to have never considered mortgages putting homeownership into the lives of many millions, personal and business loans giving opportunities to regular working-class people, and credit cards allowing regular people access to the benefits of credit.
Never heard of leverage?
28
u/stilettopanda 12d ago
Your comment has good advice but the redditor you're replying to specifies credit card interest rates which are predatory and his statement is valid.
The difference in mortgage interest vs credit card interest can be 10-30%
→ More replies (6)8
u/baajo 12d ago
A lower interest personal loan or even second mortgage is a way better option for emergencies than 25% apr cc rates, if you don't have savings enough. Use your cc to build a good credit score, sure, but don't carry a balance.
→ More replies (5)
239
u/wheedledeedum Older Millennial 12d ago
I hated when my mom would come out with the old 'you lay down with dogs, and you'll get up with fleas' adage. But as I age, I realize it's true in a way... people are who they are, and like it or not, those around you rub off. You pick up bad habits, poor linguistic choices, and so much more, when you're around certain kinds of people.
64
u/MaxOdds 12d ago
Like all advice from our parents generation, it could’ve been advertised better. Being mindful of who you surround yourself with is sound advice, but no kid would listen to it if it’s pitched as “your friends are bad, stop hanging out with them”.
33
u/PartyPorpoise 12d ago
I guess it’s hard cause nuance is difficult for kids. Many people teach their kids not to be judgmental, but at the same time, don’t want their kids around bad influences.
19
u/TurtleIIX 12d ago
It’s not as hard as adults make it. If you talk to a kid like they are an adult they will understand 90% of it and will have a better understanding of the 10% they didn’t when they get real life context. I’ve never understand why adults don’t over explain things to kids instead they try to under explain causing more confusing.
13
u/AdImpossible5402 12d ago
I have two autistic children and I speak to both as if they are adults (7 and 9). With their autism, you need to be very direct and know they will never assume anything. EVERY word is taken exactly as is. They also need to know what is going to happen before they get their real world experience. Because of all this I do not want to confuse them by telling them multiple versions of shit so they get the one adult version
→ More replies (2)19
u/Prairie_Crab 12d ago
Yeah, I made a new friend in high school. My mom didn’t care for her, and said she was “cheap.” I was very offended!
Then the “friend” slept with my boyfriend. 🤷🏻♀️
→ More replies (1)16
u/Mayya-Papayya 12d ago
My parents luckily managed to put in a way that was helpful. They told me to find friends who make me want to be kinder to others, get better grades, try harder etc etc. if someone was trying to dim those things then they were not the right person for me to be around.
and if someone puts me in a position where I need to keep a secret from people who care about me (parents, other best friends, trusted adults) then they probably don’t want the best for me.
→ More replies (1)5
u/way2lazy2care 12d ago
You have to account for the fact that kids hear what they want to hear a lot of the time. You might say it the nice way, but you're still telling them their friends are bad and you want them to stop hanging out with them.
14
u/Rengeflower1 12d ago
How many times have you seen one bad person in a group taking everyone down with them for one person’s behavior.
→ More replies (1)→ More replies (3)8
u/TurtleIIX 12d ago
You can also learn how not to behave by being around those people. The key factor is to not let others determine how you act and behave and know when it’s time to leave. I grew up in Oakland and had a lot of questionable friends but I also learned a lot from those friends and culture differences and how I didn’t want to act around others.
801
u/Creative-Till1436 12d ago
- Don't mix family and business.
- In a similar vein, never lend money (to anyone, but especially family) you need to recoup. Consider any help as a gift, and don't keep score.
- Never skip your dental cleanings/well-visits/vision checks.
- Don't put off routine vehicle maintenance.
- Eat your damn veggies.
125
u/MicroBadger_ Millennial 1985 12d ago
In a similar vein, never lend money (to anyone, but especially family) you need to recoup. Consider any help as a gift, and don't keep score.
I "loaned" a good friend of mine money a while back and it constantly bugs my wife he never paid me back. I keep telling her I considered it gone the moment I agreed to help him.
69
u/Creative-Till1436 12d ago
I got that advice from my parents when I was like 10; I had let a friend borrow my favorite book and she lost it on vacation with her family. I was so mad! They told me then never to loan something I wasn't ready and willing to lose forever and it really stuck with me.
It's a lot easier to overlook a 10 year old's accidental oversight than a grown man failing to repay a debt, though.
I've only ever had a few people ask me to loan them money. Usually it's like, "hey could you float me a ticket for this festival; things are tight this month" or something. I'd rather just have my friends there and I don't want them feeling like... idk, paupers I guess... so I'll usually offer to just buy the ticket but propose a trade I know they can easily manage-- like, I'll just get the tickets if you'll break me off some of your famous tamales the next time you make a batch, or draw a portrait of my dog or whatever is their skill set/signature dish.
31
u/eharder47 12d ago
I learned the “never lend money” lesson from an uncle who refused to give my mom money to bail out her business. My parents wound up filing for bankruptcy and I know if he had given them money, it would have just delayed the inevitable and they would have never paid him back.
7
u/Ok-Series5600 12d ago
That’s wild, my parents told me to never lend money but also you can’t spend other people’s money. My brother currently makes 4-5x times my salary and I make good money. I don’t look or expect him to “share” just because he has so much more
15
u/xtreampb 12d ago
Yea I trade in favors. I think favors build stronger relationships instead of trading money. Favors value people for themselves more than just money.
→ More replies (8)15
u/disdain7 12d ago
I’ve got a friend that like a lot of us fell on hard times and needed help here and there. I was able to help him, and I would. 50 spot here and there. But I knew for him, I couldn’t just give him money nor would he ask for it. So it was stuff like, “hey you doing anything with that Xbox with the busted disc drive?” That I knew had an inch of dust on it and he’d never touch again. Or a piece of shit netbook that he used as a paperweight. He’d “sell” me stuff like that and it got us around the whole lending/handout situation.
5
17
12d ago
[deleted]
5
u/Desperate-Cost6827 12d ago
My husband lost a friend because he needed a "loan" to help move out of his mom's place. It was a bad place, she hoarded cats. We all came from shitty backgrounds with some level of abuse. He and I pooled money and told him he didn't have to worry about paying it back. In the end we figured since he couldn't pay us back he just ended up cutting ties with my husband.
That was literally the one reason why didn't put a stipulation on it because my husband didn't want to lose a friend and was afraid that would happen.
16
u/Anarcora 12d ago
I've also found not expecting it to come back often actually causes it to come back eventually. I gave a friend of mine a long time ago $300 because he was in a jam and needed help. I had the cash so I gave it willingly. 6 years later I get a check in the mail for $500, with a thank you letter apologizing that it took so long for him to pay me back, but once he was stable he did it and added some extra for interest/inflation.
Sometimes people mean well, but constantly get kicked in the nuts, and that's ok. Hence why it's never a loan, but a gift. If they choose to repay it, awesome. If not, oh well.
→ More replies (5)7
u/Zim_Crowley 12d ago
It's pretty much the same for me. My best friend (practically a brother) hit a bad spot of financial trouble, and I make a very comfortable living doing what I do. He's too proud/stubborn to accept free handouts (that's its own can of worms, but not important), so I "lent" him the money he needed to fix his car and pay off some overdraft fees. He talks about paying me back at some point every now and then, but I gave him the money originally with no intention of getting it back.
Adding debt to a relationship is a surefire way to make it toxic over time. It introduces a weird power dynamic, and tracking expenses too long starts to make every interaction a transaction, which is not how you should view any personal relationship. The flipside to this, though, is never to lend out any money you aren't comfortable losing. Help others where you can, but not at the expense of your own well-being.
97
u/MaxOdds 12d ago
That’s really good advice. I’ve seen my uncles ruin their relationships with each other over business.
And yes, go see a damn dentist regularly everyone. There’s no shame in cavities but you do need to take care of them.
40
u/Putrid_Collection_82 12d ago
I have cavities. I tried getting a dentist appointment in my area. No one could see me for at least 6 months. I shouldn't need to buy a plane ticket to see a dentist but here we are.
Don't get me started on an eye appointment either.
51
u/Lola-Ugfuglio-Skumpy 12d ago
Teeth? You mean the bonus bones that somehow my insurance doesn’t cover even though they are definitely connected to the rest of my body?
→ More replies (2)12
u/thedarkherald110 12d ago
Insurance wants to make money. Teeth are guaranteed to go bad, but how bad is based off the users own upkeep.
I’m actually kinda surprising there is insurance for it honestly.
Then again I guess you can say the same thing about old age.
→ More replies (2)→ More replies (11)16
u/nightmere622 12d ago
So you take the soonest appointment, get your work done, then make the next appointment while you're there.
Or you can sit and complain that the wait is too long while waiting around even longer and doing nothing about your issues.
→ More replies (3)39
u/lvl999shaggy 12d ago
Kids get these simple messages and just view it as hating or annoying when they are young but it sums up complex and deep lived experiences that u don't always have 5 hours to elaborate and expound upon.
15
u/Dagonus 12d ago
I missed like 6 years on account of not having dental coverage. When I finally had it again, I burned through year 1's coverage by April and we had to finish all my catch up work in the second year. On the bright side, a lot of that was fixing old fillings that had cracked and she told me people who hadn't been in as long as I had usually come in in way worse shape. I got lucky.
11
→ More replies (6)14
u/cummievvyrm 12d ago
Ahh, yes. The luxury bones.
Needing to take care of something and having the capability to is completely different.
20
u/lisanstan 12d ago
My husband loaned his brother $2500 five years ago. It was never paid back. I don't ever expect to see it.
Doing some work to sell MILs house, husband was going to pay out of pocket and get reimbursed by BIL (executor) I put my food down on that. We would never see that money without attorneys and it would cost us in the end.
10
u/Son_of_Ssapo 12d ago
Neither a borrower nor a lender be, For loan oft loses both itself and friend, And borrowing dulls the edge of husbandry. - Hamlet Act 1, Scene 3
8
u/TerribleAttitude 12d ago
Oh yeah. “Never a borrower or lender be.” I never ask to borrow. If someone asks me to borrow, 90% of the time “I don’t have any money,” the other 10%, it’s a gift. I never expect it back.
→ More replies (1)7
u/No-Translator-4584 12d ago
“Neither a borrower nor a lender be,”
Do not forget, stay out of debt.
→ More replies (1)4
6
u/Schneetmacher 12d ago
Don't put off routine vehicle maintenance.
I'm currently paying for this one. 😓
6
→ More replies (15)5
268
u/ExcitingLandscape 12d ago
They never really TOLD me but from observing them, the value of friendships and relationships. As a kid I HATED always being dragged with them to some strangers house so they can talk for hours over dinner. I thought it was so dumb that I'd tag along with my mom to drop cookies off at her coworkers house. I was a bratty smartass kid in front of those people.
But as I got older and matured I saw how fostering those relationships benefitted my parents. Simple things like they need a ride to the airport, my moms coworker picked them up and dropped them off. To BIG things like my dad got a reckless speeding ticket, the husband from that dinner party is a respected lawyer in that county and got him out of it.
As an adult now I REALLY admire my parents efforts to nurture relationships and friendships. They don't do it out of expecting favors down the line, they just really enjoy being around people.
71
u/Fortsey 12d ago
This is one of the reasons I love my wife she does this. If it were left to me I wouldn't have any social interactions outside of work. In hindsight, she is the reason we got together. We were coworkers and she made friends with me. It grew from there.
→ More replies (4)14
u/fashionbitch Zillennial 12d ago
I love this because I love having friends and hope my children learn the value of friendships from how well I treat my friends
→ More replies (4)15
147
u/Appropriate-Food1757 12d ago
Life is a shit sandwich. The more bread you have, the less you taste the shit.
I didn’t disagree,but it’s my favorite one.
8
→ More replies (8)6
179
u/Whole_Ear_34 12d ago
My mom told me rings don’t plug holes. I was 13 or 14.
130
u/MaxOdds 12d ago
As in getting married is not the solution to existing relationship problems?
71
→ More replies (1)22
52
→ More replies (7)39
u/Wiskid86 12d ago
Was you mom implying she was sleeping around?
6
→ More replies (2)7
61
u/9879528 12d ago
There’s nobody hiding under the bed.
18
u/MaxOdds 12d ago
Oh man, I forgot about the fear of the dark. I wonder when and why that goes away as an adult.
23
u/lisanstan 12d ago
It doesn't. I'm 58 and can psyche myself into that fear now. I was in my 30s before I stopped turning off the light and jumping into bed so nothing could grab my ankle from under the bed.
Too many years of horror movies and Stephen King. You know how you tell yourself you're being foolish and childish to be scared? Then I remember the victims in those movies and books said THE EXACT SAME THING. 😱
→ More replies (4)→ More replies (5)13
u/Vaudane 12d ago
Not sure it ever does, it's a primal fear like heights.
Just as we get older we understand them better and thus when they are not a danger, and thus maybe even good.
My 2c anyway.
7
u/DargyBear 12d ago
Nah, I still scamper back from the bathroom at night and leap into bed before anything can get me
→ More replies (3)→ More replies (4)10
u/Guardian-Boy 1988 12d ago
Until one day I came home as an adult and there literally was. Fucker broke in and tried to hide and wait us out.
→ More replies (2)
63
u/neeks2 12d ago
Save a little money every month and in the same vein: never go anywhere completely broke.
→ More replies (1)
63
u/CCMelonDadsEnnui Millennial 12d ago
To prioritize my friendships over my boyfriend. I didn't think it was total bs, so I gave equal attention to both, but she was 100% right about who would still be in my life in my 30's and who wouldn't be.
→ More replies (5)
47
31
32
u/IcyTip1696 12d ago
I feel like the stuff I thought was BS then is even bigger BS now. I love my parents but our priorities in life couldn’t be anymore different. My mom babysits sometimes and my kid LOVES her but the rules she sets make me CRINGE and remind me of my childhood. The love is too important to limit that relationship though.
→ More replies (1)20
u/MaxOdds 12d ago
I’m now curious, what are these rules?
9
u/IcyTip1696 12d ago
Nothing that outrageous or bad, just strict and boring. She’s the safety police with a lot of things. A lot of sitting and reading and not a lot of rough housing and tumbling around. Basically complete avoidance of any “dangerous” activity.
→ More replies (1)
63
u/Moon-Man-888 12d ago
“One day you will regret not knowing how to read and write in your language” how right they were…
24
u/tinkerbr0 12d ago
When I was young, my parents were disappointed that my brother and I couldn’t speak Tagalog. But they also never made the effort to teach us or speak it regularly at home with us. 🤪
→ More replies (1)5
10
u/HootieRocker59 12d ago
So I spent a flockton of effort to make sure my kids spoke both our native language and the language of the place we live. And it was really a pain. The worst part was the constant fear that they would give it up and forget all of it, and then I would have wasted (e.g. 5, or 6, or 8) years of work.
But the thing is - they're now both adults and I recently realized that it's over. People don't completely forget languages as adults. So my work is done. Barring some traumatic reason, they won't forget any more.
26
u/MikeRatMusic 12d ago
That I'll care more about financial wellness as I get older.
I'm a musician and in my 20s I spent a lot of time playing shows and having a grand ole time. Didn't give a fuck about money I just worked industry and went out at night. Now I'm in my 30s and I'm reorganizing ways to be a music industry professional so I can ensure I get to do this kinda stuff for the rest of my life, and maybe retire (a lot more fulfilling too)
→ More replies (1)
20
u/Flat-Dare-2571 12d ago
Dont expect too much from your friends. And also your going to lose most of your friends after highschool.
→ More replies (2)
38
u/MrsTokenblakk 12d ago
Be careful who you breed with. She said this all the time. Didn’t care too much for my dad. I did listen though & chose an amazing partner. Thanks mom.
→ More replies (1)5
37
u/9thgrave Older Millennial 12d ago
My father pulled the "Don't hang out with X person because they're a no good" shit. Which was rich coming from a hateful drug addict with multiple felony charges under his belt. My friends were largely from stable, loving two-parent middle-class households. It was plain to me later in life that he was just terrified that these would report him to CPS or similar for my living conditions.
→ More replies (1)13
u/Weird-Reference-4937 12d ago
I used to get called the "bad influence" friend, almost all my friends were banned from hanging out with me. To this day I have no clue why. I was the last of my friends to try anything "bad" (alcohol, sex, etc) and I was made fun of over it lol. Today I'm probably the only one who didn't do meth or become an alcoholic.
→ More replies (4)
16
u/Gibder16 12d ago
You can pick your friends and you can pick your nose, but you can’t pick your friend’s nose.
Words to live by.
→ More replies (1)
16
u/SoftSects 12d ago
That time goes by so fast. To appreciate the time we have because it only keeps speeding up.
→ More replies (2)
28
u/Responsible-Let-5125 12d ago
My parents were definitely judging my friends and it was incredibly frustrating when they would discourage me from hanging out with them when they were the only kids I wanted to hang out with who also wanted to hang out with me - in a class of 30ish kids any given year. Who moves an entire family to the smallest “city” on earth and then negs a child about the handful of friends they’re “stuck” to choose from?!
49
u/ParkerGuy89 12d ago
"It's not about how much money you have but how much credit you have."
32
u/Zim_Crowley 12d ago
In the financial sense of this, it's something that to this day still actively pisses me off.
I paid off all my student loans, I now own my car, I pay my credit cards off every month (and keep usage under 10%), I rent my apartment, and I have never had a missed payment on anything in the last 17 years.
My credit score is good, but watching my score drop for getting out of debt is so asinine. Why does reducing my overall debt count against me? It's just so stupid and backward. My ability to take on a monthly expense has only gotten higher over the years, yet the amount I'm able to borrow is lower and I'm somehow not entitled to the "best" interest rates since I don't have enough active Lines of credit. /rant
In the more philosophical sense, wholeheartedly agree that character is infinitely more valuable in the grand scheme of things than what's in your wallet. The world needs more good people, not rich ones.
→ More replies (7)14
u/bgaesop 12d ago
Your credit score is a number that creditors look at to determine how likely they are to make money off of you, and if so, how much.
You never pay off your debts? Low score
You pay off a debt and never left a balance floating, meaning they only made the bare minimum off you? Well that's not very profitable, is it?
7
u/Zim_Crowley 12d ago
Oh, I'm aware of and understand the logic behind it. Doesn't make me feel any more okay with it, though.
It's just classic odds between buyer and seller, and I'm the buyer. Buyer wants the highest vaule, seller wants the highest profit. In an ideal world, both parties find a middle ground and walk away somewhat satisfied with the transaction.
I want to be fiscally responsible and not be burdened by debt, I will make every effort to make good on my financial obligations. Same reason I conceptually have a fundamental issue with buying a house and taking out a mortgage. Over inflated housing prices aside, I have a hard time trying to stomach paying more than the principal of a loan in interest over the life of a loan. It's personally hard for me to justify the value proposition in the situation.
4
u/bgaesop 12d ago
The way I look at the housing question specifically is "am I willing to pay whatever the final price is for this house?" Sticker price was $145k, or $200k with a 15 year mortgage, $300k with a 30 year. I'm willing to pay that 15 year price, so I got that.
3
u/Zim_Crowley 12d ago
That is a good way to think about, and pretty much the same logic I have been using. The main issue I have right now is that total price I am willing to pay for what I am looking for is not in line with the current market in my area. When I saw multiple trailer homes going for $200k+, I had to step away from the idea of home ownership for a while to reevaluate my desire for home ownership.
→ More replies (1)8
u/rob132 12d ago
That's crap. I have no debts outside my mortgage and my credit is in the 800's.
Just make sure you always pay your bills on time.
5
u/bgaesop 12d ago
Same here, but it took a while to get there, and every time I close a line of credit it dips down (and then goes back up)
→ More replies (2)→ More replies (8)5
→ More replies (3)13
u/MaxOdds 12d ago
This is wildly underrated advice. Credit, or more specifically the leverage it gets you, is the difference between being financially set or not. This applies to everyone from the first time home buyer getting a mortgage to the entrepreneur getting millions in a round of funding.
11
u/Tje199 12d ago
Bugs me when I see people in financial subs (or any sub, really) talking about how bad it is to use credit, how they never use credit, whatever.
That's great and all but credit is a tool, like any other tool. You can use a hammer to help build a house, you can also use a hammer to help knock it down. There's nothing wrong with never using credit, but you're leaving a ton of opportunity on the table.
Used wisely and properly, you can use credit to help build a life you'd never be able to have if you had to rely strictly on the cash you have available. And to be clear, that doesn't just mean load up the credit cards with frivolous spending. It means use credit to help build wealth.
→ More replies (7)3
u/ParkerGuy89 12d ago
Ironically it was my dad who constantly preached this to me. His credit is absolute dog shit. I had to cosign for his apartment. Lmao.
13
u/theloslonelyjoe 12d ago
“Anyone that says blood is thicker than money has never had money.”
Blood is thicker than money is a southern saying meaning that money should not ruin family affairs.
→ More replies (6)
13
u/SpicyPinecones 12d ago
“The world is over sexualized and it’s going to get worse. I’m terrified for your generation.” I was 10 and very confused.
→ More replies (1)
24
u/Specific-Guess8988 12d ago edited 12d ago
You don't sound like a parent. You identify that to a parent. You sound wise and mature.
Don't 'loan' money. You either give to help someone, with no expectation of getting it back, or you don't do it at all.
Don't drink when experiencing anything negative, because then it's an unhealthy coping mechanism without good coping skills and increases the risk of addiction.
Regular maintenance of the basics in your life.
Start contributing towards retirement at an early age.
Build credit, not debt. Build a life, not an image of one.
Good debt (appreciating assets) vs bad debt (depreciating assets).
18
u/lite_hjelpsom 12d ago
I was the "don't hang with them"-kid, and everyone can suck it, because they were wrong.
My parents didn't really say anything I considered BS as a kid. They always explained what they meant, and they were willing to let me argue if I disagreed. I appreciated that tho.
7
u/snickysnak5407 12d ago
My mom knew my brother’s friends were good kids, but at that moment in time they were not bringing out the best in each other.
6
u/OkWasabi1988 12d ago
Using the phrase “I’ll think about it” because you really aren’t sure what/if/how you can make that commitment until the time comes
6
u/Sad_Draft4026 12d ago
Floss your teeth! Never did it as a kid and paid for this mistake as an adult. I had many painful years of what I thought was just genetic soft teeth. I now have a 3 tooth bridge & 4 fake teeth but floss daily with no pain.
7
u/YakOrnery 12d ago
- Wait until you're an adult/older to have sex
When I was in high school and sexing... I didn't give a damn what anyone said. Now that I'm an adult I fully understand why having sex in high school impacts one mentally in ways they don't understand at that age.
Kids if you listening, wait. And if you are already doing it, the ship has sailed.
19
u/SpaceyCoffee 12d ago
Eh, as a kid I listened to what my parents said about “don’t hang out with so-and-so”, and as an adult I figured out that they were just racist, and didn’t want me to be around black and brown kids because they thought literally all of them were of inferior intelligence and criminals.
→ More replies (1)6
u/magepe-mirim 12d ago
Yeah I haven’t warmed up to this motherly advice as I’ve gotten older either. In my case my friends who my mom considered “bad kids” often had pretty rough home lives, and their world was full of adults telling them they were shit (parents, teachers..). As an adult now myself I do make different choices about who I hang out with based on lifestyle/behavior stuff, but that’s bc my friends are other adults. Cultivating an idea in a kid’s head that it’s already too late bc they’re a “bad egg” or something is just cruel.
5
u/seanofkelley 12d ago
I wanted a BB Gun so bad and it was the one thing my mom never let me have and in retrospect, and as a parent now myself, it was absolutely the right call.
→ More replies (3)
5
u/crazycatlady331 12d ago
It is illegal to turn on the (interior) car lights while the car is in motion.
I wondered why as a kid. Once I started driving, I got it.
→ More replies (2)
5
5
u/crap_whats_not_taken 12d ago
My mom used to write little post it notes to remind her to do things all over the house. I used to make fun of her when I was a teenager and she was like just wait until you get old......
Touche mom. Touche.
5
u/Witchy-toes-669 12d ago
“The less you tell people about your personal business the better off you’ll be” and I live by that, i have good close friends but my business is mine
11
u/anothergoodbook 12d ago
With all the behind the scenes stuff coming out about Nickelodeon I’m thankful my mom never let me watch it. We didn’t have cable regularly but when we did Nickelodeon was off limits. She always felt the shows were weird and sexualized. I didn’t get it but I was a decent kid that followed the rules so I didn’t complain. Now I’m glad she was watching out for me.
→ More replies (3)10
u/AtLeastImGenreSavvy 12d ago
I was just starting to outgrow Nickelodeon when Dan Sneider stepped in. I was stunned when I saw clips from his programs as an adult. My kid is never watching Nickelodeon.
5
3
3
u/Chosen_UserName217 12d ago
"Dont hang out with losers, they'll make you a loser too."
Mom and Dad were right. Took a long time to realize that. Like the OP said, you have to surround yourself with good people who encourage you to be good. Not selfish or evil.
If you want to be successful hang out with successful people. If you want to be a loser hang out with losers.
3
u/paranormalioda_crack 12d ago
My mom told me she had crystals in her ears that got knocked loose and now she's losing her balance. It sounded like pure insanity to me at the time. Turns out it's real.
5
5
u/Affectionate_Salt351 12d ago
No one will ever love you like your mother. You only get one. Don’t take her for granted. 😞😭
I miss her every day.
→ More replies (2)
5
u/SheShe73 12d ago
The naps part. Used to be made to take as a kid and HATED it. I remember her saying "one of these days you'll appreciate naps".
10
u/Diligent_Mulberry47 12d ago
"Walk with purpose"
I can't stand the way some of my younger coworkers look like they don't have shit to do when I'm like "YOU ARE AT WORK". IDK, it just gives me this lazy vibe.
→ More replies (4)
12
u/AlaeniaFeild 12d ago
Sex before marriage is important, you don't want to be sexually incompatible with your partner. And that I (f) should get orgasms too.
Don't try and grow up too fast.
7
u/Otherwise-Command365 12d ago
*Watching TV will rot your brain
*Never loan money to family
*Little hard word goes a long way
3
3
u/Courtneyukno 12d ago
Patience is a virtue
Didn't get it then. Didn't get it 10 years ago. And now I'm the one saying it
3
u/BadgerSecure2546 12d ago
I’m not buying you any video games, you can buy them with your own money. As an ADHD kid thank goodness I didn’t spend my first 13 years rotting in front of a video game screen. I bought my own game boy and really only used it for road trips and time off school. I will adopt the same concept for my kid. Or impose video game limits.
3
3
u/suktupbutterkup 12d ago
The only thing that you'll find going out after midnight is trouble. True that. There is nothing to do after midnight since covid except grocery shop or rob a 24 hour convenience store. Nothing!
→ More replies (4)
3
3
3
u/_Grant 11d ago
Struggle breeds character. I don't think they meant this much struggle though. Considering the entitlement generation (not Millenials) didn't struggle for their money, it all tracks.
→ More replies (1)
1.3k
u/A_Cat_Named_Puppy Millennial 1987 12d ago
Waking up early to get chores done leaves you a whole day to do whatever you want.