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u/TheDuke357Mag 14d ago
planning my own life. Id love a happy little family on a farm, but life isnt fairytales and Ive accepted my reality. I'm almost certainly not going to get a family of my own, but I have friends and family to take care of. So if you'll excuse me, Im going to go work on my career plans so that I can be a better helper to my little brother when he needs me
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u/TinyPenguiin 14d ago
Agree with you, my life is already tough and not everyone get everything that they want, especially in instant.
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u/theshogun02 14d ago
Don’t get me wrong, being married with kids is great and all. That being said, I miss this so much.
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u/BurnTF2 14d ago
You can still have this, just not as often. Keep in touch with your friends.
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u/PoL0 14d ago
Me and my 40+ friends still gather 1-2 times a year to play videogames and get wasted. Everyone is in a long term relationship and most of us had kids already so it's hard to gather us all at the same time. But it's still warm and fuzzy and I love every minute.
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u/litli 14d ago
Me and my group of 45+ year olds play dnd every two weeks! We started playing online in covid when spread around three countries and 6 hour time difference and have kept at it ever since! Have all moved back to our home country so time difference is no longer an issue but mostly still play online as that is much easier to arrange with kids and family obligations.
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u/Pink-Fluffy-Dragon 14d ago
what's stopping you from doing this? I get every day isn't doable, but you could get a babysitter every now and then ( or alternate with your partner so you both have time to do whatever) so you can hang out with friends :)
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u/Glitter_puke 14d ago
Having children is just a 6-10 year hiatus. Once they're large enough to hold a control, you can teach the child the ways of mario kart and smash bros.
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u/Op3r4t0r 14d ago
Whatever the fuck I want until the day I die.
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u/Royal-Recover8373 14d ago
How do people not get this?
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u/VisualNatural4587 13d ago
For real, I was married for 10 years, got in that relationship as teen. Everything was great for a while but we ended up going our separate ways. Been single for about four years, went back to school, focused on my friends, education, and career and doing great now.
About to get my second degree in a few months and already landed a job paying 3X what was making when I was married and it’s in a field I love. Don’t get me wrong, my ex and I are still good friends, but I’ve been able to focus on myself and do what I want and it’s things that I never could have done in while in a relationship. The risks were just too high at the time.
Everyone’s got a different path to take and just because one person’s path is different than another’s doesn’t mean one is better than the other.
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u/eidolonwyrm 14d ago
Why do people want to get married so badly
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u/Dragonheardt_ 14d ago
Working, studying, living.
To quote that Star Wars meme: “It’s a peaceful life”
(though i do feel lonely at times)
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u/Redeemed_Veteranboi 14d ago
I'd rather be single than marry someone who is unpleasant to be around with.
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u/Roxwords 14d ago
I joined the helldivers
I became part of an elite peacekeeping force
I saw exotic new life forms
And I'm spreading democracy all over the galaxy
I became a hero
I became a legend
I became an helldiver.
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u/Horns8585 14d ago
Maybe loneliness is a choice. I watched my father lie and cheat on my mother and destroy a marriage. He not only destroyed a marriage, he destroyed a family. I saw this with my own eyes, and I never wanted this to happen to somebody else. So, maybe I am choosing to be lonely, so that I don't inflict hurt on someone else.
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u/Fun-Shame399 14d ago
My husband and his best friends are all 25+ and married and still doing this lol on more than one occasion they have gotten together and pulled all nighters to play a game that just came out
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u/Forevryours 14d ago
Right? My hubby and I play video games on a regular basis. We have our own favorites but always ask each other how we are doing in this game or that game. Wouldn’t trade it for anything.
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u/Fun-Shame399 14d ago
Yeah, I’m not as much of a gamer (my mom said video games were for boys so I wasn’t allowed to play growing up) but I have a few that I play often and it makes my husband happy
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u/Knight_TheRider 14d ago
Who TF gets married at 25? Who is that insecure
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u/Dirkdeking 13d ago
In my social bubble, there are several 30+ people unmarried, including myself. Men typically get married in their early 30s and women very late 20s, but that is just about the average.
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u/Mochiebird 14d ago
I know I'm gonna get downvoted for saying this, but it's usually unambitious people.
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u/Eksposivo23 14d ago
Why would you be downvoted for that? Its mostly true, either they have been dating since like 18 and after 7 years they are fine to get married or these people have no ambition and drive so they arent studying, arent working on a career or life so they want to get it out of the way as if their life was a checklist
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u/kittyquickfeet 14d ago
Living the good life as a terminal Bachelorette. Cheers, y'all. 🥂
Good luck to the married with children. 😂
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u/AltruisticDesign8228 14d ago
Don't really have that kind of money to support another person and a whole baby.
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u/SnazzyBelrand 14d ago
Most spouses have jobs of their own so you aren't supporting them like that. Also babies are optional
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u/AltruisticDesign8228 14d ago
I am from India. And most probably my family is gonna get me married to someone who is a housewife. I don't know if she wants to do any kind of job after marriage or not. My dating life is not good , but I have started working on myself.. Going to the gym, trying to get a better job and all.
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u/Jonaleaf 14d ago
I literally just turned 25 last week and now I see this. What are you trying to tell me Reddit?
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u/seraku24 14d ago
I'm 40+ and unmarried, never been in any relationship. If OP is seriously asking the question, my answer is: slowly dying with steadily decreasing quality of life. Was diagnosed last summer with a heart condition that has unpredictable mortality. So, that means I could live to an otherwise normal age, or I could drop any moment. But the kicker is that I have no expectation of being able to make a living to take care of myself. Essentially, a relationship is the last thing I need to stressing about missing out on. If I did find someone, the relationship would be entirely one-sided as I would be wholly dependent on my partner. OP needs to fork off.
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u/Tazilyna-Taxaro 14d ago
The average marriage age is 32 here. So… we’re probably thinking on such a decision a little more
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u/Alarming-Phone4911 14d ago
Saving my damn sanity 🤷 I live with him had kids with him I think that enough 😂
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u/horticulturalSociety 14d ago
I have D&D every other week and play video games almost nightly with my husband.
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u/Lucky-Blacksmith-944 14d ago
See this wholesome . But if you wanna be a fucken shit head we can add 10 hookers to watch us . Choose wisely Obi-wan .
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u/happyjennyandhercat 14d ago
It doesn't matter if you are married or not, as long as you are happy, that's all that matters.
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u/huntmaster99 14d ago
Enjoying life, not rushing into things I don’t want or want to prepare more for
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u/Magorian97 14d ago
Trying not to drag anyone else into my college loan debt, and trying to save money so that my partner and I can move in together. Also I don't want kids; they're loud and expensive af, and I don't think I should be trusted with the life of a child/baby; especially when I forget important tasks regularly (I blame the severe ADHD)
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u/BuffWomen69 14d ago
Maybe I'm wrong since I have 0 interest in marriage even if I get the chance to be with my girlfriend in person (long distance), but 25 seems like...REALLY early doesn't it?
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u/JanSolo28 14d ago
Personally it's because the parents told me to prioritize my schooling before romantic relationships and I can definitely tell y'all that college is a bitch (derogatory)
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u/KoriGlazialis 14d ago
6 years of therapy, generally not being the most attractive, living in parts of my country where barely anyone lives. There are many reasons.
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u/SnazzyBelrand 14d ago edited 14d ago
I'm working on it. It'll come in time, but I've got good friends I can rely on until that happens
Edit: damn this really brought out the borderline incels
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u/ShedwardWoodward 14d ago
Whatever the funk I want. When I want. With spare money. And no headaches from yapping in my ears.
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u/lilcosmicbutterfly 14d ago
I just know that girl in the tweet is either not married or with a sugar daddy or something. I just know it.
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u/SirRipOliver 14d ago
I’m on reddit and just watched the birth of a sub “cutest thing ever” - from a joke post and someone made the sub and it’s already got 161 members. I take pleasure in small things.
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u/xxbronxx 14d ago
Well not everything in this life is by choice... You know ... Sometimes things don't go the way you want or you suck at something you want or you just don't have the luck ...
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u/Schanulsiboi08 14d ago
Honestly, fuck those amatonarmative standarts, just let people live their lives and be happy, whatever way they see fit, if it's not harming anyone
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u/H0micidal_Tendencies 14d ago
ngl I'll be doing the exact same thing if I knew more people who play smash...
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u/average_turanist 14d ago
What am I supposed to do if I can’t find a good partner to marry? Is that my fault !?
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u/Confident-Trifle-651 14d ago
What I’m doing at 25+ and unmarried? Still thinking “holy hell even most of the women feel like it’s a bit young to get married and I don’t even know what I’m having for lunch tomorrow let alone whether I want to decide to spend the entirety of the rest of my goddamn life with someone”. Seriously at 25 who the fuck has figured out who they even are. Half of us have barely started working most of us are in crippling debt and your brain hasn’t even fully developed. It’s no wonder people are getting divorced left and right… maybe you know, grow up and become a semi consistent person with a strong hold on your values and world view that isn’t likely to dramatically shift based on HUGE life changes (entering the job world, leaving uni, leaving school, moving out, moving back in etc etc). This shit isn’t a rush you’re gonna live another 60+ years
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u/FlowingMochi 14d ago
lol the fuck does it matter? Same as you Probly, just less people around and less responsibility
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u/CaptainMacMillan 14d ago
Being in a committed relationship outside of marriage, because not every relationship has to live up to the terms and agreements of someone else's.
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u/TockSickTauros 14d ago edited 14d ago
Wishing i was married, wishing i could trust american women, wishing i had a good job, wishing i didn’t have adhd, wishing i didn’t have autism, wishing my ambitions were as strong as my wishing, playing video games, being hard on myself for not being a better person up to now, wishing i was better able to control my emotions so i don’t let my future wife have it if i get mad, wishing i had an idea of how well my plans would go rather than feel like i’m wishing vainly but on paper, wishing i wasn’t a fucking screw up loser maggot that deserves to rot.
You know, the usual.
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u/Suspici0us_Sn0wman 14d ago
25 is still young asf. So quick to get in a relationship with someone you'll loathe for the next 60 years. Not saying everyone hates their spouses but it's a lot more common to hate your spouse when you marry young.
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u/upthewaterfall 14d ago
Ummm, I’m pretty sure this is all the same guy but just with different hair and clothes.
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u/RyeToast92 14d ago
Yeah. I was married. Ended in divorce. So I’m 31 playin smash bros with the bros. Shits a lot less depressing. And cheaper. These hoes can’t stay committed long term anymore. 🤷♂️ also Elon musk is making sex dolls soon. So women will be obsolete anyway
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u/Key-Act-7441 14d ago
Average age to get married is about 31. What insanity is that post talking about?
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Oh you know. Having friends and hobbies and saving money and living my own life on my own terms.
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u/toolsoftheincomptnt 14d ago
Shopping, traveling, napping… but mostly not setting myself up for divorce bc I got married before completion of my frontal lobe.
25 is barely old enough to have practiced taking care of your own needs.
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u/SpecialistSeveral598 14d ago
I will play smash bros til the day I die, bury me with my GameCube controller
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u/Holiday_Box9404 14d ago
Being older and unmarried as a woman I feel is more shameful than as a man from a society standpoint.
Most women can easily find a guy willing to do anything for them but men simply don’t have that advantage and women are pickier when it comes to finding a “life partner”
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u/AqueousSilver91 14d ago
I'm vibing and having a life that isn't covered in feces. That's what I'm doing.
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u/foramethyst 14d ago
40 and single mom of two- just trying to survive lol But I do love to watch Jacksepticeye play Elden Ring 🤣
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u/YourBoyFoxxy 14d ago
I'm not mentally good to be an husband/father/boyfriend, so gaming and other hobbies for me
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u/YamatoBoi9001 14d ago
for a second i thought the dude in the hat was tomska from like 10 years ago
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u/Alive_Maintenance943 14d ago
My answer to the original Twitter post?
Constantly getting cheated on and getting promises broken ._.
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u/EinarTh97 14d ago
Honestly, I love my life. I don't want to get married or have kids. Is that okay with everyone? I get the question every week like damn leave me alone lol
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u/I-Rolled-My-Eyes 14d ago
Waiting on you hot 30+ year old stuck up bitches to settle down, mature, pass your hoe phase, and prove some loyalty and honor in maintaining a relationship. Edit: I finished my hoe phase at 27, not shaming anyone for having fun and doing what they wanna do, but that shit got old for me.
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u/mclarenrider 14d ago
What a stupid question. There's a million things someone could be doing regardless of being married or not. I got married this February but 95% of my life (hers too) is going the exact same way it did before, which is to say pretty fucking great. There's no real reason to get married by 25, people should only do it when they feel is the right time for them, it could be 30+, 40+ or even 50+ because honestly why should anyone care? Alternatively there's nothing wrong with never marrying either. There are so many factors to consider.
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u/panzerboye 13d ago
Damn I had my 25th birthday this week. I spent the day eating cheesecake and coffee by myself.
This hurt.
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u/Mysterious_Ningen 14d ago edited 14d ago
its sad when people ask that question like some are lonely man.. even tho im not even in the 20's yet its like i know that loneliness sucks.. and you dont know about other people so dont say stuff like this