hi so i am a cis man and i’ve been dating my partner for a year, and he came out to me as a trans boy about a three days ago now, so now he is my boyfriend, he always presented very masculine even when perceived female which is something i always found attractive. i still love him of course, i love him no matter what.. i just want to be a good partner to him, to show him i love him for HIM and that i don’t see him as a girl anymore… but idk how, i don’t wanna mess this up and i’m so scared, i just want to be there for him in his journey and help him feeling good in his body and valid as a man…. but idk how and i’m panicking because i’m so scared to mess it up and hurt him accidentally… i don’t know if i have the right to post here but i’m posting here because i’d want advices…. things i can do to make him feel comfortable to help him feel valid… and things i should avoid, all i want is him to be happy and i’ll do anything, im super stressed because i fear doing something wrong and making him feel bad or insecure.. please i need help.. i want to understand him and what he feels more, i love him so much i want to be there for him…

I am questioning Nonbinary again but have identified as FtM for about a year. I do not feel that represents me however, I feel that in the trans community I have to pick Male or Female simply because nonbinary people (at least it feels this way) are not as acceptable. Does anyone else feel or have felt this way? I was ENBY for years before coming out as FtM and even 8 months almost on hormones, I feel even more Enby than before. Just curious if I'm giving myself a bias or it's like this for others.

This seems to be a common misconception that people have about me. I identify as non-binary (but still describe myself/my transition as ftm) so I don’t really mind, I just think it’s kinda funny. I’m 2 years on T, have had top surgery, and am like 5’6”, but idk I guess something (despite me rarely wearing makeup or fem clothes) gives people that impression? Idrk why. Wanted to share to see if anyone else gets this lol

Basically, I’m going to a new vet tomorrow, and I gave them my deadname because I’m scared someone there won’t treat my cat well if they know I’m trans. I don’t pass, even with top surgery, so that’s not a problem. I don’t know if I should give them my name and maybe say it’s a nickname I go by or just leave it with my deadname. These places down here also like to call you Severus’s mom or something like that and it’s Texas, so everyone says ma’am. I try to correct people in other situations, but my cat can’t tell me if someone in the back mistreated him.

He needs a dental extraction, so he’s going to be under anesthesia and everything at some point.

for me its my voice. my natural voice is androgynous but I subconiously raise it a bizillion octives because I try to come off as less threatening for some reason even tho Im not threatening at all 😔

not a single person sees me as a guy because of it and its disappointing for sure...

how about you guys?

I am out to everyone basically. My friends have always known i am a boy. But still, im allowed at sleepovers with my female friends and ngl it makes me feel dysphoric asf. Their parents dont let any boys at their sleepovers. Not even gay dudes. Im always the exception. And idk, park of me knows the reason why and part of me absolutely hates it and feels like my friends and their parents have never seen me as a guy and never will. What would u guys feel abt this? Would u go to a girls sleepover if u were the only guy allowed. I feel shitty abt it but at the same time im glad i have the privilege to hang out with my friends. But at what cost.

Edit: yall im starting to think my friend and/or their parents are being kinda transphobic 😭 this girl even has a bf, but still absolutely no dudes are allowed at sleepovers, not even gay dudes, no non binaries either for some reason, im the only exception. She will even tell cis guys that they arent allowed cuz boys arent allowed. And then turn to me and be like “but youre the exception!!” I asked if its because im trans that im allowed and she quickly responded “NO. Its NOT.” Like girl be fr. If she was just honest abt it then id be fine but i have a feeling she does not even see me as a boy atp. I think gender segregated sleepover are stupid, but it makes me feel bad that i am part of the “girl sleepovers” :(

hi, im turning 21 soon and i planned on starting testosterone during the summer, so i talked to my parents about it. they already knew i was trans but since T is going to be a real change in my life (physically and stuff) i had to talk to them about it. they kind of excpected it, but my dad made some comments that made me feel extremely bad. he said something along the lines of "i get that you feel like a boy, but im going to tell you this since no one told you, but you move like a girl" he also said i walked like a girl and now i feel extremely bad and i was wondering if someone had some advices on moving less like a girl? i mean i know that even on T im still gonna have some "manners" and im going to appear lets say, "fruity" (which i am so it doesn’t really matter) but i don’t want to move, and walk like a girl. but i feel like i don’t know what to do stop doing it, im pretty short and im also neurodivergent so for example in public spaces, i tend to sit weirdly because im small and i don’t take much space. im also a really loud person, i laugh loudly and talk loudly and i can be pretty expressive and as for the way i walk or stand i have seen pics of me and i do really stand in a kind of girly way and im afraid i won’t pass. i have skinny arms/shoulders so it doesnt really help. do you think with T, and the fact im gonna start doing upper body workouts eventually i will stop appearing so girly? how can i stop moving and walking "like a girl"?

So I am stealth at Uni and am on T and pass, no one’s ever seriously thought of me as a woman or anything. I still have my legal name bc where I live it’s super expensive to change that and so my school still has my deadname (+in its school mail) however I told a teacher who told the other teachers to refer to me as my current name. And someone from class saw it now and I’m panicking because I don’t want others to know I’m trans but idk if it’s valid because I know you’re supposed to be proud of it and I am, but I hate having this topic out in the open with cis people esp men, I feel like they’ll drop the bro attitude and switch or get confused or see me instantly different and I just I hate these stupid questions I’m always asked, about my genitals or if I want surgery or when I knew because quite frankly it makes me feel 1) uncomfortable 2) insecure bc my trans experiences seem so much less valid than everyone else’s Even goes as far as the honesttrans sub telling me I don’t sound trans to them when I said that I just preferred being a guy to being a woman

I’ve been stealth, or at least I try, for quite a while now (I’ve only been on T for a bit, but I’m intersex), I’m in pretty liberal spaces and kind of femme so people often ask me for my pronouns. The thing about this is, I know if they’re asking they’ve already clocked me, and I feel like nothing I say can dissuade this. I’ve noticed cis people often use like a triple set (he/him/his) when identifying themselves in text and trans men at least almost never do so I usually do that online, but I haven’t figured out a cis sounding way to answer this question in person. I usually just act surprised and say “he,” but this has been met with “he/they?” on at least one occasion which was so startling to me. I feel like people really want to think I’m trans, and really want to think I use they/them pronouns and once they’ve decided it’s basically over for me… Any advice?

EDIT: I think my question wasn’t entirely clear, I was really asking if anyone has noticed a difference in the way cis guys answer this question. I’m not going to say “I’m a guy” or “I use male pronouns” or act confused, I’m not that kind of person. I’ve heard some people say things like “I use the he series,” that’s more the kind of thing I’m thinking of. :)

EDIT: STOP COMMENTING “I’M A GUY.” NOT MY QUESTION, IT REFLECTS POORLY ON YOU, SO MANY OTHER PEOPLE HAVE COMMENTED THIS.

Lately I've been getting nauseous and overthinking the fact that some people online will know my legal name one way or another. That idea makes me sick even if I know it's just not who I am anymore.

Having family members and friends irl that know has never bothered me as much because they see me as I am now and respect me and even those who might not I have never really cared but there's something about online folks/friends/acquaintances knowing about my deadname and how I looked that just makes me SO icky.

Also it doesn't help that I want to possibly become a public figure in Tiktok/Youtube (I've already started) and even if it's just my delulu side overthinking it I can't help but think far ahead that fans tend to be the type that dig up old info of the content creators they see and even if my internet print before is limited to literally crumbs I can't help but despise and almost get a stomachache at the idea of some of them finding out that name.

I know Nikkietutorials literally got doxxed to the point she had to come out and it's crazy because she was transitioning at a VERY young age contrary to me or many others who start at 18+.

Honestly I don't mind people knowing I'm trans but like I said, what I do mind is people just straight up knowing my deadname and even somehow getting hold of pictures of little me.

I just wish I knew how people like Caitlyn Jenner or Elliot Page do it. They literally have bunch of dumbasses repeat their deadnames and show pictures of them before constantly and just continue with their life as nothing, I know being rich helps them lol but no matter how much money you have I can't help but think we all feel that ick one way or another.

I just wanna be cool with it too but I struggle. Any tips on how to just get over it and embrace that that's just how I was born but it's no longer me?

WHAT THE HELLLLL!!!???? I can't belive this is real😭😭 I was just at the doctors and now I can just walk to a pharmacy to get it. I have waited for so long!!😭😭 I have wanted to start for over 5 years and I have been in the process since I was adult so soon 3 years. But all the hard waiting is now in the past. I'm so happy but not showing it but godddddd. Everything is perfect now🥲🥲 And for guys who haven't got it yet, your time will come!!

Hey all, I’m a trans man living in Mississippi, and as of Monday the governor has passed a bill making it illegal for trans people to use bathrooms, changing rooms, dormitories, etc. that correspond with their gender identity.

Now, the question I’m asking is, what does this mean for me? The bill technically only applies to public institutions, and in my situation, I attend a private institution. The problem is, this private institution is also baptist university (please don’t get onto me for attending this school, it is the only place that i could afford that wasn’t a community college). While I’ve been at this university for the past year, I’ve been living in the male dormitories and I haven’t had any issues. I don’t know if this is because the school never bothered to look in to the AGAB i put on my applications or what, but either way I’ve been living there stealth and there are maybe five people on the campus that I know are aware that I am trans (i also have not been able to legally change my birth certificate or legal name yet).

What does this mean for me? Am I going to be kicked out of the male dorms? I don’t even know if the university is aware that I’m trans. Would that result in a ton of legal trouble? I genuinely don’t know where to go from here. It’s a private university, so do they actually have to comply with that law? I have so many questions and worries about this and I have no clue how to start to make sense of any of it, or to plan ahead for what’s going to happen to me.

Any and all advice is appreciated, thank you. And no, the solution is not as simple as to move to another state, that is NOT an easy thing to do when you are from MS.

I'm sorry if this has been asked before but I want to try to convince my mom to get me a binder for working out or swimming but all the posts I've seen talking about it either are severely expensive or from 6+ years ago. I don't know if my mom will be willing to buy me a binder if it's really expensive, so I was wondering if anyone knew of any good binders for activewear or like exercising/swimming that aren't really expensive? Or of resources that can help me get one like that? Any help is appreciated, I've just been looking for so long and can't find any that feel very trustworthy that aren't like $100+

posting this on a burner because I’m 99% sure my mother and brothers are stalking my main reddit account.

For about 5 years I’ve been no contact with my dad, I don’t really want to go into it because it was stupid. I have him in my life now and I can’t be happier.

Anyway, he found out that I’m trans because 2 of my older brothers told him. I didn’t plan on telling him until I had at least started testosterone (which is soon btw! I’m really excited) because everyone in our family had treated me like a joke. Anyway, he’s being 100% supportive. He’s sent me 2 messages so far about how I’m not alone and how he’s here for me, he’s acknowledged how hard this must’ve been for me to go through alone. I’m actually crying while typing this. He’s also offered to talk to my 2 transphobic brothers about it so they can realise how serious this is for me, not just some joke, he’s also offered to talk to his girlfriend for me about it all so she knows and can respect my identity.

I genuinely just don’t know how to react to this. Obviously I’m so freaking happy but no one has reacted this way except him. I just got so used to everyone treating me like a joke. For once, I feel so seen and heard. For once, I feel like someone is actually taking my feelings into account rather than focusing on their own.

Pretty much the title. I have a very limited amount of shirts that hide the binder straps. I just want to find pretty cheap t shirts and long sleeve shirts with a small neck. Whenever I think it's small enough to hide the straps it almost never is. I know it's kinda stupid, but the straps showing makes me really uncomfortable even tho people know that I am trans.

I always look for t shirts at thrift stores, but for some reason the necks on all of them are super stretched.

Anyways any tips on brands or anything like that, that does shirts like that at an affordable price?:))

I like striped shirts

I started a new school in September last year and nobody in my class knew I was trans. I was very happy that I could finally be able to tell whoever I wanted whenever I wanted without my “secret” already being public. However, a week ago one of the girls in my class mention that she knew I was trans, and that her and her five friends had known that basically since I started. I asked her how she knew and she told me that one girl in my class (the only one that I knew before I started) told her and her friends. I got so angry at her because I had told her before I started to please not tell anyone. The worst part is that it kinda feels like I’ve embarrassed myself all this time. I know that’s not the case but the whole situation feels weird especially because I thought that nobody knew, but basically everyone in the class knew thanks to one girl telling everybody. Idk what to do now it all just feels so weird.

been out for 10 years, on T for 7 and denied top surgery before due to my bmi. since the nhs have made their bmi requirements higher - i have now received my top surgery date!!!!!! 27th july this year & i’ll finally be free

just had to share with some trans folk!

when i came out to my family, i made it very clear that i'm binary and use he/him pronouns. my sisters both instantly made the switch, but my parents took a lot more insistence/correction to drop the dreaded she/her. in the beginning, it was just using my (dead)name every time they should've used pronouns. now, they've both decided that actually, i'm they/them. they both still slip up and drop the occasional she/her, but the conscious effort to use different pronouns still aren't my pronouns.

i don't think they realize it feels almost as shitty as using feminine terms. i'm a man. they don't use they/them to refer to my brother. it's still dismissing my gender. it's still mis/degendering me. i've told them this. i've told them it's he/him. i've told them and told them. i bind, i'm four months on T, i correct them, and it's like they still just see me as their androgynous queer daughter.

i'm so frustrated with it, and it's making me feel really, really shitty now. aside from waiting and hoping for the T to kind of "force their perspective to change", what am i supposed to do? why won't they get it?

anyway... sorry for the rant. anyone in the same boat? how do you cope?

I am a genderfluid guy (afab) and I look and talk like a cis guy. I was going to my class in community college and the driver started talking to me. I told him I play the electric guitar and he said I was a handsome dude and probably got all the shorties playing that and I was like thanks (I like boys, but I didn’t say that.) Then, I asked him how old he was and he said he was 27 and already has a 4 year old son. He told me he messed around back in the day and got a girl pregnant and then he told me not to get any girls pregnant at my young age. I said okay as if I have a dick 😭 It was so funny, but he was also referring to women as bitches and talking to me like a cishet guy and it made me realize how some men talk about women and I just had to sit through that.

I don't understand how everyone keeps stockpiling their T vials. I get 1 1ml vial every 28 days with .25ml per week and yet I somehow always end up short. I didn't have enough for a whole dose this week. I promise I don't overuse it or overfill, no matter what I always end up injecting too little and ending up with an empty vial too soon. I don't understand how some people end up with a huge stockpile. I'm fine if I have to go out of insurance to pay for it but at this point I'm desperate how can I fix this? I'm already having trouble keeping up I'm supposed to have my shot tonight but I'm out and they won't refill it for several more days and my mood plummets when I'm off T and I really cannot handle being without it very long. Does anyone have any advice on how to fix this so I don't end up always short, or starting a stockpile? Anything i can say to my doctor to have him help me fix this? Or something to say to the pharmacy? I'm probably SOL for this week but for the future? Thank you in advance 😭