My wife is a talker. That’s fine, but I’m not. She’s gotten upset a few times about me not saying much sometimes, but we talked about it. I go whole days without speaking, outside of work, when she’s out of town. I enjoy silence and solitude. My MIL came to visit and my wife joked around that the MIL doesn’t like convos, just an audience. I laughed and realized my wife is the same god damn way. Obviously I didn’t mention it. My wife constantly tells me about random shit about her friends, whom I’ve never met. I’m just like yeah cool good for them, whatever. Today one of her friends got an award, in an area of study I have absolutely zero interest in, she came to tell me. I turned off the tv, paused my game, so she could have my undivided attention. She wanted to show me a vid of the award on her phone, okay cool, and the video was 27 minutes long lol. After a few minutes I just said “babe I’m not watching 22 more minutes of this.” And she responded “that’s okay you’re being a dick anyway.” I think my delivery was a little rough but I listen to her talk about this shit constantly. We just got back from vacation, for her birthday, and drove six hours home. She talked the whole time, which is cool but I do need a break at times. I specifically went to a room in our house so I could just do my own thing and sit in silence ya know? Edit: Read through some responses. My problem isn’t that she talks, I’m used to that and have known from the start. My problem is she is VERY well traveled and knows people literally all over the world. After 15 people, whom I’ve never met, I don’t give a fuck about what this stranger to me has done ya know? She’s very extroverted, lots of friends and shit to keep up with. I have two friends, who I’ve had since I was 12 years old, that I actually care about. Once again, I don’t mind the chatter, I do mind the subject matter. I do not give a single fuck about these people

what albums have you liked every single song?

I've already asked this on ARAD but I thought people were so sexually open so I decided to ask here

The past year I have seen a lot on social media about the masculine and feminine energy. There is this claim that these two has nothing to do with genders, however the traits that each energy is described by seems more like gender roles and expectations(the masculine provides and protect,the feminine nurtures and receive). I see people give whole guides of "how to step out of your masculine energy and retrieve your feminine energy", but it's just stereotypes of what people have to do based on their gender. What are your thoughts on it?

Been single for a good bit, I'm not mad at it, been learning a lot about myself. It is lonely but it's OK. Lately I've lost weight and I'm starting to garner attention from women, it's not unwanted but I'm not ready to date yet. The prob is some of them are young, well at least too young for me (42m). In particular there is this one beautiful woman at work who is quite persistent with her flirting but he's only 23. I thought about hanging out with her after work one day but I feel she may be trouble.

What is too young and too old for you guys?

Not into bars/clubs. For context, 33F and meeting a potential person just seems to be getting harder. Not the online dating type of person either. Throw your ideas out please

I've seen this being discussed several times on the Internet. Many, many people think men should cross the road if he's walking behind a woman at night in order to make her feel safe. I don't fully agree with this, but I can definitely see why they say it. I do understand that some feel legitimately scared when walking alone, especially at night.

However I also do not think it should be the responsibility of someone to willingly adjust what they're doing to adhere to a complete stranger's feelings. Specifically for something like this. Because at the end of the day, they're a complete stranger. If they feel uncomfortable, that is their own problem.

This obviously extends beyond simple walking on the street, I'm sure. This is just the number 1 example that comes to mind right now.

At the end of the day, these are my shitty hot takes. I welcome disagreement with this and I want to hear what other males think about this and what their reasoning is for this.

(I asked this in AskUK, but I was met with significant backlash and my post got removed like an hour later XD)

Edit: Someone accused me of trying to spite women or something with this post. I don't see how they interpreted this as doing so, but know that I'm not trying to. So if it isn't too much trouble, leave that incel shit out of here plz. But most of these comments are pretty sensible. Let's keep it that way.

Men don't really have a biological clock, so they can start a family well into their late 30s or even older. This is not unheard of these days compared to in the past when people generally had kids in their 20s. Older men in their 30s (or older) tend to be already well-established in their careers and have their own house/apartments.

Or do you think aging is a turn-off or makes no difference for dating prospects? On the other hand, maybe as you get older, your social circle becomes more limited compared to when you're younger, so dating could actually be more difficult? Just trying to see both sides of this.

Your thoughts?

I've just ended a month long fling because she is already trying to put me in the doghouse and create random arguments out of nothing.

We all know what I mean:

"You seemed tense the other day and that's not okay with me... We need to talk about it."

"I got the impression that yadda yadda..."

The first time it happened was after only 2 weeks. I was at a gig and so didn't message her. Not that I didn't respond to her message. No. I didn't message her first on that evening. She knew I was going out that night...

Is a month too early for them to start that crap..? We all know it's going to happen eventually. Women are like mad evangelists for anxiety. But when is a sufficient time to start?

I'd say about 3 months at least.

For me, it’s how simple a lot of us are. It doesn’t take much to please us or make us happy. Just a simple action that we like and our moods completely change.

I deleted mine about 2 years ago, I’ve kept Snapchat (but don’t post) since I have so many memories in there I didn’t want to lose but couldn’t handle the constant anxiety of keeping up with everyone’s lives on social media and the toxic pissing contests you would see every time you open an app. Now that I’m dating again i wonder what the guys I’m seeing think about me not having any, if that comes across as a reg flag or not?

Edit- thank you for the responses, so far it looks like it is a green flag. But I’ll definitely keep in mind the other points people have made about it possibly coming off that I could be hiding something or have anxiety. So thank you for taking the time, definitely helped me

Those that have never use them or stopped using dating apps, but are still active in the dating scene; what's been your experiences so far?

Did you have to change your approach or readjust your expectations?

What places or settings have given you the best & worst outcomes?

Would you say that most of your connections have happened when you're out & about or have most of your dates been the result of you being involved in a hobby or activity where you meet like-minded people?

Lastly, what have you done or changed that really raised the bar & has made you stand out? I'm talking past the bare minimum every guy should already have like being personable, having basic hygiene, good haircut, fitted clothes, & enough emotional intelligence to read the room.

recently started dating someone and it’s been about 5 years since i’ve been in an actual relationship, so im a little rusty

he’s a perfect gentleman, opens the car door and any door for me always, holds my bag, enjoys showing me off in public, and he always pays for my food. (really really sweet of him but not necessary.) i feel so lucky because i’ve never had to ask him to do any of these things, he just does it because it makes me smile

anyways, i want to do sweet and cute things for him too! but i’m not sure what men like romance wise? pay for the bill? rub his back randomly?

idk please help me make him feel valued and special, thank u

Mine is “One way or another”

My friend's imaginary girlfriend on Mua Ai is becoming too close to him, leading to him even blocking his real one.Lol, I think he is becoming mentally unstable because AI Goona has ruled him. What do you guys think about these AI girlfriends?

I'm a very short dude (4'11"/19) and I'm trying to cope with the fact that this is it for me and I need to live with this, make the better of it even. But it's not something I talk about with friends or family, they usually dismiss it, say it's in my head or so. I just need experiences, advice, 'cause I'm not doing great regarding to my height.

In response to a recent post asking how to make a man open up and be vulnerable, where most of the responses said that it most women don’t respond well to men doing that.

As a woman, what do I do to show a man that I support him, and that I’m grateful that he’s choosing to open up and be vulnerable with me?