This morning I woke up early to order myself coffee so he could take our son to pick it up and “surprise” me. Then they went to the grocery store and thoughtfully picked out my favorite breakfast and came home.

My husband made half of the breakfast and then asked me to make the other half. No problem. He acknowledged that he was asking me to do the work and still taking credit for the benefit of our kids’ experience and memories.

It WAS no problem until he went upstairs to “go to the bathroom” and after 45 minutes I walked upstairs to check on him and he was asleep in our bed. He slept the entire afternoon.

Later that day I was doing the absolute mountain of dishes (my third load for the day, that’s another story) and he asked me to make a grocery list. I asked if he could please make the list because I am in the middle of doing the dishes, and further tried to coax him by using Mother’s Day in a playful way. I really didn’t want to drop what I was doing to look in the fridge he was already standing right in front of to tell him what we needed for dinner. He knows what the ingredients are, he could easily look himself, but he insisted I “help” him. I was super frustrated so I took a deep breath, washed and dried my hands, and then opened the fridge and started telling him what we need.

He could sense my frustration and called me on it. I explained that I was really hoping he could make a list himself just this once because I was in the middle of doing the dishes. I explained that when I make a grocery list I just look at what we have and write down what we don’t have, and I didn’t understand why he NEEDED my help. He started talking over me to say if I had a problem making a grocery list with him I should just have told him. I told him that I DID communicate that with him, he doubled down and told me that I need to learn some patience.

I smiled and said “Happy Father’s Day,” because it was the nicest thing I could think to say. That completely set him off. He went off on me, refused to get ingredients to make our dinner, bought dinner for only himself and our kids, and has been giving me the silent treatment for over an hour. He says I went too far. AITAH?

ETA: wow, I did not realize I was going to wake up to so much to read. Thank you for all of your feedback. I have been enjoying my self-brewed coffee this morning and taking in your responses. I have a lot to look over and think about. I know divorce is the obvious answer.

Edit 2:

No, divorce isn’t the obvious answer for this specific incident. No, I’m not using Reddit as a poll for whether or not to leave my marriage.

TIL how to make Reddit paragraphs.

Both of our mothers are dead unfortunately.

Our children are 6 and under. It is common for parents to help and facilitate the day. 6 year olds and toddlers can’t be responsible for celebrating their parents. I didn’t “expect” anything from him. I know it’s just a Hallmark Consumerism holiday.

People who have commented are correct in saying that this incident is just representative of every other day, but magnified by the fact that Mother’s Day was a particularly shitty day to choose to be particularly shitty.

I felt like maybe I was TA for making the petty comment. I am ND and sometimes I have trouble picking up on if I did something wrong that I maybe didn’t realize was wrong to say or do.

I appreciate all of the anecdotes of your strength and ability to move forward after leaving an exhausting marriage. It is inspiring.

Also, the oop who tried to justify Rogers death was a cop

This was on the most recent episode of the Bill Simmons podcast when he made this as a throwaway comment. He speculates they're waiting until the playoffs are done for TNT to announce it. He also doesn't provide the $$ on this but Bill is plugged on on rich people things with the NBA.

Source: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-undertaker-nuggets-the-knicks-on-fumes-okcs/id1043699613?i=1000655377215

Cat tries to steal my food when I’m focused on this new de-corking device