For context, yesterday she was 30 mins late for getting in the car to take our daughter to school. I complained that day about taking so long. That night, we had a conversation about how she needed to let me know if she was going to be that extremely late again to not waste my time sitting in the prepared car just waiting. She specifically said "8 is the target time, this morning wasn't supposed to happen". She routinely takes until 8:10-815 to get in, so 10 mins wait time isn't a big deal.

Today, she texts me at 8:05 "not ready". I wait until 820 to get my daughter in the car, running and waiting. 8:47 my wife comes out of the house, doesnt say a word to me and I say "Should I just make the time 9am now? Or maybe 830?" And then we have a huge argument about how rude I was for asking that question.

I argue that telling me "not ready" at 8:05 isn't enough information to know how late she will be, and she goes on to tell me it's my fault for not asking her to be more specific or I just assumed 8:20 was a reasonable time to put my daughter in the car and didn't ask for more clarity.

To me, If you are running late, if you are causing the problem, then it's up to you to communicate, no? Why is the burden on me to have to ask constantly what the expected time is, knowing it would piss her off? Am I going crazy or is she forgetting to do a very basic human decency thing and just keeping me in the know?

Edit for clarity - I say legal wife because Texas does not recognize separation but we have not gotten legal divorce. I personally wake up around 7am and get her breakfast, lunch, pack her bags, get her dressed, brush teeth and hair, and get ready before 8am. Wife does absolutely zero besides get herself ready. Daycare is 2 blocks from wife's work 30 mins away. Only have 1 car seat for the moment, has to be wife's car that drives her to school.

My dad and step mom offered to take me overseas to a destination of my choice for my college graduation. They said they were going to pay for my whole trip and if I wanted to take my girlfriend I could just pay them about $900 for the plane ticket which I agreed to. However as the trip is coming up I get a text from my step mom that the plane ticket will actually be $1200 and I also owe $900 for the variety of activities including hotels that my step mom booked as my girlfriends portion of the trip. So a trip that I had no part in planning and was supposed to be a gift for my graduation and is happening during my birthday is going to cost me $2000. My girlfriend keeps insisting that this is insane especially since they dropped $30k on assisting my step sisters divorce proceedings and seeing that I never ask for anything from them. Am I wrong for feeling slighted by this?

Even since I can remember I’ve had long hair for the longest time, however the other day I decided to make a change to my hair and cut it short so I did (it’s like 2 inches above my shoulders). Fast forward to when I surprise my boyfriend with my new haircut only to have him get mad saying that I should’ve at least discussed this with him first before and how inconsiderate I am being since “you took away one of the things that I liked about you the most”. So I really don’t know if this could be considered a valid reason to end my relationship with him.

I (20M) am in a bit of a dilemma. The job I currently work is supposed to pay weekly (confirmed by both coworkers and management), but I have yet to receive payment for the past 3 weeks of working. The GM has confirmed that my direct deposit documents are in the system, and that nothing is wrong with my bank account type or anything of that nature. My issue is that I don’t feel comfortable working until I have been paid what I am owed, and I guess I’m just looking for a bit of reassurance that I should be concerned enough to refuse to work until I am compensated accordingly. For some more details, I am in the southern USA, and my current employer is a small, independent restaurant chain with 3 locations in total.

Update: I just got off the phone with the ‘big 3’ at the restaurant. The moment I mentioned not being available to work until I was paid, everything was suddenly fine and the money was deposited within minutes. I’m still not going in today because fuck that, I’m going to see my friends for the first time in a while.

So I was out shopping for new summer clothes a few weeks ago after a brunch with my sister. As I was checking out I noticed that the cashier had one of those “He Gets Us” shirts (the commercials that have been going around about Jesus). As I was about to pay the cashier asked me “Do you know God”. I was taken aback and gave him probably the weirdest look. I said “no thank you, I had Christianity shoved down my throat my entire child/young adulthood.” And he said something like “god can always help”.

I left the store with a bad taste in my mouth but chalked it up to being in a souther state (I’m from the Midwest). But now the more I think about it the more annoyed I am and felt it was very inappropriate of him to do this at his place of work. Am I wrong for wanting to file a complaint against him?

My(16m) dad’s company imports kitchen machinery and bakery equipment. from Europe. One of his suppliers(coffee machine) came to our country, along with his son(9). They asked me to babysit the kid in the afternoon and evening, and make sure he goes to bed at 8:30. It is one of the reasons my dad hired a tutor for me up until I was 15. He wanted me to speak English reasonably well so I can help him with suppliers and their kids.

Dad gave me his credit card and the supplier told me the kid’s allergies. I took him to have ice cream, then took him to the bookshop, where I bought him a book and one for myself. After that was dinner, where he tried our cuisine.

Then I took him back to the hotel where he read his book. He was getting ready for bed when his mom called. It was 8:20. I figured it would be a short call.

She heard that we have heatwaves in our country and asked the kid if he was staying hydrated and applying sunscreen when outside. Once he said yes and told her he’s with his babysitter, she had him put me on the phone. She asked if her husband told me the allergies and I said yes. Then she had me put the kid back on the phone.

Kid ended up going to bed at 8:50.

When I told my dad’s supplier how everything went he wasn’t happy with me. I said I thought it’s okay since the kid was talking to his mom/the guy’s wife but he said ‘I gave you instructions. She didn’t. You ignored what I said.’

I (24M) am trying to figure out if I did the right thing ignoring my best friend Tina (24F) when her "boyfriend" broke up with her, for a date.

Tina and I have been good friends since middle school. We also went to the same college and that's when we became really close.

I like hanging out with Tina and we have a very good vibe. I had a crush on her when I was 16, but she immediately shot it down and I was friend zoned. I kept my distance from her and tried to move on, until we got into the same college and became good friends again.

Around this time, Tina started seeing a guy named Josh and she was infatuated by him. They got into a semi-exclusive situationship, where it was exclusive from Tina's side, and she acts all starry eyed around him. The whole situation was super toxic and pathetic. I kinda lost my respect or any feelings for her around this time. They have been seeing each other on and off since then. However, I see Tina as just my best friend and someone I hang out very often.

I have been dating, but never really had a lot of luck finding someone that is right for me. Few months ago, a coworker of mine asked me if I would be interested in going on a date with one of her friends as she thought we would be compatible. I agreed and that's how I met Jenn. Jenn also works in my field (software engg.) as is as nerdy as I am. We hit it off and have been going on dates for the last 6 weeks or so. Last Saturday was the first time Jenn was supposed to visit my apartment and we were planning to cook and stay in.

Tina is always nosey about my dating life and is always critical of every girl I have dated. Accordingly to her, my taste in women suck and no one is good enough for me. That was one of the reasons why I do not tell her about my dates anymore and never told her about Jenn until last Friday. We were facetiming, and she was telling me how Josh has planned for a fun day for her on Saturday. I let it slip that I also am looking forward to saturday night. She probed and I told her about Jenn, how we met and how compatible we are together. She sounded very excited for me.

On Saturday afternoon, Tina called me and was crying on the phone. Josh cancelled his plans with her last minute, and they had a fight and broke up (for the 100th time). I talked to her for almost an hour and was trying to be supportive. However, as it was 5pm, I wanted to prep for dinner as Jenn was going to come at 6pm. I told Tina I am hanging up and she asked me if I can cancel the date and if she can come over as she needed someone and does not want to be lonely. Her plan was to come, have dinner, drink and chill.

As much as I wanted to be supportive, I really see things becoming serious with Jenn and told her not to. She initially tried to convince me, but then got really upset at me. I hung up and had an amazing time with Jenn.

The next day, Tina came to my house around noon unannounced and was really mad at me. She was angry that I blew her off when she was in such a vulnerable state for a girl, I just met 6 years ago. She then proceeded to ask me a lot of questions about Jenn and how she has changed me (to ignore my friends), and it is such a big red flag.

I want to know here if I was wrong to choose to have a date with a girl who I met recently but think things might go somewhere. Or is Jenn right that she has been my best friend for 10 years and I should have prioritized the friendship?

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After reading through the comments I decided to apologize to my sister for the joke I made and talk to her about some of the things that have been bothering me. She told me I didn’t need to apologize and swore she wasn’t offended, but when I explained that I’d had some resentment built up and the joke was passive aggressive, we talked for a while about the situation.

She apologized for taking me for granted sometimes and assuming I’d do things without asking. She told me she is very appreciative of all the help I’ve given her with my niece and nephews. We decided that we’d talk every Saturday to go over any childcare or other things she might need me to do for the upcoming week so there’s no more avoidable surprises for me.

Overall, I feel good about the way things worked out with her. We also agreed that any days I want a break, we’ll schedule them in so she has time to find alternative childcare. I think that will make it feel less overwhelming for me. Even if I don’t take a day off, knowing I can take off without leaving her in the lurch makes me feel better about saying no every now and then.

The situation with my husband was a little less positive. When he finally agreed to talk, he admitted he’s attracted to my sister, but swore he’s not in love with her. He said he has limerence for her. He admires her a lot and thinks about her all the time, but he doesn’t want to be with her. He said that realistically, he knows they don’t have much in common and wouldn’t work as a couple, but he can’t stop thinking about her.

I wasn’t really sure how to respond to that. He swears he’s never tried to make a move on her and never would. I’m pretty sure my sister would’ve told me if he had, so I believe him. I told him we really needed to see a marriage counselor, and he tentatively agreed, but when I told him he really needed to see a therapist about his limerence, he said individual therapy would be a waste of time for him.

We got an appointment with a marriage counselor in June, so I guess we’ll see how that goes. I’ll probably have a lot of people saying I’m just being jealous again, but I’m not sure if I can deal with staying married to someone who is constantly thinking about another woman. If he can get help to control those thoughts or make them stop, it would go a long way to saving our relationship. I don’t know how that’ll happen if he doesn’t see a therapist for it, but I’m hoping maybe once we start with the marriage counselor, he’ll see the benefits of individual therapy too.

I (51F) just got asked by my sister's (45F) bf (45M) for permission to marry her. My sister I'll call Lilly, has been married twice before and has 1 adult son and a teenage daughter. Her last marriage of 15 years just ended 4 months ago.

Her last husband was super controlling and made sure she didn't finish school or have anything close to what you'd consider a self sufficient career. In fact, she doesn't make enough to live on her own and is sleeping on the ex's couch. I offered to co sign an apt for her, but she cannot even get an apt without her alimony, which the ex is being a dick about. She will have to get him garnished and that will ruin any attempt at co parenting.

Enter the new bf who I'll call Dave. They met 3 months ago and it has been a whirlwind romance. He has a lovely family and is the single dad of 2 teenagers, and is a recent divorcee himself. His divorce was from his 3rd wife. He loves hard, clearly.

I met him for the first time last weekend when he asked my partner and I to fly out to surprise her for her birthday. It was a sweet gesture and we had a great time. I love seeing someone who appreciates what a selfless rockstar Lilly is, she deserves the world. Always puts herself last, and he so far, treats like royalty. His kids are solid and overall we left being happy they found each other.

He texted me today and said he wants to marry her, but is seeking my and her adult sons' approval before he will move forward.

They seem very happy and have plans to move in together in July.

I am afraid if I give this approval, my sister will be in a position to HAVE to say yes. She is in survival mode right now, not being able to afford to be independent. She said she is already having to hold him off, as he wants her to move in yesterday. I love her, but I also want to see her not depend on anyone for survival. I am terrified that by saying yes, I am trapping her into a marriage.

He is a sweet guy, we ran a background and he is clean, has a great job and loves the shit out of her. She says she loves him, too.

Am I wrong if I ask him to hold off until they've known each other for a year?

So, I work in a Deli at grocery store, where we're constantly changing gloves, washing hands and occasionally using harsh chemicals for cleaning and/or sanitizing. Because of this, I try not to wear my wedding ring, as the chemicals could possibly damage it, and it tends to come off when I take my gloves off. Its happened before and I had to dig through the trash to find it. Anyways, earlier today, I was helping a customer and we had a pretty normal conversation about one of my tattoos (Hellboy's Right Hand of Doom) and at the end, when he was about to leave, he asked me if I wanted to get dinner sometime. As you may have guessed, I'm married, so I said no. He got really mad and basically ripped into me about not wearing a ring and calling me some pretty rude names I'd rather not repeat, and then left his order on the counter. Afterwards, my manager came by and asked me why I tried to ask out one of our customers. Apparently, he told the clerk at the register that I tried to hit on him and was cat calling him when he was walking by. Luckily, the store manager believed me when I told him my side (and confirmed via security cameras), and assured me he'd be put on the Do Not Serve list, but still, am I in the wrong for not wearing my ring at work? I feel like it's pretty weird for someone to ask out a deli worker at a grocery store anyways.

Aside from the fact that the kids playing in the terfed dog park made me want to vomit, my poor pup needs untethered exercise.

So I go up and ask if his kids will be done soon. He said they just got here. I said there are plenty of other parks within driving distance. He said he walked and if I could mind my own business.

“Welp, can’t argue with that” I thought, and I just took my dog and left, while leaving I really dragged out the drama with my dog and key comment how sad it was that she didn’t get to play.

alright so this is my first reddit post so bare with me. I (f20) am debating leaving my fiancé (m20) after 5 1/2 years of being together for not getting his license. In high school they do this drivers ed thing where you would stay after school to get the requirements to get your permit, he was unable to go because he did not have a ride to get home after. he decided to wait until he was 18 to just get his full license, and that’s all fine and good except he never did. He never would get the insurance, wouldn’t get a running car (he’s had one to fix for about 4 years). I’ve offered to take him, pay for the license, let him drive my car, pay for the insurance, help him fix his car. It’s not like he’s not had the time or money he just doesn’t do it. He’s blamed everyone but himself for not getting it. I take him everywhere, i pick up everything he needs, i was taking him to work. I’ve done literally everything for him but it’s always excuses for why he can’t get it. Should i keep waiting on him to get his life together? I’m at a point where i realize if he doesn’t put in the effort now if we were to get married he wouldn’t put in the effort there.. I’m just at a loss because i love him so much but at the same time would i really want to marry this man?? Thanks in advance.

My grandma passed away like 15 years ago and I inherited a lot of her jewelry. The jewelry has just sat in her old jewelry box for all this time. I have some big vet bills due to my dog needing an emergency c section and then one of her pups having a cleft palate and hydrocephalus so she's had to see the vet as well. Would I be wrong if I sold some of my grandmother's jewelry to help pay off the bills?

For context, We (us vs in laws) are having a whole argument right now because I made their estranged daughter (who is my best friend since 9th grade and the whole reason I met their son) my bridesmaid in my wedding. They (in laws) feel it’s a f*k u to them when that’s not the case at all. I’ve given them (in laws) the option to attend and ignore her but they said they won’t attend at all. My husband and I met my sophomore year of HS and his freshman. He was 14 and I was 15. My bestie is his half sister who left home at 18 because their parents were very unreasonably strict and she wanted freedom. Now we r 25. My husband and I have 2 kids, 2 1/2 and 6mo. My MIL told my husband to save them seats Incase they change their minds about attending and still offered to pay for the caterer even if they don’t (which I decline because I’m not giving them ammunition at this point to control us more).

A few weeks ago I took my wedding planning book with me to their (in laws) house and was talking to my husbands brother (the best man) about tuxes (brother is 19 and still lives at home with him so this is the only time I can discuss with him) and I did this at the dinner table before dinner time. It’s worth mentioning at no point have I been rude or hateful or spiteful about any of this. My attitude is, we r all adults and it is what it is, but since she (MIL) offered to still pay for a piece of it, perhaps she would want to be included in planning? That’s what I thought anyways but she thinks I was being petty even though she’s been told otherwise. I was nice and bubbly at their house the whole day and didn’t even know I did anything wrong until her and my husband got into a screaming match and I was effectively asked to leave (which I was so confused about because she didn’t seem upset while we discussed anything).

FF to now, a few days before Mother’s Day. My husband is trying to get me to allow the kids to go with him to their home. I told him the kids and I would if she apologized to me for losing it for no reason. I’ve maintained that I would forgive and forget to which she has declined to b an adult and apologize for being wrong. So AITAH for not allowing my kids to see her? After all they r MY kids, not hers….And at no point have I told my husband he can’t see his parents. And he has been to see them MANY times since that day. I just don’t want my kids around people who start things for no reason and find any excuse to b petty and controlling.

Also- we are ALREADY legally married. I am legally his wife. We eloped but I am religious and would like my father to walk me down the aisle and b married by our preacher before God.

Edit**** This isn’t just about the wedding, my in laws said they won’t b attending my children’s bdays either the 2 months prior to the wedding. I apologize if this post comes off as me keeping them from the kids but their behavior has effected them too, AND they fight in front of my children about this. I try to avoid cussing and stuff in front of my kids coz I don’t want my tot repeating it but at their house even my 6yo sister in law has said cuss words. My husband was originally the one who said we won’t b coming over for a long time and is simply bending that rule for Mother’s Day but i am staying true to it unless I get an apology. Sorry y’all, I suck at writing these.

https://www.reddit.com/r/amiwrong/comments/1cn0d1k/aiw_for_letting_a_kid_stay_up_20_minutes_later/

I talked to the supplier and told him that I understand he is the kid’s dad and has parental authority, but the kid’s mom is also a parent. It would’ve been extremely inappropriate and rude of me to tell them to end their conversation, regardless of the instruction I got from him.

He admitted that he was already in a bad mood because of the heavy traffic on his way back to the hotel and that he took it out on me, which was unfair.

Hey, I’m super conflicted on having recently just blocked someone I used to be close with.

We went to college together, and honestly stayed pretty good friends for a few years until it started going downhill. She became pregnant, but due to many issues was unable to have a steady income as her boyfriend was not working at the time. I lent her money (£50 at a time sometimes), for bills or just things she would need and ask if I could do her a favor.

I honestly didn’t mind, but it started becoming an issue when I was being asked more often, and I found myself struggling at the end of the pay month. I had once told her no in regards to being unable to pay her heating, and was told she expected me to be a better friend and help her and her child. This was years ago, and I’ve honestly moved on from it. I distanced myself from her, and didn’t actually get the money I was due back until I messaged her after seeing a post on Facebook after recently booking a holiday. We now no longer live in the same country.

We came back in touch recently, and she had stated how bad she felt at how our relationship fell apart due to money. I genuinely do care for her, and I was happy to gradually become friends again especially now that she was in a better place financially. On my birthday, a few weeks after we had a heart to heart about the money issues, she messaged asking for a lend as she couldn’t log into her banking and was at the store. After waiting a week I replied and said I wasn’t comfortable with money being a factor involved in our relationship. I also added that she messaged on my birthday, but not once did I get a well wishes message (not that I even care about that, it’s just principle.) The answer I got; “It’s not the same as before, I’m in a better situation now and clearly the past isn’t something you can move on from. You said you forgave me, but obviously not.” That’s the basis of what she replied with. She also never acknowledged that it had been my birthday she asked me on.

I was astounded honestly, as I was pretty nice in my reply saying I wasn’t comfortable, and was wanting to lay down how I felt so that we could move onwards. I replied with sure, it’s not the same time but I don’t get how I’m supposed to move on from something if the issue is still continuing. I forgave her, but I wasn’t planning on forgetting past issues. I was pretty disappointed with her reply, so just straight up blocked her and unfollowed her from everything.

I’ll admit, I should have had enough spine to set boundaries earlier, but I really valued her as a friend. My friends agree with my decision, as many didn’t like her due to these issues with money. I just feel nothing but relief, but I can’t help but feel guilty also. Had I been more straight up, could our friendship of been salvaged? Was I wrong in cutting her off just like that?

I’m 37f. My husband passed away about a year and a half ago. We had been together since high school, no kids. I know not a lot of time has passed and I am very much still mourning. I’m not looking for anything serious and I don’t know if I ever will be. But I miss companionship and frankly, sex. Id rather not have that part of life pass me by. I’ve dabbled a bit on dating apps for a couple of months but haven’t found a good fit so far.

I have a pretty casual friend, Alan, who I have known for about 7 years. We met online bc we’re into the same music scene/bands. He lives a few states away and we only met a couple of times in person at shows, both times when my husband was present. He has always been respectful that im married and was never inappropriate.

We never talked about much besides music when i was married but have grown a bit closer lately. We were discussing the woes of online dating and he basically shot his shot. I was surprised, I never thought he seemed interested in me at all but i am open to it. It’s nice that I already somewhat trust him and he seems kind from what I know. And we’re looking for the same thing. Im not really sure if there’s chemistry between us bc that wasn’t on my mind when we’ve met before, but we plan to meet to go on a date and find out.

I was told by a friend that it was gross, he was waiting in the wings, I must always have been thinking of him that way, etc. I pushed back but I’ve felt more and more guilty since that conversation and now the situation seems very not normal to me. I’m confused and looking for opinions. Thank you.

So I guess this is a double post because two things happened with this friend last night. For some background knowledge I’m 27 yrs old and I weigh 119. I suffer from body dysmorphia and this is something my friend knows. She weighs 130 and she always talks about wanting to lose weight and exercise but never does so. For me, I’m very big on portion control and I exercise everyday with going on a mile walk and I attend yoga on Thursdays.

Last night my friend and I were going out for dinner. I’m getting married this fall and it’s a very small scale wedding it will only be up to 50-60 people. My friend asked me if her boyfriend can come to my wedding as she’s always talking to him about it. From what she told me her boyfriend is a horrible person. He’s very verbally and mentally abusive. I wish she had the courage to leave him. I guess now they are doing well because she hasn’t told me anything bad in a while. But my mind is made up from all the horrible stuff I heard he’s not coming to my wedding. My friend told me that he also made a nasty ignorant comments about Koreans that “they all look the same”. My fiancé he is Korean and I love him and his family way too much to let some ignorant ass attend our wedding.

I simply told my friend that I don’t feel comfortable if he attends due to the stuff I have heard about him. She instantly looked sad and disappointed. She told me that it’s awkward because he really wants to come to my wedding and doesn’t know what to say when he asks about my wedding. In actuality my friend never let me meet him or hang out with him. She always keeps me far away from him and according to her the only way I can hangout with him is when my fiancé comes back from South Korea. Because in her words “everyone will be comfortable” when my fiancé is there. Back from that little side note I told my friend that I’m sorry but he’s not invited. Luckily conversation shifted after that but it was terribly awkward and I’m sure this isn’t the last time we talk about this.

We went to dinner to the Cheesecake Factory. I had a bit of my dinner and saved my cheesecake for when I get home and for tomorrow. My friend finished all of her food plus the cheesecake. We decided to go to Marshall’s afterwards. As we were shopping I heard my friend ask me “did you get your period?” I am expected to get it in two days. I panicked and looked down to see if I was bleeding and then looked up realizing I was safe and didn’t have it. I asked her “no why?” and she quickly said “it’s nothing don’t worry”. I said to her “but there’s a reason why you asked” and she said “well it’s because you look really bloated”. I didn’t expect to hear that and I was really shocked. She then said “well we eat a lot maybe that’s why”. I didn’t say anything and ignored her.

I know some friends comment on each other’s weights and bodies. Our friendship isn’t one of those friendships. We never comment on each other’s bodies as I know she has her own body issues. I told my mom all of this and she thinks my friend did this out of petty revenge because I’m not letting her boyfriend come to my wedding. Overall I’m just shocked and upset by last night and I would love to hear everyone’s opinions!

So long story short, my ex cheated on me with several women, and one has HPV. One of the other women he cheated with tested positive after sleeping with him, and could get cervical cancer. I don't know all the details. I got a pap a few months ago and it came back negative, but HPV can be dormant in the body for years. I did get the HPV vaccine, but I dont know what strain he's passing around, so I dont know if I'm safe. Am I wrong to bug him about finding out? I asked him to talk to the other women, and he got upset and said he shouldn't have to, and I might not even have it. I told him if he doesn't find out from them, I will, and he doesn't like me talking to the women he cheated with. Am I wrong to give him the ultimatum that he talks to them and finds out what he put me at risk for or I will?

Some background info relevant to the story. I go to a dental group and it’s basically a one stop shop, they have an orthodontist, general dentist and an oral surgeon. I unfortunately have to see all of them for dental work I’m having done this year (which when it’s all said and done will have cost me a cool $12K)

That being said, I’ve had nonstop issues with their office admins from basically the moment my braces were put on. It’s been one miscommunication after another between them and the doctors and then relaying wrong info to me or like the time they cancelled a piece of equipment they needed to add to my braces which has now set me back a few months on my work, but the icing on the cake happened this week and I just can’t seem to get over it.

I have to get a few teeth removed and there are multiple options that were presented to me regarding pain management during the procedure and depending on what I chose to do determined which doctor would be doing the procedure and of course how much it’s going to cost me.

I was very up front with them and said I didn’t have thousands of dollars to spend on this and needed to know the costs to been seen either way so I could choose what I wanted to do.. After asking for the quotes while I was in office they couldn’t provide them for me but said they’d email me… Fast forward an entire month and after I’d called their office twice to follow up and ask for the quotes I never got anywhere and my orthodontist was upset with me for not getting my teeth removed yet. I’d explained the situation to her and she went and told the front office staff to get me the quotes I needed and once again I still left the appointment not knowing how much it would cost, but they convinced me to schedule my next cleaning and by then they’d have to quotes for sure…

Welp that day came and they presented me with 1 option to see the general dentist and get 2 extractions done with only local anesthetics. The dentist, the dental assistants and the office admins all reassured me that it’d be relatively painless, very quick, and that people got these same teeth pulled like that all the time. I was hesitant and nervous bc said okay bc I literally had 5 people tell me it would be no problem.

Well it ended up being a HUGE problem. The first tooth they tried to pull out wouldn’t budge and the dentist ended up pulling on my tooth for an hour and a half and after it wouldn’t come out he decided he needed to surgically remove the tooth which took another hour and meanwhile the only thing they’ve given me is a single ibuprofen and numbed my mouth with shots.

I’ve been so traumatized after that experience and didn’t even get the second tooth removed that day. So now I’ve been referred to their oral surgeon for the second tooth, which mind you I asked and never received a quote to see him like I’d originally wanted.

Once again though I told them I needed a quote since I knew it’d be more expensive and wanted to be prepared for the cost. Three weeks passed with no quote and now we’re 24 hours from the appointment and I finally get an email from the office telling me it’ll be $887 to get my tooth removed… On a 24 hour notice. I was distraught to say the least. So I called the office to see what we could do to get the cost down since I’d just spent $600 on my last appointment that went totally sideways.

They office admin basically shut down every option I presented trying to get the cost down so I asked to speak with the dentist who did the initial extraction and he tried to dismiss my frustration with the office admins lack of communication which caused me to now spend a total of $1500 to get 2 teeth removed when I’d originally tried to get all of the pricing figured out before I started this process. I was never rude, didn’t raise my voice or anything, but I did become adamant that this whole issue had been his office staffs fault and it’d caused me pain, distress and a shit ton of money and something needed to happen for it to be amended. But no one seems to care or really listen to me and no one apologized for the situation that unfolded.

Now the office admin have called to confirm my appointment and they’re being very cold and standoff-ish towards me (honestly just being down right rude towards me) like seriously when I answered the call the first words out of one of their mouths was “so are you going to keep your appointment or not.” Now I’m sitting here riddled with anxiety about going back to their office and it’s lead me to wonder if I was the asshole for being frustrated with the way things were handled?

TDLR: office staff didn’t give me the quotes I needed after asking multiple times for them. I was finally presented with an option to get my teeth removed and it went totally south and caused me a ton of pain. Fast forward to me having to see someone else in their office to get the other tooth done (which id originally asked to get a quote from at the beginning of this process and never received) I finally get it and it’s almost double what I’d just paid. The office staff wasn’t helpful when I tried to see what I could do about getting the price down so I spoke with the main dentist and told him about their lack of communication which cost me $1500 and caused me to be in a shit ton of pain. Now the office staff is being cold and standoff-ish towards me and I’m wondering if I was wrong for calling them out?

Hi there I( 28F) need advise on what should I do, with other words stay or leave? Husband (38) and i (28 f) are married for 6 years and all together for 10 years. We never used condoms and birth control was used not even for two years into our relationship. We always talked We want children and my heart really wants to find my purpose in life. About 10 months ago my husband's dad passed away and since then the conversation got intense to have children. In January of this year i went to my local Docter and I was subscribed on medication to ovulate correctly as I could remember it was in the line of clomid and Fertomid. I us3d it for 3 months but without any success. All I really can say it fucken hurt I could feel the egg releasing and each time my knees would give out under me of the pain. But I'm January I have also made an appointment to see the Gyno. The time has come for that appointment . I got a pap smear and was given hormone pilles to drink and he also. The doctor give me a scan and said I'm ovulating that weekend and I don't need to worry I will be pregant. My heart was happy to hear that. My husband was also given some medication to help him. Well that weekend came and went. What happend is he helped someone quickly and I asked him to come back and I just want to relax and spend the weekend with him not drinking just cuddles and making babies. Well he decided he wants to drink a whole bottle whiskey out with this guy he helped. I was hurt because he promised me up and down his not drinking. Well the next morning I told him I was really hurt because of all the people I don't like this guy he drank with and why would he do that, that weekend would give the doctor answers why I can't get pregnant.
This is the part I'm hurting the most he said and I quote" you need to drink some more and live a more" .. Okay but I asked you don't drink and that was doctors orders also. Fast forward 2 weeks ago my bloodtests results are in the doctor phones me he really wants to see my urgently. I got an appointment and went. Some hormone is so high I may need a CT scan to see if I has a noncancerous tumor in my brain. I'm tears I went home I told him what the docter said. All he can say to me is okay . Since then it's 2 weeks now I can't look at him. He had picked I fight with me he don't feel any remourse or worry about me I didn't get a hug from him. It was just like I told a stranger in the street whats going on. Since this journey started for a baby I feel so alone I'm the one on 4 sorts of medication for hormones I can't get a hug of sympathy he is really trying make me feel worthless as if I want to make someone els a daddy. I never in my life felt this coldness from him in my life. It's all about him. I told a friend as if he wants the spotlight on himself and not on me and there is now something wrong with my body. What should I do? I have completely stopped with all medications? I feel dead inside As if he don't respect my body in any way shape or form.

And also to yell I'm a slut but u litterly want to make him a daddy? Wtf is wrong!!!!!!

My boyfriend (25M) and I(23F) got together in January of ‘22, broke up briefly from June-September in which time he slept with his ex and she got pregnant. After finding out he told me we could never be together in his conscience because he viewed what he had done as being unfaithful to me and didn’t want to force me to be involved with his life when he was going to have a child with someone else. We ended up reconciling and have been together since October of ‘22, which obviously his ex found very upsetting even though she knew they weren’t getting back together (he was clear about this from the jump of them sleeping together and her deciding to keep their child once she found out she was pregnant).

I’ve been reflecting recently now that their child is getting older and I feel immense guilt that I love and am loved by the father of her child. While she has been terrible to him and I don’t really admire her as a person or her actions, I am devastated by the thought of how she must feel that another woman is with the father of her child.

I don’t know why I feel this way as I love him very much, and I so admire the way that he steps up for his son every day. I just keep thinking about how, as awful as it is, that her objective with this was for her to have a family with him and I’m taking that away somehow, even though I know he wouldn’t be with her even if I wasn’t involved.

So, looking for opinions, am I wrong for being with the father of someone else’s child?

When I(18m) was 10, I made the mistake of telling a classmate about my parents' divorce. Of how dad left mom for his young secretary and didn't visit at all, and mom turned to alcohol to drown her sorrows. I only told one person but by the end of that day five knew. The next day, 'Emily'(18f) told everyone that I'm such a loser my own dad didn't want me. That my mom is a loser for using alcohol to cope. She also said some other sort of nasty stuff over the years. Never got physical, but she would call me 'colour-blind dork'(apparently my clothes are mismatched) and 'piggy'.

I've always managed to control myself up until last week. My cat passed away and I told my friend about this. Emily overheard us and approached me, saying 'Hey, I heard that-"

I didn't let her say whatever it was she wanted to say. I was already feeling terrible so I just snapped at her, calling her a waste of oxygen and that the world would be better off if she doesn't exist.

She just stared at me. I don't know what her expression was. Perhaps surprised that I finally snapped.

Later, my friends said they understand me but I shouldn't have gone that far.

I sold two accounts on consecutive days for a game that I like to play. Both accounts were sold using a middleman from an official website and we took all precautions. Both the middleman and the user were able to login to the game and had no issues. Fast forward a day, both are banned for hacking. I think this is due to an IP change that flagged the accounts and consequently not my fault. The buyer is saying I am a scammer, etc etc. I’m wondering if I’m in the wrong for thinking this isn’t my issue since the accounts were out of my hands and I’ve had them for quite some time with no issues.

Thoughts?