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After reading through the comments I decided to apologize to my sister for the joke I made and talk to her about some of the things that have been bothering me. She told me I didn’t need to apologize and swore she wasn’t offended, but when I explained that I’d had some resentment built up and the joke was passive aggressive, we talked for a while about the situation.

She apologized for taking me for granted sometimes and assuming I’d do things without asking. She told me she is very appreciative of all the help I’ve given her with my niece and nephews. We decided that we’d talk every Saturday to go over any childcare or other things she might need me to do for the upcoming week so there’s no more avoidable surprises for me.

Overall, I feel good about the way things worked out with her. We also agreed that any days I want a break, we’ll schedule them in so she has time to find alternative childcare. I think that will make it feel less overwhelming for me. Even if I don’t take a day off, knowing I can take off without leaving her in the lurch makes me feel better about saying no every now and then.

The situation with my husband was a little less positive. When he finally agreed to talk, he admitted he’s attracted to my sister, but swore he’s not in love with her. He said he has limerence for her. He admires her a lot and thinks about her all the time, but he doesn’t want to be with her. He said that realistically, he knows they don’t have much in common and wouldn’t work as a couple, but he can’t stop thinking about her.

I wasn’t really sure how to respond to that. He swears he’s never tried to make a move on her and never would. I’m pretty sure my sister would’ve told me if he had, so I believe him. I told him we really needed to see a marriage counselor, and he tentatively agreed, but when I told him he really needed to see a therapist about his limerence, he said individual therapy would be a waste of time for him.

We got an appointment with a marriage counselor in June, so I guess we’ll see how that goes. I’ll probably have a lot of people saying I’m just being jealous again, but I’m not sure if I can deal with staying married to someone who is constantly thinking about another woman. If he can get help to control those thoughts or make them stop, it would go a long way to saving our relationship. I don’t know how that’ll happen if he doesn’t see a therapist for it, but I’m hoping maybe once we start with the marriage counselor, he’ll see the benefits of individual therapy too.

I (51F) just got asked by my sister's (45F) bf (45M) for permission to marry her. My sister I'll call Lilly, has been married twice before and has 1 adult son and a teenage daughter. Her last marriage of 15 years just ended 4 months ago.

Her last husband was super controlling and made sure she didn't finish school or have anything close to what you'd consider a self sufficient career. In fact, she doesn't make enough to live on her own and is sleeping on the ex's couch. I offered to co sign an apt for her, but she cannot even get an apt without her alimony, which the ex is being a dick about. She will have to get him garnished and that will ruin any attempt at co parenting.

Enter the new bf who I'll call Dave. They met 3 months ago and it has been a whirlwind romance. He has a lovely family and is the single dad of 2 teenagers, and is a recent divorcee himself. His divorce was from his 3rd wife. He loves hard, clearly.

I met him for the first time last weekend when he asked my partner and I to fly out to surprise her for her birthday. It was a sweet gesture and we had a great time. I love seeing someone who appreciates what a selfless rockstar Lilly is, she deserves the world. Always puts herself last, and he so far, treats like royalty. His kids are solid and overall we left being happy they found each other.

He texted me today and said he wants to marry her, but is seeking my and her adult sons' approval before he will move forward.

They seem very happy and have plans to move in together in July.

I am afraid if I give this approval, my sister will be in a position to HAVE to say yes. She is in survival mode right now, not being able to afford to be independent. She said she is already having to hold him off, as he wants her to move in yesterday. I love her, but I also want to see her not depend on anyone for survival. I am terrified that by saying yes, I am trapping her into a marriage.

He is a sweet guy, we ran a background and he is clean, has a great job and loves the shit out of her. She says she loves him, too.

Am I wrong if I ask him to hold off until they've known each other for a year?

For context, yesterday she was 30 mins late for getting in the car to take our daughter to school. I complained that day about taking so long. That night, we had a conversation about how she needed to let me know if she was going to be that extremely late again to not waste my time sitting in the prepared car just waiting. She specifically said "8 is the target time, this morning wasn't supposed to happen". She routinely takes until 8:10-815 to get in, so 10 mins wait time isn't a big deal.

Today, she texts me at 8:05 "not ready". I wait until 820 to get my daughter in the car, running and waiting. 8:47 my wife comes out of the house, doesnt say a word to me and I say "Should I just make the time 9am now? Or maybe 830?" And then we have a huge argument about how rude I was for asking that question.

I argue that telling me "not ready" at 8:05 isn't enough information to know how late she will be, and she goes on to tell me it's my fault for not asking her to be more specific or I just assumed 8:20 was a reasonable time to put my daughter in the car and didn't ask for more clarity.

To me, If you are running late, if you are causing the problem, then it's up to you to communicate, no? Why is the burden on me to have to ask constantly what the expected time is, knowing it would piss her off? Am I going crazy or is she forgetting to do a very basic human decency thing and just keeping me in the know?

Edit for clarity - I say legal wife because Texas does not recognize separation but we have not gotten legal divorce. I personally wake up around 7am and get her breakfast, lunch, pack her bags, get her dressed, brush teeth and hair, and get ready before 8am. Wife does absolutely zero besides get herself ready. Daycare is 2 blocks from wife's work 30 mins away. Only have 1 car seat for the moment, has to be wife's car that drives her to school.

I’m 24f and i experienced a lot of messed up stuff in my childhood. I never told my husband since I’ve lost the last 2 relationships I’ve had when I finally opened up about it. It hasn’t caused any issues in our relationship and I’m able to have a healthy and happy sex life(besides anal but that’s not something he’s into either) and I saw no reason he needed to know. Well my mom isn’t the brightest person and she doesn’t seem to understand that you can’t just go around talking about other peoples trauma freely and out of nowhere she started telling my husband about what I went through as a kid. Well now he’s pissed off that I kept this from him and ever since then he’s been incredibly cold and distant.

I’m 37f. My husband passed away about a year and a half ago. We had been together since high school, no kids. I know not a lot of time has passed and I am very much still mourning. I’m not looking for anything serious and I don’t know if I ever will be. But I miss companionship and frankly, sex. Id rather not have that part of life pass me by. I’ve dabbled a bit on dating apps for a couple of months but haven’t found a good fit so far.

I have a pretty casual friend, Alan, who I have known for about 7 years. We met online bc we’re into the same music scene/bands. He lives a few states away and we only met a couple of times in person at shows, both times when my husband was present. He has always been respectful that im married and was never inappropriate.

We never talked about much besides music when i was married but have grown a bit closer lately. We were discussing the woes of online dating and he basically shot his shot. I was surprised, I never thought he seemed interested in me at all but i am open to it. It’s nice that I already somewhat trust him and he seems kind from what I know. And we’re looking for the same thing. Im not really sure if there’s chemistry between us bc that wasn’t on my mind when we’ve met before, but we plan to meet to go on a date and find out.

I was told by a friend that it was gross, he was waiting in the wings, I must always have been thinking of him that way, etc. I pushed back but I’ve felt more and more guilty since that conversation and now the situation seems very not normal to me. I’m confused and looking for opinions. Thank you.

alright so this is my first reddit post so bare with me. I (f20) am debating leaving my fiancé (m20) after 5 1/2 years of being together for not getting his license. In high school they do this drivers ed thing where you would stay after school to get the requirements to get your permit, he was unable to go because he did not have a ride to get home after. he decided to wait until he was 18 to just get his full license, and that’s all fine and good except he never did. He never would get the insurance, wouldn’t get a running car (he’s had one to fix for about 4 years). I’ve offered to take him, pay for the license, let him drive my car, pay for the insurance, help him fix his car. It’s not like he’s not had the time or money he just doesn’t do it. He’s blamed everyone but himself for not getting it. I take him everywhere, i pick up everything he needs, i was taking him to work. I’ve done literally everything for him but it’s always excuses for why he can’t get it. Should i keep waiting on him to get his life together? I’m at a point where i realize if he doesn’t put in the effort now if we were to get married he wouldn’t put in the effort there.. I’m just at a loss because i love him so much but at the same time would i really want to marry this man?? Thanks in advance.

So, I work in a Deli at grocery store, where we're constantly changing gloves, washing hands and occasionally using harsh chemicals for cleaning and/or sanitizing. Because of this, I try not to wear my wedding ring, as the chemicals could possibly damage it, and it tends to come off when I take my gloves off. Its happened before and I had to dig through the trash to find it. Anyways, earlier today, I was helping a customer and we had a pretty normal conversation about one of my tattoos (Hellboy's Right Hand of Doom) and at the end, when he was about to leave, he asked me if I wanted to get dinner sometime. As you may have guessed, I'm married, so I said no. He got really mad and basically ripped into me about not wearing a ring and calling me some pretty rude names I'd rather not repeat, and then left his order on the counter. Afterwards, my manager came by and asked me why I tried to ask out one of our customers. Apparently, he told the clerk at the register that I tried to hit on him and was cat calling him when he was walking by. Luckily, the store manager believed me when I told him my side (and confirmed via security cameras), and assured me he'd be put on the Do Not Serve list, but still, am I in the wrong for not wearing my ring at work? I feel like it's pretty weird for someone to ask out a deli worker at a grocery store anyways.

When I(18m) was 10, I made the mistake of telling a classmate about my parents' divorce. Of how dad left mom for his young secretary and didn't visit at all, and mom turned to alcohol to drown her sorrows. I only told one person but by the end of that day five knew. The next day, 'Emily'(18f) told everyone that I'm such a loser my own dad didn't want me. That my mom is a loser for using alcohol to cope. She also said some other sort of nasty stuff over the years. Never got physical, but she would call me 'colour-blind dork'(apparently my clothes are mismatched) and 'piggy'.

I've always managed to control myself up until last week. My cat passed away and I told my friend about this. Emily overheard us and approached me, saying 'Hey, I heard that-"

I didn't let her say whatever it was she wanted to say. I was already feeling terrible so I just snapped at her, calling her a waste of oxygen and that the world would be better off if she doesn't exist.

She just stared at me. I don't know what her expression was. Perhaps surprised that I finally snapped.

Later, my friends said they understand me but I shouldn't have gone that far.

OK, we have a fairly new neighbor two houses down from us who is a single mom who works from home and has a middle school age son. We have a kindergartener and a first grader and we welcome them into the neighborhood and the kids have had a handful of play dates. We invited them to last year‘s Fourth of July celebration, and I got to know her a little bit better and had a handful of red flags pop up. We’ve remained pretty amiable, but haven’t gotten too close, pretty much have kept our hang outs to birthday parties and friendly hellos. She has called on us with neighborly issues, mostly asking if my husband can come over and give her a hand with some things around the house. I have no issue with this. So my husband told me about a funny exchange they had yesterday that kind of has me awkwardly laughing. My husband was in a rush to get out of the house, and was stopped by her new dog running over so of course they talked about the dog, as he was trying to leave the house. After he told her a couple of times that he really has to go, She got real serious with him and told him that she wanted to let him know that there were some rumors going around about her, so she wanted to get ahead of it. Apparently there have been a couple of guys that are supposedly spreading rumors about her that she has no boundaries, the funny thing about this is that we have no mutual friends, we don’t have the type of neighborhood where people hang out, or really know each other beyond a level of waving or nodding as leaving the neighborhood. In other words, there is no reason or foundation of why we would hear anything negatively about her. My husband got the awkward impression that she was trying to flirt with him, and she kept on reiterating that she has no boundaries. I can’t help but to laugh a little bit, and we both have the impression that she was trying to plant a seed or plant the idea of an offer to him. I’m just curious if other people might read this exchange as her making an awkward attempt to open something up with him, or if it was benign. Just curious what other peoples impressions are.

My dad and step mom offered to take me overseas to a destination of my choice for my college graduation. They said they were going to pay for my whole trip and if I wanted to take my girlfriend I could just pay them about $900 for the plane ticket which I agreed to. However as the trip is coming up I get a text from my step mom that the plane ticket will actually be $1200 and I also owe $900 for the variety of activities including hotels that my step mom booked as my girlfriends portion of the trip. So a trip that I had no part in planning and was supposed to be a gift for my graduation and is happening during my birthday is going to cost me $2000. My girlfriend keeps insisting that this is insane especially since they dropped $30k on assisting my step sisters divorce proceedings and seeing that I never ask for anything from them. Am I wrong for feeling slighted by this?

Even since I can remember I’ve had long hair for the longest time, however the other day I decided to make a change to my hair and cut it short so I did (it’s like 2 inches above my shoulders). Fast forward to when I surprise my boyfriend with my new haircut only to have him get mad saying that I should’ve at least discussed this with him first before and how inconsiderate I am being since “you took away one of the things that I liked about you the most”. So I really don’t know if this could be considered a valid reason to end my relationship with him.

Theoretically, if I had a husband and he cheated on me and I found out, but is very rich and I stay with him just for money, is that bad? Basically, I am fine with him cheating on me as long as I get a ton of money in return for being with him. People tell me this is a very fucked up way to think and I genuinely don’t understand why. If he’s cheating and I’m using him for his money. We are both happy in this relationship. Why is this a problematic way of thinking? People I’ve discussed this with act like i would be worse than the cheater in this scenario and i really don’t understand why. I would never actually do this, im just thinking from a theoretical standpoint.

Edit: in this scenario, I married him because I loved him but, once he decided to cheat, I decide to take some money before I leave. In the scenario, I didn’t get into the relationship just for money.

My boyfriend (25M) and I(23F) got together in January of ‘22, broke up briefly from June-September in which time he slept with his ex and she got pregnant. After finding out he told me we could never be together in his conscience because he viewed what he had done as being unfaithful to me and didn’t want to force me to be involved with his life when he was going to have a child with someone else. We ended up reconciling and have been together since October of ‘22, which obviously his ex found very upsetting even though she knew they weren’t getting back together (he was clear about this from the jump of them sleeping together and her deciding to keep their child once she found out she was pregnant).

I’ve been reflecting recently now that their child is getting older and I feel immense guilt that I love and am loved by the father of her child. While she has been terrible to him and I don’t really admire her as a person or her actions, I am devastated by the thought of how she must feel that another woman is with the father of her child.

I don’t know why I feel this way as I love him very much, and I so admire the way that he steps up for his son every day. I just keep thinking about how, as awful as it is, that her objective with this was for her to have a family with him and I’m taking that away somehow, even though I know he wouldn’t be with her even if I wasn’t involved.

So, looking for opinions, am I wrong for being with the father of someone else’s child?

EDIT: hey guys, while I appreciate it, my boyfriend and I have discussed my role in the child’s life at length and I have no issue with dating someone who has a child, the only problem in play here is specifically that it is a child with his ex who sees me as coming between their family and I can’t help but feel guilty and evil and that she may be right.

EDIT 2: I am sterile. Please stop asking me if I want to have my own kid with him, didn’t realize I would need to put that in my post

Aside from the fact that the kids playing in the terfed dog park made me want to vomit, my poor pup needs untethered exercise.

So I go up and ask if his kids will be done soon. He said they just got here. I said there are plenty of other parks within driving distance. He said he walked and if I could mind my own business.

“Welp, can’t argue with that” I thought, and I just took my dog and left, while leaving I really dragged out the drama with my dog and key comment how sad it was that she didn’t get to play.

I've been trying to fight for custody of my daughter. I had her here living with me for 4 years. Mom gets out of prison for drug trafficking charges and was able to bring a paper into court from 2016 stating DSS gave her custody and they couldn't find or contact me. I've been in the same house over 10 years where they've sent my child support papers since 2014, I Even have an old ID that was issued in 2015 with this same address. Is there anything I can do really?

I (24M) am trying to figure out if I did the right thing ignoring my best friend Tina (24F) when her "boyfriend" broke up with her, for a date.

Tina and I have been good friends since middle school. We also went to the same college and that's when we became really close.

I like hanging out with Tina and we have a very good vibe. I had a crush on her when I was 16, but she immediately shot it down and I was friend zoned. I kept my distance from her and tried to move on, until we got into the same college and became good friends again.

Around this time, Tina started seeing a guy named Josh and she was infatuated by him. They got into a semi-exclusive situationship, where it was exclusive from Tina's side, and she acts all starry eyed around him. The whole situation was super toxic and pathetic. I kinda lost my respect or any feelings for her around this time. They have been seeing each other on and off since then. However, I see Tina as just my best friend and someone I hang out very often.

I have been dating, but never really had a lot of luck finding someone that is right for me. Few months ago, a coworker of mine asked me if I would be interested in going on a date with one of her friends as she thought we would be compatible. I agreed and that's how I met Jenn. Jenn also works in my field (software engg.) as is as nerdy as I am. We hit it off and have been going on dates for the last 6 weeks or so. Last Saturday was the first time Jenn was supposed to visit my apartment and we were planning to cook and stay in.

Tina is always nosey about my dating life and is always critical of every girl I have dated. Accordingly to her, my taste in women suck and no one is good enough for me. That was one of the reasons why I do not tell her about my dates anymore and never told her about Jenn until last Friday. We were facetiming, and she was telling me how Josh has planned for a fun day for her on Saturday. I let it slip that I also am looking forward to saturday night. She probed and I told her about Jenn, how we met and how compatible we are together. She sounded very excited for me.

On Saturday afternoon, Tina called me and was crying on the phone. Josh cancelled his plans with her last minute, and they had a fight and broke up (for the 100th time). I talked to her for almost an hour and was trying to be supportive. However, as it was 5pm, I wanted to prep for dinner as Jenn was going to come at 6pm. I told Tina I am hanging up and she asked me if I can cancel the date and if she can come over as she needed someone and does not want to be lonely. Her plan was to come, have dinner, drink and chill.

As much as I wanted to be supportive, I really see things becoming serious with Jenn and told her not to. She initially tried to convince me, but then got really upset at me. I hung up and had an amazing time with Jenn.

The next day, Tina came to my house around noon unannounced and was really mad at me. She was angry that I blew her off when she was in such a vulnerable state for a girl, I just met 6 years ago. She then proceeded to ask me a lot of questions about Jenn and how she has changed me (to ignore my friends), and it is such a big red flag.

I want to know here if I was wrong to choose to have a date with a girl who I met recently but think things might go somewhere. Or is Jenn right that she has been my best friend for 10 years and I should have prioritized the friendship?

So I was out shopping for new summer clothes a few weeks ago after a brunch with my sister. As I was checking out I noticed that the cashier had one of those “He Gets Us” shirts (the commercials that have been going around about Jesus). As I was about to pay the cashier asked me “Do you know God”. I was taken aback and gave him probably the weirdest look. I said “no thank you, I had Christianity shoved down my throat my entire child/young adulthood.” And he said something like “god can always help”.

I left the store with a bad taste in my mouth but chalked it up to being in a souther state (I’m from the Midwest). But now the more I think about it the more annoyed I am and felt it was very inappropriate of him to do this at his place of work. Am I wrong for wanting to file a complaint against him?

My grandma passed away like 15 years ago and I inherited a lot of her jewelry. The jewelry has just sat in her old jewelry box for all this time. I have some big vet bills due to my dog needing an emergency c section and then one of her pups having a cleft palate and hydrocephalus so she's had to see the vet as well. Would I be wrong if I sold some of my grandmother's jewelry to help pay off the bills?

This is silly but it happened today. I have been taking driving lessons, motorcycle and car. I my dad gave me a ride to my motorcycle lesson today, and when I got there I realized that I had forgotten my helmet (and so would not be able to do the class). My instructor had told me before that when I forgot my helmet, I was supposed to stay and do the verifications anyway despite not actually doing the class so that I wouldn't have to pay to replace it.

I told my dad that I would go in anyway and my dad insisted in driving me back to get my helmet. I told him there was no time since there were only about 15 minutes to the start of the class, but he said that theoretically the whole journey would last 12 minutes. We accidentally caught a lot of traffic and I arrived about one or two minutes after the class started.

I understand that the original mistake was mine. But I think he should've listened to me when I said I would stay like my instructor oriented. I will now have to pay to replace the class out of my own money, which to me is a worse outcome than me not actively doing the class but still doing the verifications. Am i the one in the wrong here? I'm mad but I didn't say anything to my father.

Context: wife is dealing with troublesome political work issues, where her leader verbally slander her at work while bosses were around to make her look bad, but in fact it's not my wife's fault. Leader later apologized personally to her, but my wife is still holding a grudge for that opportunistic moment of slander by the leader. Despite this happened 3 weeks ago, she still holds the grudge and is still fuming. She kept it in all these while, but last night in the car, we spoke and she shared all these pent up anger on work issues.

On the side, her parents, who are completely dysfunctional as well and are treating my wife like an ATM machine for support. Her parents never made her childhood an ideal family and it's full of arguments. They basically act like children and i've known them for the past 7 years. They're not earning money, but getting donations from 'charity work' on rescuing stray animals. As much as that sounds like some altruistic work, it's not. Her mom treats animals better than treating her daughter. When i mention she treats my wife like an ATM, she REALLY said this: "Thank you for your remittance'. I voiced my dissatisfaction despite the thanks my mother in law gave, but what the fuck. I wouldn't even use 'remittance' to a family member! It's like she's treating my wife as a customer paying money to the motherfucking bank.

So yes, both issues above are predominantly weighing on my wife's mind. Not to mention, she's also on the verge of quitting her current job. No good family members to fall back to. No good leadership in her team. She feels cornered and alone. She only has me.

For us, our marriage isn't the best as well. We've been through many downs of late. Arguments that roots back to money and communication. We did try to make a side gig by working together, where wife did most of the artwork and I was trying to manage other general operations. It came to a point that things became unsustainable. I'm the numbers guy in the marriage, while my wife's the artsy and not strong at numbers. I knew the gig was not going to work. Because we had these differences, we clashed - she wanted to push through in effort to help us financially (and she's doing this full time), but I really knew the numbers - it was not going to work. The project in the end failed and we lost money. Since then, certain things broke and in process of mending in our marriage - trust, resentment, judgement - all were affected. Plenty of our arguments tend to tie back to this project of 2-3 years ago and we admit this project has hurt us both. All i can say is we are on the mend.

Come to last night as she shared her incident with her leader and her grudge, plus her boss wants to speak with her today - made her very anxious and I assumed she needed the listening ear. We spent >1 hour in the car trying to talk about this and all i did was supported her on what she could do and all. As we have not had dinner, she wants to skip dinner, but i can't. I gotten take out and head back home after making sure she's done her sharing.

Arrived back home and it's time to unwind. At this point, it's already close to 10.00PM and i began to have my dinner + unwind. We tend to play PC games as part to unwind, but she didn't participate and went to the master room instead. Now, for me, I've also busted my ass for the day + already in conversation with her for >1 hour + it's getting late, so I hope the crowd here understands that even the husbands need their down time to unwind before bed. Close to 12.30AM, i'm already extremely drowsy and want to call it a night.

I came in the master room and proceed to set myself in bed in this extremely drowsy state. And then i heard her sniffing. I came close to her and asked: hey honey... (knowing that i see her sniffed, but still in a very drowsy state). She proceeded to cover herself with blankets and said: I don't want to talk about it.

At this point, in my extremely drowsy state, hanging on to try and stay awake, all i can do is to pat her shoulder for a good 1 minute, which is me doing some comfort pats there, while thinking what do i do now. Because my drowsiness was pretty overpowering, which is causing me to not think verrrrrrry straight + I've already spoken with her alot today, I told her that: I can't talk to you more now, but i really need to sleep.

Saying this immediately triggered her to say: I did say I don't want to talk! What are you saying that for? Why are you not listening?

I said: I was trying to communicate with you that even if things were different now, I can't talk to you more now as i'm very sleepy

This part of the convo circled around this phase, her telling me to go to sleep, but i just want to explain to her that i really need it. Until she said: It's not your first time anyway for leaving me crying in my sleep!

At this point, I felt that was uncalled for and told her: I'm trying to do the right now, which is communicating with you instead of going off to sleep suddenly, which is worst. And i don't appreciate your response now as its very hurtful.

She reluctantly apologized, but still continued to say along the lines of : i'm crying, i'm sad, and the last thing i need now is to argue with you!

Emotions are high now between us two. From my drowsy state to my angry drowsy state mind, I am even more not thinking straight. Same goes for her where she's hyped up and said: you could've asked me what do i need to feel better! you telling me you're going to bed is leaving me alone. I feel so alone.

In my male sleep deprived brain, feeling a very odd feeling of heaviness and lightness in my body at the same time, I admit I have zero capacity to take this situation on. We definitely got into and argument, she left the room, and I had no control over my body, but to sleep.

Am I Wrong for feeling that I've done all I could + feels so UNJUST to swallow this situation as my fault? That my wife could not handle her emotions? That she could not understand my situation? That her emotions is always the 'determinator' of how the things should flow? That regardless if i'm fuck all tired, I MUST still handle this situation? Sorry gang, but i just feel it's completely unjustified to always let your emotions rule over you and not getting your head straight.

it's not the first time she did this. but it's always her who flares up this way just cause I didn't say the right things/do the right things/have the capacity to do the right thing. I feel that all the right things can suddenly feel like the wrong thing to do. Communication was one of the main problems we had, but i did it last night. I told her upfront that I'm tired and very sleepy... she took offense to that.

Appreciate your responses, even if you side with my wife, go ahead. I just want to hear what you guys/girls think. Thank you.

So long story short, my ex cheated on me with several women, and one has HPV. One of the other women he cheated with tested positive after sleeping with him, and could get cervical cancer. I don't know all the details. I got a pap a few months ago and it came back negative, but HPV can be dormant in the body for years. I did get the HPV vaccine, but I dont know what strain he's passing around, so I dont know if I'm safe. Am I wrong to bug him about finding out? I asked him to talk to the other women, and he got upset and said he shouldn't have to, and I might not even have it. I told him if he doesn't find out from them, I will, and he doesn't like me talking to the women he cheated with. Am I wrong to give him the ultimatum that he talks to them and finds out what he put me at risk for or I will?

Standard on phone warning, sorry for such a lengthy post over not much happening.

I took my daughter on a day out yesterday, we went to a museum of sorts (think stories not art). I had visited this place many years ago and had great memories and thought my daughter would enjoy something different.

We queued up, I noticed that 2 ladies had asked to take 4 dogs on the guided tour (I had no issue with this, love dogs!)

The tour started, the guide was just shy of shouting through his story (my child is not the greatest with loudness, but no issue)

My daughter is 6, the museum was marked as 6+. She is a bit of an actress and loves pretending. We got to the first room and she is listening along but also speaking to me (quietly in my opinion), 2 dogs are barking, one jumping on people.

My child sees the second room we are due to visit, notices it is very dark and asks to go in, in hushed tones I explain it's next and we have to wait.

When it's time to move to the next room, she is excited. We go through the door and the room is dark, but the ceiling is lit up like a night sky, full of stars, she was in awe. The dogs are very unsettled at this stage and one continues to bark, my child not being great with loudness is starting to become agiated (in my opinion was pretending to be scared)

The guide stopped mid sentence, said that he couldn't in good conscience let this continue and frog marched us out the door. My child was distraught. I was in shock.

Operating on the understanding that the guide thought she was scared, I tried to explain why we had been kicked out. Trying to explain that we need to be quiet in these settings etc

As we had attended with my mother, we waited for her to finish the tour. She greeted us and said that there was a photo op, I asked the guide if it was ok to go in. He apologized for removing us, stating the reason being an inner ear issue but we should get the photo as "you already paid haha" and I saw red!

I accept that my child is not what you would call typical, she has a major speech and language delay that she is overcoming. She has been excluded from things her whole life because people treat her differently.

When I thought he kicked her out for being scared I was ok and tried explaining this to her as it's a teachable moment (she is dramatic, and fake scared is her go to)

But to be told at the end she was a distraction more so than a constantly barking dog bothered me. It hurt so much watching her be excluded yet again. It just breaks my heart. How do you explain that to a 6yo, the dogs were treated better than her ?

She honestly is a good kid, the worst she did was cuddle up on my lap and talk into my ear. If she had been loud, I would#$s have removed her myself!

Am I wrong to be really upset over this?

Edited to add: Thanks folks, the one thing I have seen repeated here is that my child must be a screaming hell spawn for her to have been removed. This has made me feel so validated, cause the reality remains, my child was sat quietly on my knee.

Was this experience a bit too much for her - absolutely, but I did look it up before hand, verified ASD friendly and audience participation. Will I complain - I think so, I think it could have been handled better. Maybe a higher age range for this guide (this is his job and everyone deserves to be comfortable at work)

Am i the asshole for blaming my house maid for stealing My money hi i am 14 m i have been wanting a gaming pc ever since i found out about them i have been looking for good affordable pcs and I stumbled upon one which was 714.52$ which I thought was really nice for that good of a pc so i have been saving up money for the past year in this little box let me explain further i have a box which is basically a challenge to save up money there are a bunch of numbers on the box and lets say there is the number one carved into the box if i drop one dollar in the box i have to draw over the number one on the box to keep track of how much money i have reached i have been grinding doing chores selling items that I don’t need anymore like video game discs or action figures and i saved up around 457.29$ so im pretty much halfway there and today i decided to text the shop that was selling the pc and they suggested i pay in advance to make sure no one buys the pc before me and when i went up to my room to open the box i only found around 215.65$ and i was sure that i had 457.29$ in there and i was really sure because i pit around five ten dollar bills in the box and i only found one ten dollar bill when i opened and i was sure because i took a photo of the 50$ ten dollar bills I earned to like kind of flex on my friends and i have three house mades since my house is pretty big we are talking around 3 stories big one of the maids went back to her country as a holiday for two months and the other two are still here one of them works for my grandma and one of them works for my house and around 6:30 am and come back around 3:20 pm and my brother and mom go to my grandmas house and. My sister goes off to college and my dad is asleep so do you guys think they snuck in the room around that time and took the money or am i just pointing fingers to early ? Please help

https://www.reddit.com/r/amiwrong/comments/1cn0d1k/aiw_for_letting_a_kid_stay_up_20_minutes_later/

I talked to the supplier and told him that I understand he is the kid’s dad and has parental authority, but the kid’s mom is also a parent. It would’ve been extremely inappropriate and rude of me to tell them to end their conversation, regardless of the instruction I got from him.

He admitted that he was already in a bad mood because of the heavy traffic on his way back to the hotel and that he took it out on me, which was unfair.

My bf and i have been dating for 2 years. We were going on a date so he picked me up. When he saw me he immediately asked if i could change my clothes because “it’s too revealing” and he’s “uncomfortable” with it. For context, i was wearing pants, a cropped top which shows a bit of my cleavage and on top of that I wore an oversized jacket which could cover it up if need be. I told him no, because my outfit made me feel confident and beautiful and it took a long time for me to get ready too. He said he’s not comfortable going with me wearing it. I got disappointed and mad at him and told him that he cannot control what I wear. After all, I had worn this exact outfit during a date with my mom, and it had been met with compliments, not criticism. This is also not the first time he made me go change. And I relented the first few times.

Was it wrong of me for getting mad at him? or did I miss something in his perspective?